What Drives Over Functioning - ANXIETY!Anjie Bond & Mark Smith

Very interesting video... I think of Overfunctioning like when someone I love is feeling upset or angry at me over something, and I feel like I have to do WHATEVER IT TAKES to ease that, immediately. I'll take on all blame, all shame, anything, in the hopes that they will get over it. I try to tell myself it is to help them, but really it is to help myself. It is because of my own inner neediness. That goes with Anxiety, like you guys are talking about. I was trained to be that way by my Narc mom, but as an adult, it's on me to try to stop that behavior.

"Being with the wrong people at the wrong time for the wrong reasons" - that strikes me hard. Even as a supposedly responsible adult, I have hung out with people and done things I know I shouldn't, and didn't even know why I was doing it. It's like, "Do I really need friends that badly? Am I that needy?" But thinking about that too much makes me spiral into the feeling of shame.

Mark Smith, could you do a video about passive aggressive people? I searched your videos and found a few, but I would be interested in going more in-depth. Like how passive aggressive people have high needs of control. And why being passive aggressive works to control highly sensitive people. Thanks!

This is something that I've done, and recently realized that I was doing this ... It sounds like we are damned forever. My family is always blamed for everything. I don't do the same things now, and have created boundaries and this has pissed my family off!