Understanding the Caregiver/little Dynamic | Loving BDSM Podcast

Purple, mermaids, and butterflies! Not so much fairies for me. But I do love sexy fae (but that's not my little side)

The nice thing about individual situations is you can mix and match your interests so two different lifestyles that both enjoy can combine in a way that works for both people which I think is lovely as long as it's safe, legal, and both parties give consent.

She talks WAAYYYYYY to fucking much.

As I’m watching... when is she going to shut the fuck up??

This video has given me understanding. Theres a guy i met 5yrs ago that immediately spoke to a much younger me & I never understood it til now. It would frustrate me so.. We've had talks about BDSM & other lifestyle choices & I was all for him becoming my DOM til i recently found out he's been in an relationship on & off for almost 20yrs. He thinks we can still proceed without his girlfriend or wife knowing & im not ok at all with that. Is it normal to run into people that want this lifestyle but want to keep it a secret? Is it frowned upon or excepted in this community. To me its up to the individuals moral compass..What do you guys think?

this is so good

The color pink, certain music, afro puffs, and horror movies and games bring out my inner little princess. Mostly the color pink and watching horror movies put me in my head space.

Bdsm Karen!!!!!

Maybe we should jump back to 2018.
Mmmm....maybe we just did! Kayla, you keep saying: "we are time travellers" in the bonus section. :-)))

You did a great job explaining here. I found my little- part in my mosaic of sides to myself....:-) Thank you!

For me, I have a different perspective on this. For those who seriously cannot help but feel small, a literal mental shift, that is age regression. When someone thinks it would be fun to express themselves and choose am age, that is age play. Finally, when one is simple and doesn't have an age, doesn't regress, and simply feel submissive and has quirks in that state that seem immature, that to me is being little.

I am little, perhaps more a middle to those who use the different and more detailed terms. I never feel a certain age or really put on a persona to express or channel any emotions. I simply become someone who becomes a bit immature, has a child-like appreciation of all the things in the world, and someone who really loves the attention of her Mommy.

This is SO TRUE! My wife called me "Daddy" for years. When she discovered her little we came out to those same friends, suddenly "Daddy" was "uncomfortable" to them. I didn't understand.

Is being a caregiver the same as ddlg

Nice video guys. The caregiver/little dynamic is something I'm beginning to explore now and this cleared a few things up for me. Much appreciated!!

I'm not a typical little either. I don't identify with a specific age or go completely there. It's so entwined with the rest of me that it's rarely separated. Discipline will hit me right in my little heart though...standing in the corner, writing lines, not allowed to read a book, etc. The absolute worst would be to tell me He's disappointed. I engage in little speak with a word here or there, in and out of my little space.

I wasn't allowed to express anger either. I was intimidated and bullied by everyone. I imagine that is what has encouraged my little to come out...when I feel comfy to do so.

here's an interesting situation. I'm a daddy dom. I've recently taken on a little/sub who has a different level of little than my current long term little/sub/wifey. So I've noticed a change in the long term individual. It's seems the level of care the new person needs is more needy/clingy. So I'm faced with how to properly care for the more needy of the two with out the other feeling neglected. It's been a lot of communication of course. But its also been fun to try and balance the interaction. Any ideas?

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Thank you ! You described and explained this topic very well. It is very relationship specific. Imo that’s what empowers kinksters to be their authentic selves in their own private relationships with discretion in public. It’s your private business not to be pushed on strangers. Hopefully I’ll be able to attend my first munch this year.

Im interested in what you think about using things like stuffies or chew stim toys (or even a pacifier) for example that people might associate as child-like or typically use in a CLG dynamic, but they use them for non-kink reasons, eg. Being autistic/adhd and using these things for comfort, stimming etc.

And also how this differs from age regression? Fair enough if you don’t feel like you are the person to answer this if this isn’t your experience, but I’m interested in how you view these things in comparison to when it’s in a kink context?

Bare in my that these people could also be in a CGL dynamic but not at the same time as age regression, and separate from their need for sensory aids/comfort items for their neurodivergence.

Interesting take on this from someone who’s not into DS at all, but I was curious about the “caregiver” dynamic. I appreciate what you said about being respectful of “vanillas.” Keep in mind, all of these phrases were rather foreign to me, but thank God Google helped clarify. You’re a cute couple & I respect everyone’s right to kink it up with consent however they want 😎