How to Get Out of the Casual Dating Trap

Matthew i put the bear minimum of standards and everyone is gone. "Friends" and love interests. That's why I'm completely alone. The relationships that thrive nowadays are those where fakery and dishonesty exist. "Friendships" and "couples". You don't entertain only what they want? Boom, gone.

I wish there were any dating coaches for guys too like you Matthew. All I see on the internet are toxic red pill stuff. No helpful advice for guys to find a relationship or get laid. If you can make some content for guys too that would be great.

Like all primates, humans aren’t a monogamous species. Once you come to grips with that, everything is easier.

I like how Matthew’s hair is different in every shot. Not everybody can get away with that

Never let you go he says? Than never let him go! Don’t be outta pocket

If men listened to women….

A woman brings beauty , softness friendliness… when do they start brining this again ?

I had a guy make a date near me. I live in Anaheim and he lived in Santa Monica. An hour distance. My first thought wasn’t wow how nice he’s coming to me, my first thought was I bet he’s making reservations near me because he’s going to try to come to my house after. I was right. So be aware that men who make reservations at a restaurant near you might not be doing it to show you they care but because they’re hoping that since you two are near your house you guys can go to your place afterwards and hook up. No

Women shouldn’t be casually dating or sleeping around at all!

I love hanging out with you..?!

So another video then on how to create deep attraction which lasts forever.

if a guy asked you for dating twice, each time had fun and spent more than 5 hours with each other. However, he asked for 3rd date when walking me home at the end of 2nd date, and he didnt actually plan it. Should I move on or try to ask him out. thank you

I love matt but i dont know why i watch these. I have no interest in dating because of how men treat us. Theres no point anymore.

Love this Mathew,having standards and communicating the standards, speaking out and showing what really you are but not in a hash tone.👏👏👏👏❤️❤️❤️

This is gold.

I am a high school boy struggling with dating and relationships and its funny because the stuff he says is just as applicable to me as it is the target audience of this video :)

We are all going through it. Trust that it will get better and that we will all find our people one day. Keep treating people right, respect yourself, and what you deserve will come to you if you are willing to keep going.

What if I already pre-ordered the book but from a local bookstore? I am just waiting for my copy.

Where is the full video?

Hey Matthew! I used to watch you a lot a few years ago. You really helped me to grow and become self aware and courageous. 3 years ago I stopped watching you because I had finally found someone I had a great connection with. Sad to say, I'm probably going to be single again soon because he's not putting in the same effort as me. So, I'm back here. I'm really thankful for your content.❤

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Matt, Bless your heart, I'd like to have an honest conversation about the possibility of a different perspective...There isn't just enough good kind people out there for eachother. I've known so many sweet beautiful women that get played by giving a guy a chance. It may be anecdotal but can anyone name 5-10 people that you would date if you were the opposite sex? How many would even date yourself? Its sooo hard to find a good doctor, cop, teacher, etc because the lack of good character, in general. The literal responsibility on women is to PRODUCE these types of men. We have to birth them, raise them, foster them, and then date them. If we could arranged couples to be together, I'm not sure how many have the tools to stay together because its not about picking the right partner, its takes:
1. Acknowledging where you can become a better person
2. There is no put me first or put them first, it can be achieved simultaneously
3. We have to take care of kids, yours, mines, other people's kids if you don't have any.

Matthew I have been listening to your podcasts for the last 6 mos. Ur amazing. The content is outstanding. Keep up the great work. Ur changing lives including mine.

Society has evolved and so should our thoughts of choosing the right partner. Why is nobody giving advice to… just pick a person who has good values and wants a long term relationship. You don’t have to be extremely attracted or mesmerised. They don’t have to be alpha male, successful, desired on the dating market. Just choose a regular person with a stable income, who is decent… and will be a great father to your children. Live in peace and a partnership that is equal and respectful both ways. And if you really need the physical part to be steamy and passionate, just get a lover… like the French. Do it elegantly and discreetly and live a happy family life. It’s not so complicated. This way the men out there that are actually ready and good, will be taken and the men that want to keep playing will have a purpose too 😉 it’s a win win for everyone.

I have to forget the old me Matt🎉
* coming to his town
*Waiting for his texts
*Pursue him or paying for the date
* Waiting for an answer why he disappeared!

Five years? Why would any woman date a man for five years if she's interested in a committed relationship. Two years max and then send him packing!

Greetings from California. Great class, Mr. Matthew Hussey. Happy holidays from USA. Cheers from our channel: Australian Parakeets Stars*Prince Alexander

Okay wow, first of all, this is highly impressive, I love it

I just love your face.

Unage back to 23

How to respond to the “come over” text tho? This is the one that turns me off & i usually lose feelings. Especially if done before the first date. I usually say “i need to get to know someone before I go to their home or they go to mine”

Dating is so exhausting nowadays 😢

Nice video! Like the new hair Matthew!

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Dang miss the movie chance cuz I'm just now seeing this video 😢

Do we really have to LEARN how to make someone want us? Maybe we should be open minded and try different type of people, and giving others a chance instead of always choosing the same type? Or.. Maybe the with right one it will ALL work out and feels natural.

the truth is men don't care about women on a deep level. want someone around for bedroom stuff, but don't want to have to deal with the relationship stuff. So you do the bare minimum, scrape by as long as you can, getting it in as long as you can until they tired of it. Rinse and repeat.

The truth is women killed relationships a long time ago. Every modern woman these days has double digit body counts. The thing that made everything work was that our grandmother's demanded respect and commitment from men to get sex.

When the pill came along and women didn't have to worry about keeping unwanted pregnancies, they started sleeping around. Now a lot of guys are getting laid without having to take them on dates, or treat them kindly. Can get on a dating app and be on the way to a girl's house by the end of the night.

Then girls are confused, why don't guys want relationships? Why do they only wanna be friends with benefits?

Cause we know, it's no longer till death, it's just till my turn is over.

it's all women. Who raised the men? The women, their mother.

Men treat women how they see their mother allowing herself to be treated. You want men to approach women differently? Don't let your son see you being easy and getting played. Instead, show him how a woman who respects herself acts and moves and that's how he'll approach other women.

Y'all decide who gets to have sex. Y'all are the ones that get to choose, so there aren't any men out there able to be hoes without women being hoes. If women stop, and start controlling access to sex, how can men be hoes?

Seeing what my moms spam was, then hitting gold.

How do I do this…as a guy? XD

How do we communicate our standards tho?
For example: if he still asks you to just go for a coffee on a 2nd date instead of a lunch or dinner?
Do I say ..should u take me out for a meal?
Another example: if he didn’t remember your birthday or maybe remember but choose to do nothing?

How to communicate your standards w/out looking like complaining ?

I used to listen to other coaches it only increased my knowledge of relationships in other cultures but listening to you each and every thing you talk about is relatable and helps in understanding everything I am experiencing...u r a blessing 🙌 ❤

Hi Matthew
I have pre-ordered your book on my Amazon Audible account, but it didn't give me access to your movie.
I am based in the UK
Can you help,please?
Many thanks.

You have to prove yourself to your boss before they elevate you.

I’m a guy, but I like to watch his videos sometimes too. A lot of this advice is gender neutral anyway.

I like his point about standards. I’ve been reluctant to date some women, not necessarily because I didn’t like them, but because I’m a flawed person myself and ultimately don’t want to be in a potential relationship with someone who will let me treat her badly, because her standards and self-respect were too low.

I often think this way of women who are fresh out of a breakup and immediately looking for a serious relationship. Especially true if I hear or figure out that the relationship was toxic in some way. My intuition often tells me that she is willing to do and tolerate almost anything just to be in a relationship.

I try to be a good person, but I also rely on others’ feedback to guide me. I need someone who will give me reliable feedback, not someone who will do or say whatever she thinks I want to hear.

I too, want to be held to high standards.

These types of women also are more likely to behave in manipulative ways to try and keep the relationship, which can seriously trip me off, so there are many other reasons why I tend to avoid these sorts. I also have my own standards, in other words.

Yes I've learned this thanks to my woman knowing how to invest emotionally, incrementally. As a guy I was clueless as to how to successfully achieve a long term relationship whilst I did have all the correct high standards.

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Coolest actors in this video 😍😍❤️

If anyone asks me for my phone number straight away I block them on dating sites. If I see someone I like I know i'd typically ask for the social addy, or number but online nah.

Because I'm late I lose? I don't get the book forever? Uhm no.

date a foreign guy they are more traditional. problem solved.