2 Be Better Podcast Episode #24

a cracker tattoo?????!!!!!!!

The unmotivated

My ex was a workless person for sure. All he talked about was how he would do things so much better than everyone else but could never muster up the energy or will to try. Very unattractive and pathetic to talk shit on people that are braver than you, put in effort, and have something to show for it.

Chris - please look into a sleep study for that breathing thing, if it's only happening when you're laying flat on your back it could be a sign of sleep apnea. I lost my uncle this way - and started researching the signs. It might not be that, but I would rather yall waste a night getting a study done, and end up being fine, than not say anything. My partner recently went through a sleep study and he was having 98 apnea episodes an hour. It made a huge difference in our life.

Also Peaches - the high-risk pregnancies and bed rest really gave me the "I've been lazy my entire existence" too.

We love the bluntness. Y'all are great.

What about unoccupied? I think we could have a phrase like ' better than unoccupied ' Sorry for double comments, was doing housewifey stuff <3

This video Literally just boosted my ego and made me push myself at work today even more because I realize I am at fault for some of these things as well. I also had a discussion with my boyfriend about it and it felt so relieving to talk about and makes me feel more connected with him. Also shows I am more aware and I want to implement changes into my lifestyle more than just our relationship.

I told my best friend last night how y'all are saying its a choice, and she was definitely shutting me down nicely..idk how it doesn't make sense to other people

"Chad"
Can't
Handle
Any
Difficulty
Chads are everywhere.
Just a thought for a title for the workless

Holy crap. I was with the workless for 5years. 😢 So glad I got out and am thriving now. Marriage is getting the help it needs thanks to HEARING, IMPLEMENTING & ADAPTING what I get from you both!!❤

What is name of book?

hey i’m a little new here! i like listening to the podcast because it really helps me with insight on my relationship at 19.
i’m a person of the LGBTQ+ community and i was wondering if they have ever read any emails from queer couples.

In that final email, where you all were giving advice to the woman whose husband is dealing with a work related back injury, telling that man "stop being the victim and get a passive income" is precisely why men kill themselves. That attitude is probably why this man is depressed. You put so much unnecessary value on monetary things when the more likely reality is this man is in excruciating pain, unable to help his wife with the simple things like getting items off the top shelf and he feels like less of a man. But yeah great advice "stop playing the victim." 🙄

Furthermore, if he is dealing with a workers compensation like claim he is not able to have any sort of income or he will lose any and all benefits he's getting from his work.


Perhaps some better advice would have been "find things around the house that he is able to do, so that he does not feel worthless and applaud him when he does these things."

Workless should be called barnacles, such an accurate metaphor for their inner nature.

You should call me a lich.

I don’t dress up for nails only cuz I get that dust on me and I wear a lot of black and I feel like even when I brush it off and stuff it’s still there so I’ll dress bummy for that sometimes depends on person and place (not arguing just wanted to put in a different point 😊)

You guys are putting out such great information and it's so refreshing to see a couple who treats each other with so much care and respect. My bf and I feel the same as you on a lot of topics and I've tried showing him your content, but both times I have it just happened to be the episodes where you guys are talking dirty to each other. It really put us both off and I'm pretty bummed. Hearing peaches call Chris daddy after all the talks about porn, privacy and 9yo listeners, it just doesn't sit well. I know you don't care and these are just your unfiltered conversations, but it just isn't for me anymore. You content has always been a great reminder for me to continue to work on myself and I appreciate the book recommendations to help with that. Good luck with everything guys!

I’ve always thought of it as “useless” but I don’t think that’s the one. I bet JP could come up with something profound.

I started following the photographers on TikTok for boudoir pics at home. Started taking their advice. I’ve now booked and completed/paid for 2 sessions with 2 different photographers.

I try to let my man always do the car maintenance for us because it gives him a sense of pride to take care of something for me. I am always working on my single friends vehicles. I think it's better to let him have the win than to try fight his energy to provide in any way.

I absolutely adore that you keep your flirting & flustered moments in when you can because it’s such an inspiration to see your chemistry in a long term relationship. In my previous relationships I had gotten to a point where I started seeing sex/physical intimacy/flirting as an obligation to my boyfriends and it stopped being fun to me. The way you treat each other reminds me of why the honeymoon phase is so fun and I’m actively trying to flirt with my fiancé in more ways. It’s been so fun to find new opportunities to physically engage and he’s already enthusiastic about this increase in affectionate/intimate behavior! 😁

I am super late but i think "the still" "the stagnant" "the frozen" "the magnet on the fridge"... eh i could go on

Stay at home mom here, and I can absolutely tell you that staying in comfy clothes and looking a mess has completely contributed to my depression. Getting dressed for the day, before doing anything else, really helped to get me back to a better state of mind. It's easier to love myself and therefore easier to love my man properly.

I got it done. Love it!

9line FTW

I'm not paying my cable and internet bill tomorrow. I'm so sick to my stomach because I have a workless male living with me. I have to get rid of him.

“This is why you should listen to our podcast more than once” you’re soooo right. Idk why I never took notes esp when Chris says he takes notes while reading or listening to books. BRB starting on EP 1 again

The warmth and sincerity of the swooning, affection, and affirmation you show for each other, brings me to your content more than any other aspect. Its funny, and endearing, as well as wholesome and gratifying to see! Not to disregard the advice you both bring to the discussions you have. I find myself challenged and humbled by your content, and hope it continues for as long as you're both happy and comfortable doing it! God bless!

Believe me, I do go back and listen more than once. I also take notes. Sometimes when I want something to fall asleep to I'll put on an older episode and let that gold sink into my subconscious while I fall asleep 😂😂

Love the show. I dig the t-shirts. Just ordered a few. Listening to you both almost daily now. Thank you for everything. Your conversations are helping me find the strength to initiate long overdue and difficult conversations with my spouse.

i did my job i'm sorry it took so long... lol.. i liked the episode and hit the bell

VIEWMASTER ! Its a viewmaster haha

I love this podcast❤

I think a human void would fit well for wordless....its a person that can only take and does not provide anything in return and just exists while being fed by the universe or expecting to be fed by the universe

Wow, this makes a lot of sense now, I was with a workless. Thank you for reading it.

Workless, some of that sounds a lot like my husband. Over the past year and a half he's had 4 jobs. The longest he has held one has been 2 years. He's beem fired from 3 of the jobs in the past few years. Mostly all of it due to attendance, he just didnt want to go, there was always an excuse, sometimes he would even say he was staying home to "help me" but then spend 90% of the day on the couch. I'm a sahm as we have four young children, one of which is autistic, so he didnt have the choice but to find another job . It wasn't like this at first, or more than likely I just didnt see it, it started after I had our second daughter. He has a good job now and I pray that he keeps it. I have been the one trying my best to manage our finances and it has gotten so hard that I just cry in the shower every time he gets paid because the stress is too much. I'm trying very hard to not be negative with him, to be encouraging, to be a good wife. I am battling my depression every day as I feel like I am just waiting for the other shoe to drop. Every phone call on the way home I am scared he's going to tell me he has been fired. The resentment for everything our family has been put through is very hard to overcome. Do you have any advice on how I can be more supportive and encouraging so he will continue to do well?

Before I was a parent I worked for temp agencies. Did jobs that had time limits on then. 4 weeks. 2 months, 2 weeks, whatever the job needed. There was 1 job that needed 6 weeks but we all moved so quick we got ahead of schedule and finished in 3

A workless person is like gimcrack cookware

Gimcrack-flimsy or poorly made but deceptively attractive

😂 My husband does the weird breathing thing too

Wasp for a nonworking person because a wasp only does something if it benefits them

I am a blue collar woman, and when me and my man are home, i am in my feminine. He takes care of all the blue jobs at home, and GOD does it make me feel good to be home

What book was she reading from?

where the link for thebook

At the 1 hour mark, i went and bought the hard copy of the book.
(Yes, i used your link).
I fully intend to read this once my semester has concluded. I am studying psychology and am highly interested in this topic and have also been implimenting extreme accountability into my life thanks to you guys. Its really made a difference. Thank you.

I tell my boyfriend that I get dressed up to be his hot girlfriend. I want everyone to know he has a hot ol lady

The way you guys are and interact with each other is extremely heartwarming. I'm glad I came back. I fell off after initially finding you guys in the midst of being with a workless. Now I'm in a good relationship and started back up with you guys. Using your advice as a playbook to make this relationship stay good. I acknowledge my flaws and am making changes off things you guys have made me realize in myself. Stay at it ❤