Should You Tell Your Ex That You Still Love Her?

Loving the latest content Dan, keep up the good work.

I do have a bit of a problem; I dated a girl back in grade school, but it only lasted a few weeks. We got into a few fights and she got extremely mad at me since I was her first boyfriend and things didn't work out. A year later in high school, she was still very mad at me but was about to ask me to a dance and try and rekindle what we had, but by the time she was going to ask me, I had already moved to a different state. A few years after I moved, she contacted me via social media and later through texting and we ended up having a long distance relationship for the better part of a year. We ended up breaking up once we concluded that long distance wasn't really an option, but even afterwards she still talked to me. She's had a number of relationships since then but what I find interesting is that she routinely goes out of her way to talk to me still over the phone or texts me, especially when she needs help or emotional support. I occasionally joke around with her by saying things like "C'mon I know you still love me" or "You're still obsessed with me aren't you" and the funny thing is she never directly denies it. Anyways, shes currently in a two year relationship with a guy and is currently living with him, but I can tell she still likes me too, so my question is this;

I'm going to be flying back out to that area to see some of my old friends and family, should I go see her while I'm there? She's told me that we should catch up with lunch together, to which I agreed but I'm just wanting to make sure I'm not getting led on. I've had girls in the past lead me on in similar fashion, only to yank the carpet out from under me after I get my hopes up. What would you do/what do you think? Should I just wait and see what she does or should I make a move?

Thanks in advance if you decide to read this whole comment, sorry it was so long haha

Hi Dan, in a complicated situation where my ex and I moved across the country together and then separated. Its been almost two years now since we separated, but we continue to stay in touch once in awhile. The problem is she is with a new guy and has told me on several occasions that she isn't happy with him and misses me, but no matter what I do I can not get her to give me another chance. I need some advice please, thank you

Hey Dan, I'm in a complicated situation. I was in a relationship with 2.5 years with my first gf(and i was her first bf). She broke up with me quite unexpected telling me that she lost her feelings for me. I later discovered she was liking someone else, but that didnt turn out so well for her. I was also having health issues so she was affraid for the future that she had to do everything. She moved on getting a couple of boyfriends over the years, breaking up etc. We had contact a few times and she was being nice and all to me but she said I had to move on. After that we had a long time radio silence. Its been 5 years now, but I can't help it that I still love her. I didn't have anyone else in the meantime. Now I was going to a lanparty with some old friends this week and I knew she was coming aswell( with her current boyfriend who she lives with now). First i was like i'm just gonna ignore her as much as possible but then she asked me to join in for a game. So we sat next to each other with 2 other girls. After a while those 2 other girls left and we ended up just sitting there and talking and talking for the majority of the party. She was bringing up the past, being very nice to me etc. So I just acted confident and it felt like old times. Only sometimes she was talking about her current boyfriend aswell. She said we really should talk more and that she liked it so much. The next day she apped me sending pictures of her dog that I knew from the past. And I said did we always talk that much back in the day? she said yea haha it was really nice. That's the situation. I wanna tell her I still have feelings for her but since she has a bf and lives together im affraid that it will have the reverse effect. I don't know what to do. I tried to move on in the past but it's really hard. I read some advice that I must show her that I changed etc. But on the other hand I wanna be honest and tell her.. Can you give me advice on the situtation?

So I dated my ex for 3 years, she cheated on me for a year and a half of that relationship. We broke up in December 2015, but I still think about her every day. I want to tell her how I feel, but she currently lives in Vermont while I’m in North Carolina and she’s living with her new boyfriend. I don’t want to mess up what they have because it seems like she’s happy and I’m happy with where my life is now. I just can’t shake the feeling that she’s the one, even though it’s been 2 years since we broke up. Any advice?

I feel like I'm really close to getting her back. I feel like if she were to ask do you love me or do you miss me, that would be her way of trying to get back together. I've got an odd situation but a fiance and two kids and I'm trying to make things work and I've never wanted something more

How to tell a men that I still love him ? Is it the same ?

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He is a Dating and Relationship Jedi Master.

I have problem becuase I was with some girl only few weeks. We were living not so far away (about 200km) so we had some problems with meeting each other but we were spending a lot of time writing with each other. But then I got some information from her sister that she actually found another boyfriend so I asked her about this. And for me it was true and I also discovered that she was with this new guy for about 2 months. I was pretty mad and called her slut and another bad things (which I regret now). our relationship ended pretty bad but other problem was that we both were going on conventions in my town so meeting her was easy. In first few month when I was seeing her I was mad, angry but now I miss her. Adn I still feel that I love her but she is with this new guy almost 2 years. I want to write to her and say sorry about everything I told her and say that I still love her but I have feeling that I know how it will end. Some friends were telling me to just do this and another that I'm crazy and I never should do this. I don't know what should I do. I know that she wil not come back and we will be together but fromanother side I want this and let her know that I still love her.

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Is it okay if I say that I love her even if she doesn't ask if I still love her?

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Dan Bacon sir your a huge help but what if my ex is trying to show me shes moved on after i do no contact coz i failed to do it at first?

Fuck it, I'm telling her. I've had enough of not doing so, it's driving me mad.

But what if she left your 5 years ago and you're still in love with her?

Damnit, I should've told my wife that I loved her when she gave me the close, tight long hug she gave me before she left. She dropped off my kid and left. Hope I didn't miss a window.

I said I loved her and she said it back. Weird thing is she’s acting very weird and told me that she doesn’t know what she wants. That maybe she should move on but she can’t because she doesn’t want to loose me. I’m not sure what to do

So my ex and I didn't have a real relationship we just kinda hung up but said we loved each other, lots of sex etc etc, I was in a bad spot and did some things I should not have done, i was a jerk a few times etc etc. I fixed all that after she said she wanted space and I found out she has really bad attachment issues which i didn't know. So I did my research on that attachment style to make sure I could do the right things to make sure she felt safer with me. So my question is, shes been going on dates with another guy, rich guy who's whining and dining her. She says she still loves me, and we have had sex a few times, she texts me, she said she loves me but doesn't know if i'm good for her. My question is, I want to say Look here is the deal, i I know I made you feel emotionally not safe, i understand why you felt that way, i didn't know these things about you, I've made changes and i'm willing to go slow and get to work towards fixing that issue and building intimacy but if you want to keep seeing guys i'm not doing that. Other part of me want to just take her on dates slowly until and giving her space, work on just flirting with her and having a good time and building intimacy until she asks to be exclusive. She says confused, and she has anxious avoid-dent attachment style so they like feeling secure, i feel like me saying this is how I feel is keeping my masculine frame but I don't want to appear needy. What is the better option?

Hi dan im from iran
Me and my ex , broke up 2 time, and this second time i really mess up and have some sex fantasy and she just see me in bad version and bad guy.. and we broke up beacause my fanatsy and behavier , and both of us i know love each other, but she says dont ever talk about relationship, but if you want help about something, you can ask me, and we talk normaly some time, i start but not she, what can i do? Any advice?? Im from iran and i cant buy your super system☹

Screw it. Next time I'm hanging out with my ex I'm gonna confess I still have feelings for her. I was afraid that if I did she wouldn't wanna be friends anymore but I know talking to her she wouldn't so I'm doing it! 🙂

Been split up since 2nd Dec 2022. Meeting up tomorrow but as friends as that’s what she asked for. Not sure if I should tell her I still love her or not. I tried to hold her hand a few weeks ago and she said friends don’t do that. Might try it again and laugh if she says anything.