I Know My Ex Is Never Coming Back (Many Are Wrong)

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I ditched my avoidant girlfriend the first time she shut down emotionally for the first time. Zero tolerance for that sort of nonsense I'm afraid, way too secure, bounadries way too strong.
Weird breaking up with someone after a near perfect 3 months together, not even a single cross word between us, it was awesome.
I never for a moment expected she would gravitate back under any circumstances because with me she knows she would have no choice but to face up to herself. Avoidants don't tend to do that.
Even if she comes back I almost certainly wouldn't be bothered now anyway, even if by some miracle she took personal responsibility. I just can't be bothered. People like that need at least 5 years of dedicated therapy. My life is too good for this kind of nonsense, I'm here learning how to identify them at the start, that's actually really difficult, they hide it well for a time.

I literally just can’t do it anymore…Life sucks.

Why would i want my ex back?! What i want back is my mental health and ability to trust women

17 months and still nothing. before somebody goes saying I need to move on, you have no idea just how hard I've tried to do exactly that. That's the stupidest thing you could ever say literally nobody chooses to feel this way and if I had any other option I would feel different. I've tried several therapists, acupuncture, I've even been in two other short relationships. Everything there is to try I've tried. This is horrible

Still trying to be strong it’s been one year already. I hope one day he’ll come back

Here's a good news story. They came back.....but they blew it because THEY hadn't changed. All they did was get into a rebound that failed. Most times it's the Dumper that doesn't change. Please be balanced.

Going on a year. But she still wears a ring I bought her and she has a lot of my things at her house

Yea mine ain’t ever coming back to much damage

I foolishly broke NC after 102 days because my ex and I spotted each other at the park from afar, and she simply waved at me and walked the other direction. (I was walking in the park with a female friend fyi) — I was too stunned to wave back, so I broke NC and texted my ex the next day to explain and apologize, hoping it would lead to a rekindling conversation.

Instead, I got neutral, 24-hr delayed, nice/very friendly text replies that indicated to me that she wasn't interested in reconnecting romantically and was trying to text me in a friendzone way, which re-opened up my pain & hurt that I had just spent the last 102 days in NC trying to heal

I regret breaking NC now that I see how it played out and I now have to start my NC over from scratch. And thus will be booking a virtual call with Coach Craig once I save up some money 🙏🏽

We were together just shy of a year. It's been 4 years w/ zero contact and he is now engaged to the rebound. 😢 The only thing is he views my social media page multiple times per day every single day & we are not even connections on there. So idk what to think 💔

4 months in NC. It’s so hard

what if your ex is pregrnet by her rebound

So you say that they will or at least there's a high likelihood they'll be back. But then you reinforce the idea that they won't. That's why we do the work cause then we'd be able to blow someone else away. Why would someone say that their ex isn't going to be back? Mine hasn't.

The best mindset is fuck them. Make yourself into the person you were working towards, which will happen even faster without them dragging you down. They will feel the loss and maybe if they come back begging, you'll possible guve them a chance.
Avoidants are not worth the hassle

How can you take someone back after ) months. By that time the feelings are almost gone. Seems like it would be too late by that time.

I been working on myself I bumped into him he told me to move on I deserve a nice guy and he needs to work on himself 6 years together we had an amazing relationship all because we had a fight he let it go avoidant he said he is numb what then?

No its too late now i`m already seeing a new gurl the ex-girlfriend is just a memory

5mos post discard by text. 8 yrs gone. Shes never coming back. Had new supply.

Everyone might think this including Me
I will bet money He won’t come back , in fact a friend and I do have a bet that He will or won’t contact Me again
I’ll win, He won’t

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So what, hope never see her again

Well i knw she wont come back broke uo 2 weeks ago after 9 years mostly my fault an im changin n workin on the but shes already said to move on so she can so ..harder cos she was the was the one who asked to marry me ... she jus walked out on me with out a word jus a txt when she got to her mums... do i keep no contact as we have a child 6 yr old an we txt regardin him. Nothing else .. i guess its time to let go n move on.. she will never give me a second change we hardly spent a day aprt in 9yrs. What do i do ?

My wife and I had a baby and that’s when she went downhill and separated (not legally) and it’s been since Nov 26, and not sure how to do NC when we have an 8th month old daughter. She is being completely ignoring of me and my feelings. She avoids the conversation and says “I don’t have the energy for this” and now I don’t bring it up, but when we go out I make her laugh and have a great time with our daughter.

Im only 2 wks into No Contact. Have been here before and watched Craigs videos. I was an improved ME for this relationship. But we were opposites where communication was key. 3 times in an 11 month relationship we broke up for afew days, only to get back together. She has a weight issue...saying if she gained 3 stone i wouldn't find her desirable or want to have sex as much. I said, im in love with YOU...whether you lost a leg or gained weight, im in love with YOU. Im so shocked at her ended what was such a loving and wonderful 11 months. I had issues of my own...like not feeling i deserved happiness and slightly ruining perfect weekends away like Lake District and London. But there is such a strong bond. Im now back running and exercising. I have a wonderful family, my own home and great job. More importantly...i know my self worth. I havent reached out and im taking this time to try and love myself more. From all of us Craig....a big thankyou for your videos and guidance. You have helped so many people. Jamie

Me and ex that dated for a year.l talked after a month of NC. I reached out. We got into it. Cause she said that she was out of the relationship four prior to making it official. Felt used after all the things I did for her in those four months.

She said that she’s still attracted to me but I’m not her person because we’re not on the same page (she want me to propose to her within that yr and I need at least two yrs). She can’t express how really feels towards me. Skip it, then answer another question I asked. She said that she wants to be “platonic” when she trying to heal her mental health and be alone. I turned down that offer and went NC again.

Getting stronger every day. Working out 5 xs a week. Eating right. Therapy twice a week. I got this.

me too I don't believe on that test.. different situation. I listen to you.. about working out my ex.. based on psychological..

I don't think she's coming, and that's alright. It's her loss anyway. I surrendered and accepted the situation

I’ve given up on life. I just have no fight left

I hope you guys can rub this in my face one day down the line months from now or years but my ex is NEVER coming back! She told me she never goes back to an Ex once she breaks up with them. And also wrote me and told me she is never coming back. So im just saying. Been 2.5 months and she started a rebound relationship the same week we broke up. Been in no contact for probably 1.5 months although she reached out one time to basically see if i was waiting on her. Haven't heard from her in over a month now and she said she shouldn't have contacted me and apologized. That was it. I blew my opportunity. I didnt study enough.

The one you want to come back never do. The ones that you don’t do.

I removed her from my socials the day she started ghosting me (i know, childish). The next day I was admitted to the hospital for 5-days with a few medical conditions. I texted and called her, no response. It's been 2-months now. The fact that she didn't contact me after that just shows that I mean nothing to her. In other words, I know it in my heart that she's gone for good. I still wish her well. But wow, just like that, she's gone. It hurt more than I can put into words. It's a shame cos it would've been a 1-year relationship with her this month. Only god knows how much I loved her.

Mine filed for divorce...pretty sure she's not coming back

We gotta get some you some podcast quality sound on these kids!

i know mine isn't coming back. it's our second breakup. he dumped me and blocked me from everything. it hurts a lot

Where to buy your book sir? Thank you

In no contact.. he’s too embarrassed to come back for the ish he did.. it’s his ego and pride

I love how you and Victoria balance each other. There’s work chemistry (if there’s anything like that lol) point is, Craig has the logical-factual-slightly cutthroat approach and Victoria has that empathetic-factual-relatable-grounded perspective.

Hey Coach. My ex reached out to me during NC and we spoke a few times but things are not going anywhere. It was just like how are you and stuffs like that. Now it's been 1 week since we have communicated. What to do in such case?

He's been silent for a long time but I just have a strange hunch I haven't seen the last of him.

It’s about 9 months since my ex suddenly walked out and then ghosted me. We were together 5 years and she was the love of my life. She agreed to meet me one month after she had left, after ignoring / ghosting me. Then when we met handed me a contract to sign and told me it was over. No explanation. She went back to ghosting me. I let her collect her things from the house over 4 weeks when I was out. When she came to collect the last of her things I was home and confronted her and asked to talk. She just told me she wasn’t respected, and kept laughing in my face, as I was in tears. I have never loved or respected someone as much as her, and never will again because I am broken. I think about ending my life, because I can’t live with these thoughts anymore.

@Coach Craig
See if you can solve this one please

I had a scare with cervical cancer, as you can imagine how scared I was. So, I emailed my ex . I just wanted to make peace between us because every time I would see him in public, his vibes were very negative towards me. He's with someone; they have been together for almost 4 years. Just the other day, I made an Instagram page for my band, and in no time, I discovered that I was blocked. He told me that there was peace between us in his last email. What in the heck is going on with him? Do you have any ideas, Coach Craig?

it hurts so bad, will be 6 months since we last spoke on march 1st i just wanna give up

I’ve done no contact for 1 year and still nothing I think there not gonna come back….

That is pretty much exactly true it is repeating behavior patterns.

Fearful avoidant people fear abandonment and commitment hence that's why the married affair partner isn't going to release the marriage until they monkey branch into the new relationship.

(This is also true with dismissive avoidant personality type people as well)

Dismissive avoidant personality type people have a fear of commitment with an underlying fear of abandonment but keep the fear of abandonment hidden except for when they have affairs.

A secure attachment personality type person doesn't have a fear of abandonment they just end the relationship and or marriage no problem.

Very important to recognize the four attachment nersonalitv stvles in existence every single person fits into one of the four categories:

1. Pre Occupied Anxious Attachment Personality
Style stands for I'm afraid of abandonment and I second guess myself. I can't make it on my own and I'm a people pleaser and I let people walk all over me as long as they don’t leave me alone. Some people refer to me as an empath without healthy boundaries.


2. Secure Attachment Personality Style stands for I’m okay being on my own, I'm okay being in a relationship as well. I don't experience anxiety or fear from being single and I don't experience fear or anxiety from being in a relationship. I'm a healthy minded adult that knows how to enter and exit a relationship safely. People refer to me as an empath with healthy boundaries.

3. Fearful Avoidant Attachment Personality Style stands for I'm scared to be alone sometimes and I'm afraid to commit sometimes. I'II be into you one minute and interested in someone else the next minute and interested in someone else the next minute. People refer to me as covert and sometimes overt narcissists.

4. Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Personality
Style stands for I didn't get my emotional needs met in childhood. I had to self sooth myself and I got used to doing that. I am not changing for you or anyone else. I have a fear of commitment with an underlying fear of abandonment but I will never show you or anyone my fear of abandonment side. I put myself out there as an independent person that needs no one. Some refer to me as the covert narcissist.

The only attachment style that won't engage in an affair would be a secure attachment personality style person.

Find out who you're dating but DO NOT TRY TO CHANGE THEM OR FIX THEM, THAT ISN'T YOUR JOB.


Let them be their authentic self so you'll know they're capable of in their future not yours.

Once you find out if they aren't secure attachment personality style, you know what to do.

Now you know they are capable of engaging in affairs, it's up to you if you want to invest your time money emotions your life into that.

Some people are assets and some are liabilities or bills.

If you know they're authentically a secure person by themselves you won't have to worry about them having an affair.

There, just saved you time energy and money and emotional agony. You're welcome 😁

Update: 2 days ago, i said that i know my ex is not coming back, and the surprise was that she unblocked me the same day i said that in the comments.Believe it or not, but that just happened 2 days ago. i got unblocked after 7 months of being blocked, and she did send me a message, but i didn't replied because i was also blocking her at the same time

My ex is in rebound and I am in no contact slowly coming in on 4th month
I really doubt she will ever come back

I went no contact with mine in September and went on with my life with a great mindset of healing and just simply moving on to new things. Right before Christmas he slipped a card and note in my mailbox. I was shocked. I guess he found a way to be able to reach out and test the waters (the cat 🤣). We have been talking ever since. He said every single day he thought about me and wondered how my day was going. Craig you are correct Sir!