Codependency: The Hidden Cost of Love feat. @andrewgoldheretics

I appreciate this clear and concise breakdown. It just made me understand myself better. Thank you.

Thank you for sharing and caring always. I appreciate your kindness always

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CODEPENDENTS ARE PHENOMENAL PEOPLE they're kind they're giving
They would give their life for those they love Their everything that a person should want to have in a relationship They are selfless
They're only considered codependent because they've made horrible choices
They're trying very hard to love that person but that person is a taker We love so hard it's hard to accept that this person is unlovable we just have to learn to move on if not for ourselves for our children
If we made the choice to love someone like us we would still be loving hard and love the same way The LOVE WOULD JUST BE RETURNED then we wouldn't be considered codependent at all
GIVERS MUST HAVE BOUNDARIES BECAUSE TAKERS HAVE NONE

Thanks for this explanation. Really helpful.

So true

I did that for 17 years…& I regret it, 9 years later.
Now…to shake off the blame, shame & regret. Hohum, another day.
Jen. Australia.
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I'm in this position at work.

I root for the explanation in the video. Been on a healing journey for many years and his take on it will never be part of my life again.

As soon as you revolt they will begin planning their exit

The concept of codependence came to be a very long time. Many decades ago a sociopathic psychiatrist murdered his wife. I believe it was in the 1800's. He developed this idea to make it seem like she wished to be murdered. It was his defense. It didn't work for him. The idea gained popularity in the 80's. But it had a very nefarious beginning.

Blah blah blah listen to danish baybar he's right on

Trauma binding gas lighting, blah blah blah we've heard it all before. I could write a book on this shit

The " GOOD OLE BOYS CLUB " in the churches ⛪️ of Clergy...

Just described, capitalistic relationships 😂

This video clears my mind and took me back to the exact place where I started feeling unsafe. Thank you so much.

Thanks so much for this i formation.

That is exactly how children are forced to be in this country growing up.

Codependency

I always understood the term codependent to have originally referred to the loved ones of addicts that took care of them and covered for their mess ups.

Codependent No More is a great book. It has helped millions.

This is incorrect.
"The term “co-dependency” was initially coined by Alcoholics Anonymous in 1950 to describe individuals whose unhealthy choices enable and encourage their partner with addiction. Although this is still true, co-dependency has since come to encompass a much broader definition."

Ur good ....17years of everything u just said😢

Codependency has NOTHING to do with dependency, it is a strategy for SAFETY.

This is why most ppl are in codependent relationships bc they do not have a real safety net.

I can’t imagine a more codependent individual than the one infected with NPD.

Codependancy is a term that originated in AA

My father has been an alcoholic. My mother totally codependent. Me too. Now , as 63 years old, I have been always pay atention, to do enough for myself.

Yep...that's what I'm dealing with and doing in my life right now! I'm working on breaking free! 😢

I am starting to feel like a codependent narcissist with all these blanket terms

You have to pick and choose your battles. If you are trying to help someone, sometimes it’s not about being right. Sometime you just have to bite the bullet, does that make you a co dependent? I don’t think so but I’m open to being wrong.

There are people who are so unbelievably ignorant, addicted, misled, beat down, spiritually void, brainwashed & guilted by "family values"/"religion", fear of rejection, and a host of other issues- people who either wear blinders or rose colored glasses- perpetuating their own toxic traits by having tons of kids they lack the mental & financial resources to raise properly- I don't care what you want to label it all. None of these people have the intellectual capacity or personal courage to be confronted with the possibility that they've been lied to, are dead wrong, & need to change. The curious mind doesn't exist in them. If they aren't a victim, they're nothing. People need to stop clinging to that which is destroying society and embrace personal growth- the possibility that their parents were wrong & going against their captors might bring temporary pain but it's worth the long term health, peace, healing & extinguishing faulty thinking. I honestly believe that too many people simply aren't aware they are ADDICTED to the HUMANS & the very same crap they claim to hate. Who will these co-dependants blame for their lack of ambition, drive, intelligence, motivation & all their health problems if they're all alone? They're passively addicted to their own scapegoats while they knowingly submit to being "punching bags" who take every "hit" in order to hide their shortcomings in the darkness of "victim hood". Society is DEVOLVING and the sane ones are getting quite sick of carrying the load of everyone's BPD, NPD, BiPolar, manic, depressed, needy, whiny, life force sucking problems. It's 2024 & people have the world's knowledge in the palms of their hands- stuck to the ends of their noses- yet all they do is seek sympathy and attention instead of choosing to engage in the solutions. Everyone who has a mental problem or is homeless needs to be taken to boot camp and then a farm- learn self discipline instead of self pity, then learn self reliance. Life isn't really this hard, folks. Stop selling your souls to your problems and stick a seed in some dirt or go volunteer to help people who have real problems. Wake up, get up, get moving in a positive direction. Do just ONE THING on purpose every day to make yourself a better person. Godspeed.

Co dependency is a kind of prolonged infancy where you mentally contract to parent one another in an on going way and you have a shared belief system that agrees neither of you can cope in the 🌎 alone That two of you are needed to make it. This is where you set up the relationship where you cling, worry upon separation(separation anxiety) and neither person believes he or she is self sustaining but reliant upon one another. Getting beyond this "parenting need" is a necessary step in development for every and each individual to achieve ones peace, autonomy and trust in oneself as the"good parent" to oneself. The introject of the good parent remains within the autonomy of each individual. It completes development

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Ugh its disgusting to hear this. He hated me for 10 years. I leave and now hes obsessed with me and cops wont help. I wish i hadnt traded those parts of me. He has no clue who i am or how much i hate him. Hes so delusional

Ya no

True❤

But it doesn’t work. No matter what you give they want more. After 18 years of gaslighting and confusion I have got a brain tumor and a stroke. Partially paralyzed was discarded. Do not stay with abusive partners. They don’t change.
Don’t pray for them. We don’t pray for the devil to change his heart , do we ?

Thank you so much for clarification. This is the best explanation I ever saw. Now I finally got what is it

Melody Beatty
Codependent No More

Codependency myth. Maybe look up this. There is always different perspectives.

It's like selling your soul to the devil. It never ends well for a person who's codependent. They lose the ability to shine the beautiful people they are.

Infantile spirituality

america is a continent
i really hate it when i hear people referring to the US as America. because there is a northern, middle and southern section in America.
it makes people who say that sound like arrogant pricks

PS: this comment is not an attack towards you, Richard.
i have a lot of respect for you and your videos are helping me a lot in my personal life, Thank you for that.

Covert malignant narcissistic WIVES to beta co dependent husbands. . they will suffer in silence bcuz of the shame telling anyone about it. THEY also survive working WITH the narc wife against her other target or targets within the family. He thinks he will earn kindness points by siding with her but give it 20 min to 2 hours and he is again her supply. Even saying OUTLOUD, "I am more important than you are" with him replying"I know". These are typically much older in age husband. Would normally be considered ELDERLY ABUSE in normal society

Also could be a women on the autism spectrum, they are very venerable to these narcissists. Just something I noticed .

It's a cruel expensive world out there. If I leave my narc husband, on a retirement fund, I will be homeless. I am disabled. Unable to weather homelessness. The trade off is have roof over my head, food on the table or literally be unable to survive.

Oh shit

The 'dependent' part of the word refers to chemical dependency. It originated from co--alcoholic

Melody Beattie is one of those authors. Codependent No More is the book.

Is it like a woman projecting her strengths onto her husband and he in term counterprojects his weaknesses onto her. I wonder if this is what the Bible meant when it said the two shall become one.