When did you realize you don't really have friends?

friends? what are those?

Me in 2016. I still don't have friends. At least now, I know & don't think I do but really don't.

That’s why you just do you playa

I have 1 word for this guy. LOL!!!🤣🤣🤣

What was the netflix show?

When you leave a group chat others arent notified unless you kick someone. Otherwise, i hope you find people who truely care about you.

In germany we say:
Arbeit ist Arbeit. Egal wie du dich einsetzt
Keiner dankt dir
Deshalb machst du nur was du machen sollst und nicht eine einzige Sache mehr
Weil du schneller weg bist wie du denkst, Egal was du bisher geleistet hast

We had a neighbor who was like that. We always attended and participated in his swuarees. As time went by, most participated kind of dropped off. Some moved. After his wife died, there was this ghosting effect. Not because she was the life of the party, she wasn't. She became sick shortly after we met them. She would not do anything to help herself and he literally did everything for her. Outside of close family, we were the only friends that stayed with him. When we had to move away due to age, he told us we the only loyal friends that stayed with him. I found this sad. He was a really nice fellow to have as a friend.

It's too sad to talk about.

nah, you are the nosy person that needs VALIDATION and BE SOCIALLY Active. Grow up! people are adults and have their own lives. Plus, Friends from Work? you serious? grow up.

This 😢. This is why I've stopped overextending myself. People just don't do it for you.

I know that I am not charismatic, most will forget I exist. But, I found my few and steadfast friends and love. I know they have my back. I was reminded that our family is even on the outside of my husband’s family the other day.

This hits home. I was rushed to hospital with suspected meningitis in 2019 and i messaged a groupchat i was in saying i couldnt go bowling that day because of being in hospital.

All i got was a "ok mate no problem" and never asked if i was ok since. Now at my current work, i close myself off from adding people from work to avoid the same disappointment

If you identify yourself as the funny guy then that already tells me the issue is you. I bet you're the guy that has that way over the top energy that nobody can stand at the office they just tolerate you because you do stuff for them. You don't necessarily crave attention but you want everybody's acceptance. Hate you had to find out that way though

This is why I hide my "personality gems" from most people now, once they notice it, they'll try to get a hold of it whenever its convenient for them. I only share my generosity with those who truly deserve it.

Only God is completely trustworthy.

I know this feeling intimately.

Yea work friends most the time don't waste a lot of time on them hope you are feeling better now without them and found better friends ❤❤❤❤❤

I was the office artist. We had a tradition of having the monthly party for everyone who had a birthday that month, I used my own supplies to make an original art poster for each person's day. When holidays came around or anyone retired or had a major life event--a new baby, an engagement or marriage, a new job elsewhere I was the one who decorated the office. Sometimes I had help. Mostly not. Then I suffered a major back injury leaving me with two ruptured discs and pain not even Vicodin could dent and faced major surgery and an 8 week recovery. All those people I sent cards to, all the ones whose parties I organized and/or decorated---nothing. Not even a lousy phone call. Not a message. Zip. Zero. Nada.

After eight miserable weeks of recovery I finally went back to work, my neck, still in a brace. Only one person asked about my long absence--Had I been on vacation? I stared at her incredulously, turned on my heel and walked away with her calling after me, "What? What?" I went back to my desk and fuming, resumed work.

Not even a half hour later one of my other coworkers came over to me and--not mentioning my long absence--asked if I would do a poster and decorations for the baby shower of one of the clerks who was expecting a baby.

It was too much. Coldly, I asked if she had even noticed that I had been gone for a while. "Oh yeah," she said, eyes lighting up, "How was your vacation?" I had to leave. It was that or attack her physically , something my new fusions weren't ready for. She went away, but came back after lunch and asked me what was wrong.

So I told her. Chapter and verse in no uncertain terms.

Credit where it is due, the next day there was a cake on my desk, flowers, and a gift along with a two page letter of apology signed by every single employee. I accepted the apology but never again made another poster as long as I worked there.

I was never invited out in HS and when I finally made friends they either never reached out, never invited me places or only wanted to do things that are loud and crowded which I've said I'm not a fan of. Now I have my cat :)

When you don't text first and you stop hearing from everyone.

When someone in my "friend" group accused me of drunkenly hitting someone with my cane, and even though I remembered handing my cane off before the person I supposedly swung at even got outside, I didn’t believe myself because I had been absolutely SHIT-faced.

It took over a month for the truth to come out - I'd remembered that and several other details correctly. No one apologized. In the month leading up to the truth coming out, people constantly accused me of starting and prolonging the drama. Nobody told me who had accused me of such a horrible act and changed my entire image of myself. Hell, my (now ex)boyfriend looked me in the face and swore on his dead grandfather's grave that he'd never said that at all, and got mad at me for insisting that he had and pointing out SEVERAL conversations where we talked about that night, accusation included, in length. "How can you sit here and accuse me of lying on the grave of the most important person in my life?" Idk man, I think a better question is how you can sit there and reduce the memory of the most important person in your life to a cheap gaslighting tactic.

This happened last 4th of July, but I still haven’t recovered from what that night or that group of people have done to my self esteem. Like, I thought I had trust issues before, but now there's a part of me that just treats abandonment and betrayal like an inevitability.

Kevin is prolly taller n more handsome.

This had been my life for longer than I can remember. It always hurts. However I would have liked to hear more of this story like what did they say when you came back? Why didn't they visit?

This is why i don’t expect anything in return if i ever did something for someone.

its like when you start a new job, get along with everyone and you think your jokes are landing, then one day they all turn on you coz you weren't part of the original group even the lazy guy is suddenly mean to you...saying they don't like your tone or wotever. blind sides you. work peeps are never friends.

Why are my shorts recomendations reminding of me my depression?😢

I feel this ssme way constantly... stopped guving people effort and i feel alone

They were using u for free things

Damn... how am I in this story without actually being in it O.O

Ok, lets point out that this person has way too high of expectations of people.

Happens all the time.

This is me. Had it al my life . Threw a 40th birthday hall food etc. But no one came. It was then that I went enough. So got rid of everyone from social media except family. Did nt bother with anyone. I'm so much happier now. Abit lonely but those in my life now care and love me. What more do u need

My family used to make fun of me behind my back. I would pour my heart to them when my marriage was failing and they would later talk about me and laugh. They always wanted to manipulate me. While I was letting peace reign and trying to help them every way I can. I would hear how who said what. How they helped each other and never me even when I needed help. It sucked but God helped me see it. I have my life to God, obeying his way and will and now, I am in a better place without them.

Op sound like he’s trying too hard to be liked and it shows. Friendship are not created, They have to like you for you. Once the op learn that. You will find true friend. Op was definitely just used because he willing to organize everything.

I'm sorry they suck; my co-workers are nothing like that. But it's NOT your fault, they just freaking suck!

This hit really close to home. I was that guy. Now I just don’t expect anything. Life is easier that way.

You sound like a person that assumes.Everybody cares so much about you as you do them. Fuckem

Dexter Morgan

Bro I know how this feels

From what I've seen, work friends have always been just that, work friends. I've never made any lasting friendships from work. The best friends that I've ever had were the friends that I grew up with.

1 Rule Never expect somoane to care about you 2 Rule show that your valiuble not the clown thats the was i live my life

i think if this story is real, your friends see you as annoyance yes they do get along when you are there but they cant say that you are annoying thats why when your gone they got their peace of mind.

just thinking maybe or they are really assholes

I went through a similar situation with my family last year. It's pretty rough

Maybe you weren't the person you thought ❤

i learned one solid rule at work, collegues are no friends, they are there for the same reason, to earn money to enjoy their own life that they live

That is why having a family of your own is vital

This is sad. I'd like to hear the other side though.

Yea, I'm going with this is fake, or op is leaving out a bunch of details as to why they only tolerated them

work people are NOT friends.