2 Be Better Podcast Episode #13

I’d rather be called beautiful than a good mother because I don’t plan on having children

Hey yall so just to answer yall kill my phone 3 times in a day I start listening at 630 am and and stop when I get home at 730pm every work day yall help me drowned out my work stress thank yall so much

I would much rather be told that I am a good mother, because even though I don’t currently have kids of my own, I am always worried about making sure I am a good mom to my kids and to make sure they have the best lives they can get. I can also be told I’m beautiful by anyone, plus looks don’t last forever, but the affect you have on your kids as their parent does, and I want nothing more than to make sure my kids always feel loved, wanted and safe and that they grow up to be good people who make a significant contribution to society

And now your at a mil only 3 months later on tiktok chris ❤ you guys deserve it 😁

R u still taking emails as of 7/16/2023 ??

SO I am new to watching all of your podcasts and currently catching up on all of them BUT I was curious if I have to join the Patreon or YT sub to get the check ins? im curious for the kiddo and the partner ones... where would I be able to find them?

YOU CAN BUILD IT, WE CAN HELP!!!!

I love how her mind works, and how open she is about it. I'm on the same page as she is it's a whole vibe. Thank you guys for these podcasts.

Being thanked for "simple" things. The best thing.

I told my husband when we bought our house and I had my own kitchen. I love cooking. Food is love to me. I want critique on my dishes and feedback on how to improve meals. But whether or not you fully enjoy it, please just say thank you for dinner. Because just that little gratitude means the world to me. We have been in our house now for 5 years and anytime I've made any meal, he make sure to thank me after he clears the table. Nothing in the world feels better than appreciation

And as of today 1.1 million!!! 😮😂

In regards to the opening question, I’d rather be told I’m beautiful. I know I’m a good mom. I know I’m doing the best I can by my son. But the changes pregnancy made to my body and mind have been really hard to deal with. Going from 6’1, 145 lbs, a tiny waist and small bitties. Now I’m 170+, stretched out, bloated. Lefty is sagging a good inch lower than righty. And I know my boyfriend is still attracted to me and wants me, but sometimes I look at myself and just feel disgust.

Poodles are hypoallergenic because they have hair, not fur. As a bonus, because they have hair they don't shed!!

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The two types of shower sweat is wild but true 😂😂❤

I would rather be told that I’m a good mother, because one of my main goals in life is to be a better mother than I had. To stop the generational bull crap and just be the mom that I wish I had had when I was a kid. And because that is like probably one of the best compliments I could ever get. He and I know that my man thinks I’m beautiful. For similar reasons, like peaches said. I can see it in the way he looks at me. And he tells me daily and often times it’s at the most random moments. Like the other day, I was wearing bellbottoms leggings, and one of his bag he sweatshirts, and his very large oversized slides, and we were just walking, and he was like you look really beautiful, and I was like really? Because it would never occurred to me that I did because of what I was wearing. And then I wear that for the rest of the day.😂

Granted I’m not a mother yet. Maybe my perspective will change. I definitely get the beautiful one though. Especially as someone that has self esteem and image issues.

ive never loved you both more 😂😂😂

Your podcasts are my go-to when I start spiraling. You help remind me to get my ass in gear, and work on myself.

Hi, slowly catching up on the podcasts haha
Firstly, I wanna say thank you both for continuing to do what you do, I know you have had a lot of success so far with this podcast, and I am trying to share it with everyone I know. My partner would say I'm obsessed with you two but I always tell him that's not necessarily true. I am obsessed with learning and growing to be better in my life for myself and my partner. I do adore you both, however <3

To answer Chris' question: I'd rather be called a good mother.

All of my kids are not biologically mine, but I treat them as if they were my own. They are my partners children from previous relationships (3 in total, only 2 with visitation).
I hold motherhood to a high standard, because of my own mom. Though she did come with some curses of her own that I'm trying not to implement in my adult life, she was a wonderful mother. She was my grandmother, raising me from the day I was born to the day she died, due to her daughter getting pregnant at 16. She took on the roles of Grandmother, Mother & Father to raise a child that wasn't hers. She lost her husband, my Opa, when I was 4 years old. Even after becoming widowed, she still made sure we were taken care of. She spent most of her life, due to being born in the 50's, trying to prove her abusive father wrong that she would only ever do a "woman's job". She became an entrepreneur and by the time I was 15, she successfully ran and operated 3 businesses.
She still showed up as a mom, too. She ran all of those businesses while fighting and beating breast cancer, and simultaneously struggling with me in the hospital with a spinal infection at age 10. She was a teacher, going as far as buying school books and studying them herself so that she could efficiently teach me after years of struggles with the public school. I got hands on learning and experience with plumbing, and building/fixing computers. She taught me how to take care of my hair, teeth and skin. She taught me about the dreaded mensies, and how to dress nice. She taught me what family Should look like, even though ours didn't look the same. She presented every single person with kindness, class and generosity, even if they had done her wrong and even if they were family. A lot of times it was both. She had the most patience of anyone I have met in my short 28 years of life. She had strong faith in God, and she knew where she would go when she passed. She stayed strong when it was hard to be strong. We used to say "Get tough" when things were hard and we had no choice but to buckle up or bow down. Now as an adult, even though she's been gone since I was 17, I'm still learning from her. I equate that to being a good mother, and if I'm even half as good as she was and someone acknowledges that... I'll be crying, too. <3
Love you guys, thanks for reading the long comment.

A good mother

Yep. I'm still trying to convince my man to let me lick his eye ball...only place I haven't licked 😂😂

Are those shirts yet?? "I'm the home depot of communication"
"I've got the tools but you gotta build that shit!"

I've been asked by someone if they could pick my brain....and I was not in a relationship with them...😅

When you all were talking about haveing her just talk to animals and she said what she said....inwas thinking bout a dog being like "ball...balll...where is my ball? Oh she said rope!! I have that!"

I know you two are talking about relationships between spouses but this helps me identify my issues and disconnection with one of my sons, Fahq it’s me 😢 I tend to be passive or hostile by going off on him when he doesn’t meet my expectations. I get annoyed and disconnected that he’s a people pleaser because I used to be and now see it as a manipulation tactic due to fear; but he is because he has 2 messed up emotionally immature parents that don’t know how to properly communicate with him.

love it i woke up to tis podcast playing on my laptop lol u guys suprised me. thought it was just a ego podcast of two know it alls but you got me when you mentioned teenage girls relating sex to love. abuse does that for sure... no bodys ever called that out like that and in a way u just helped me bandage a part of my past. not all of it but the empathy helps! merci

very true about the open relationship so funny when men get resentful and jealous meanwhile theyre flailing around also hahahaha

"you goofy man" hahaha yuuuuup RIP the last time ill ever entertain that b.s. with somebody , total nightmare LOL lots of broken things. hearts included

Hearing I’m a good mother speaks on my quality of character. Calling me beautiful is cosmetic.

lol I’m literally watching yall while I work

Id rather be told I'm a good mother, beauty can flee, taking care of my children and being a steward of the children God gave is is very important

You just said you wondering if it was worth it. I thank God yall have keep doing this! My marriage is not perfect but we are definitely on our way 2 BE BETTER!!

Consider me influenced, in the best way. Thank you for doing what you do.

I would absolutely play peaches for my dog and 2 cats all day long!!! Please make a continuous video for this!!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

Omg ❤ I love that peaches would have wanted a baby around Halloween! My son's original due date was ON Halloween of 2022, but he decided to come 6 days early!
To top it off, I named him SAGE! I tell people I use him to repel the demons around Halloween time 😂

I know this won't be seen, and that is okay. I just wanted to share. At the beginning of a relationship, I messed up and didn't vocalize I wouldn't be okay with a third person and then behind my back, she became a second girlfriend for my boyfriend. And when I lashed out, I became the bad guy. Even though, when I did try to vocalize my concerns and discomforts, they were ignored by both parties. It hurt. I feared him leaving even though he admitted after the blow up he wasn't that heavily into me. I've realized after all of that I should have spoke up. We both should have been more open and honest with our conversations.

A werewolf mask 🤣😂 hilarious

I absolutely love y'all. I have been binge listening to y'all from the beginning. Love the laughs 😂

And now they're at 200k+ 🎉

I want the home depot shirt 🧡

I'd rather be called good mother because I get shown that in different ways in my life and I know that I I'm a good mother also I love when people notice the nurturing side of me

These people have alot of self control and they can't figure out how to cuss