Ex Says No Chance of Getting Back Together

And I decided to give him all the space and time and leave him alone and at one I would tell him that I don’t need and he would tell me that I was very hurtful for that to him and he will tell me that I should have not said that

Coach lee thank u for trying to help me

Is it possible to get a ex husband back after 2 divorces??

It's hard when you have 5 kids together and I was trying to do this. She was emotionally cheating on me with her family friend. She would get upset with me for not calling her but I am trying to give her space. She tries to string me along with her own personal time I don't want to hurt her but she hurt me from cheating. She calls me after her work and tell me her business n venting but I just don't care. She killed it by cheating n and the resentment she has towards me . I'm giving up . I'm focused on myself and she's getting jealous when our daughter tells her about the compliments I'm getting from people especially her friends she is a narcissist

I didn’t ask. He asked me “can I make love to you please”.. and I said “if we work on our relationship, things could progress to that in the future but otherwise no.” And he said “I can only be your friend here on out” and I got pissed that he was basically trying to have sex with me while simultaneously trying to be my friend. It was terrible and I just said we can’t be friends I wish you the best and ended it.

Prior to that he was like I love you I miss you blah blah blah eh. I don’t think I wanna get back with him.

No, I don’t trust it or him.

He said after I broke no contact for 30 days. That really meant so real.

I was weak. 2 days in to NC I started to doubt if they knew I wanted to get back together and doubted who ended things cos it was almost mutual. So I reached out and have had no reply. At least now I'm certain the ball is in their court. But it hurts not to hear back. So much so that I'm thinking that even if NC works and they do reach out, I'm not totally sure what I'll do or if I'll be interested cos I can feel the attraction being lost the longer they ignore me. What should I do?

What if you were trying to get back with your ex and your anxiety made them standoffish. When I had confidence he took interest. I asked my ex if he was seeing someone 4 times over the weekend and it caused a fight this time and he said we were never getting back together and to never call him unless it’s about our daughter.

It’s interesting that he doesn’t address masculine / feminine differences.

My luck my husband is watching this as I am and we both are waiting 🤷🏻‍♀️🫣

Starting to think I found these videos to late almost been three months. At the beginning I was begging then went NC messaging yesterday ended with a thumbs up reaction from her and her saying about coming to get her stuff. I’m trying to work on myself but don’t seem to be getting anything right at the moment. Almost want to give up completely but still want her to come back

My ex told me this but she still has our photos up on her Facebook, and it’s been 3 months.

All those tips are for like relationships we're there is only the relationship at stake . Like i have a house that needs to get bought out. If she wants to break up she Cant just drag it along. And i Cant give them.the space because of it

I love you Lee ❣️

What should I do if we’re on the same phone plan and are in no contact?

I’ve been very toxic to my wife and she is now pregnant , living in another state and she has been through a lot with me and I have been through a lot with her, she said that it was best for both of us to not be together now before she said that I told her that we should just find someone else and she said that she needed more time because of the stress and anxiety that I had caused. She put a wall up and doesn’t believe that I can be the man she needs.

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Fuckin Day 30 Today!

5 years later and its still as relevant as ever. Your the real deal Coach Lee.

That was great man. Ty

Just found this video. I needed to hear this. Thank you

She said there was no feasibility but said she’d hate if we didn’t talk…

Broke no contact after 60 days , casual text but seems distant , she was cold and uninterested, after 1 day i just told her something which i need to get off my chest , about things she did wrong bcuz i accepted she's not interested anymore , yes its true , she was still the same blaming me , asking me to get on with my life

Guys goodluck with nc . Im moving on now , I'm done with this immature girl , childish and manipulator and a liar...im not taking her back I'm just done, 2months isnt enough for her stupid brain to realize her mistakes plus she surround herself with lots of friends toxic friends

My ex girlfriend broke up with me a month ago and during the break up she said a lot of things while crying and couldn't handle just being next to me, because she was hurting a lot. I started working on myself immediately, because I hated what kind of person I was and the mistakes I made... Few days later I apologized to her again, for everything I've done and she said that she doesn't know if the fate will bring us back together, but first she needs a therapy to heal from all traumas and must be willing again to be with me again, but right now she knows she definitely don't want to.
How can I interpret that? I still love her very much and I want to be with her again, but first I must work on myself, to be a better person, partner for her in the future IF we're fated to be together...

Ex reached out to today and started talking abt the relationship then said she wasn’t planning on getting back together with me even though I never said anything abt that ? What does that mean

Together for 7 years. Broke up 2 years ago. After so much back and forth, he told me he no longer wants this. He’s dating someone new.

I wish I had learned these things 4 months ago.

He said we are over for real this time, hes done this over 20 times. But yet still comes over and acts all lovey dovey towards me

Trust YOURSELF. Trust your dog. Never trust any person who hasn’t EARNED your trust, and doesn’t keep earning it EVERY DAY.

But, if you KNOW what you gave them was real - selfless, unconditional, pure, and genuine, then TRUST THAT! They WILL see. Even if they don’t choose to come back, it’s GOING to hit them, and they WILL regret it - there’s no way around it if they are any kind of decent person. You may never see it, but TRUST that you are UNFORGETTABLE; UNIQUE; SPECIAL; and that YOU are THE PRIZE!! If they choose not to remove head from ass, they lost YOU! Karma WILL get them! But…Karma will also COME TO YOU to reward you for your purity, often with someone better or, at least, a new-found strength and independence you didn’t know was possible!

Trust the process. Trust yourself. The ONLY competition out there you have for this person is with YOURSELF! NO ONE else can give them what you can!

The Christian scripture says “cast not your pearls before swine.” Now, that can be metaphor for many different things, but here, I’d say it means that YOU are the pearl - don’t give yourself to someone who isn’t worthy of your PRICELESS value!!

Been a 1 1/2 months since my ex left me. Been asking if there's someone else but can never get a straight answer. she says, "for the last time, it's not because there's someone else but because of another excuse! I do have a jealousy issue which drove us to this point. But I'm sure I'm not completely wrong in my assumptions. She's probably with another dude fornicating like we did. And she's Christian too btw.

COACH LEE PLEASE REPLY I NEED YOUR HELP PLEASE IF YOU HAVE IT IN YOUR HEART DO ME A FAVOR AND REPLY!!!! We stayed a year together over long distance (we never met yet) and i know it sounds unreasonable to love someone you’ve never met but i swear the love we had was unbelievable. The chemistry how we understood each other very well, the inside jokes the humor the calling everyday watching netflix together even trusting each other with deep and personal stuff i cant fully mention. But one day after a fight of how we couldn’t go on a trip we were supposed to have she told me i don’t want to hurt you and let you live your life and that she had been thinking of the break up for months, as you mention in your videos that an ex takes time and fight their thoughts before taking that decision. After the break up i have been the one who initiates contact but not always about that topic. I had some no contact days sometimes of about 3-7 days but she never texted first. Sometimes i used to ask if she might consider getting back when i move to her country. (Moving in less than a year to persue my career there) but she always used to say we’ll see what happens and stuff. I have been in NC for 7 days and today i broke and called her to talk again, but i told her i wasn’t forcing her or anything just telling her how i feel. Today on the call she told me she would NEVER come back and that this decision is final. That she just lost feelings because of many things and i know long distance is one of them, but please try to understand how we actually were soooo good together and that long distance is a very small reason of the reasons she broke up. So she had 2 exes before me and, after i told her that even if we broke up we can end up together one day she just insisted that she had broken up and got back many times when she was with her exes (the 2 guys before) and emphasized how this was the worst decision for her and that she would never do the same again and get back to me in the future. But i ended the call jokingly and i said fine if u wanna be friends we’ll be besties and go shopping and gossiping together and she laughed. Then i playfully told her i dont agree with not being together and that friends is off the table. I came off as i wasn’t hurt and that it is fine and i can move on. Can you please tell me, in this situation, if we met and i attracted her again, or even if i apply NC while still long distance, can she ever have her feelings back and want to get back together? Or you think she would put her pride and word first and not wanna get back even if she missed me and saw how her feelings changed? Btw, she is very kind and sweet and she had honest feelings for me. She’s caring, not narcissistic or a sociopath, she’s just perfect i know it in my heart. But women just act based on their emotions. So please help me coach. Thank you a lot.

Thanks coach.

I sent her an accountability letter and she said she really appreciates it. She text me we talked for an hour, but she said she still doesn't want to be friends. Is there anything that I can do?

I said everything you said that would make them more distant. 😭 she moved out after 2 month post breakup and said she needed time to heal and move on but said that forsure we will see eachother in the futur, she wanna try to be friend. But says she need at least 5 months before seeing me. I just have this feeling that she will be back😩

i begged my ex everyday for 1.5 months and he keeps saying it’s done forever and he never wants to be with me and my begging has proven that i can never change and we will never work. is it too late for no contact to work now?

I would love to get my ex back I’m definitely learning a lot so how could I get my ex back if we share a kid together and it’s been over two years, but we are pretty close and coparenting that she says that we won’t get back together anytime soon. Is there still a chance to get back together if that makes sense

How long is "in the moment" is saying that about 3 weeks after break up still in the moment?

My x said don’t wait for me . I’m certainly not saying we’ll never be together again but please don’t wait for me. I then brought this up Monday and she denied saying it and said I thought I made it clear we’re done for good. We’ve been apart for 35 days now and we said our final goodbyes on Monday 🤷. She already went out to some concert with a guy she hadn’t seen in 7 years so I’m over it. I know I treated her good and we’ll both be lucky to find another relationship like we had

You always make just good common sense. You are the third voice in relationships, the voice of reason that does not have emotions involved in the situation so you are able to look from the outside in, so to speak and see clearly and analyze logically that those of us with our emotions tied up in knots cannot do. So thank you. And I really appreciate your honesty. You do not say what you think we want to hear. You say what we need to hear.

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its been 5 years for me and my ex....so i can safely say that no, they wont always come back.

Stop letting people leave and come back because sometimes they catch disease along the stray.... If you are there awaiting, arms wide open.... Now you have a life long battle that you never intended to have

Coach Lee, have you ever thought what happens when both people think they're in the right and both go on 'No contact' and neither of them budge? 😅

My "incredible" weakness behavior is what landed me the girl in the first place, Broseph! She was ATTRACTED to my incredible weakness!!

Plz plz plz back off. They will see the grass isn’t greener

wish I had heard this 3 years ago, I did everything wrong

I broke no contact and tried talking to him after 5 months of no contact.He said he cares for me but he feels like he brings bad luck to people.i am going no contact again I am done

you are the best coach Lee, u make so much sense