Bao went to her Therapist and Reflects about The Recent Events

This hits for me since I went through a depression phase last year. A mix of burnout from too much free time and a conflict with family left me feeling nihilistic and without motivation.

I was lucky that my university had a mental health counsellor whom I could talk to. Turned out having a voice to help you speak freely and be able to reflect can do wonders. The process wasn't instant, and we talked for months, but it helped me acknowledge my self worth and be more understanding towards myself and others. Hopefully, you'll experience that resolution as well.

# HUGS for Boa :)

Truth will ultimately prevail but there is pain bringing it to light

Therapist: “Everybody else in unbanning Bao, but are YOU unbanning Bao, Hrmm?”

SHES GOT HER WHOLE EMOTIONAL ARM UP MY ASS! AaaAAAAHHHH!!!

Ayyyy im in the thumbnail

she just had to say that at the end

Why do so many vturbers come down with mental problems?

No Ban Bao. Yes Hug Bao.

i dont entirely like the "either or" mentality that gets portrayed in memes a lot. both with the crossroads or the bus analogy. why cant i sit on the floor of the bus in the middle? or why cant i make a road in the middle that isnt fully good nor fully bad? especially with trauma, not everything u come out with from it is just bad evil no no no deny, in my opinion. u also learn self preservation and what to look out for. u learn boundaries. trauma victims are allowed anger and bitterness too, as long as it doesnt cloud ur vision. <3

And if therapist gave the advice for don't rush it they are right. Trauma if you try to process while you're still can just make it worse. Went through Shondo equivalent trauma. And of course I'm into mindfulness at the time which is just fancy way to say processing. Didn't help just made things worse and I think prolonged all the bad. All you can do is try to compartmentalize with real trauma at the time. You will only hurt yourself more if you try to process it when it's not the right time. And I just remember years later I'd be listening to some healthygamer and he's like yeah mindfulness studies not good for trauma. And it just clicked with my personal experience. Processing helps so much on normal days but when it's real trauma you can't do anything. Best you can do is just exist try to stick close to friends, family, therapist whoever you have and accept things will take time.

The second she started mentioning 2 wolves, I knew she was going to be fine.

We love our bobo ❤

'You should SHIFT yourself, now!' -LucyPyre, probably

I'm in a similar place. And she's right. Healing ain't sparkly, with green light enveloping your body and positive numbers next to your head.

Dr. K said this once, healing is blood magic. It's friggin bloodletting. There's no butterflies and rainbows here. It's terrible. But she's right, the only way IS through. However painful it may be. Thanks for sharing, Bao. Made me feel less lonely.

Maybe dont be so focused in yourself, you really living in your toughts rn lol

Glad she is taking care of herself and healing.

Bao, healing takes alot of time, it will be ok I promise.

Healing might be painful, but nothing is as painful as being betrayed by someone you loved and trusted

Your hands and arms are too small to touch my heart, Bao.... but we can hug each other if that is acceptable.

hey 👋 therapist here. we can grieve losses that are not tied to literal death. like the loss of a friendship, even if the other person is still alive. grief is not linear either. we can keep skipping between the different stages or skip stages entirely. different people do different things - healing too 💙

Wish I could give Bao a big loving hug

Philosopher Bao wasn't on the bingo card for this year, but it's interesting to say the least

I've been stuck in the throws of major depression for most of my 31 years of life. Over the past 2 years I've been trying (and mostly failing) to heal from some intense psychological damage that I experienced at my last job. The damage has left me scarred in ways I didn't know were possible. Not too long ago I discovered vtubers and in some ways it's been therapeutic. I relate to vtuber personalities and interests and I've always appreciated anime, it feels like a good fit. Bao, you're one of my favorite vtubers and I deeply relate to and admire your upbringing, your struggles, and the path you have taken to heal yourself of your own perceived flaws and issues. You inspire me not to give up, even when the road ahead feels insurmountable. Keep going on your journey Bao, I believe in you, and you give me the strength and perspective to keep trying to believe in myself too. Thank you for everything you bring to this world Bao, you're amazing just the way you are.

I can't imagine how you even begin to unpack "Someone I considered a friend for a very long time was manipulating others I worked with behind the scenes for the sake of getting ahead in our shared line of work and part of that was intent on undercutting my own success in the process" even in therapy.. she's incredibly brilliant for being willing to keep going after such heartbreak and betrayal.

Healing and recovery is very messy business. Why do you think so many people just stay stuck?

As much as I want to do and say something it's best to let her find her way and heal
All I can say is the best thing we all can do is support her and bansh the dark shadows with kind words that speak of things that might make her laugh.

"If you're going through hell, keep on going, face that fire, walk right through it, and you might get out before the devil even knows you're there"

As Thor wisely said: People who tell you it's going to be OK are wrong. It's going to be different. And eventually you will learn to live with that difference.

Hug Bao!!

Hope she get better

Hugs

Hugs

<3

I’m happy to see Bao is taking this one step at a time. It’s not easy moving on from a situation that legit just downright fucked you up and sometimes or majority of times, you never recover. To all those who go through something similar where bad things happen and you are unable to move; it’s okay not to move now but remember to do so at your own pace. Understand that particular bad thing may have happened and to accept it did, remember you are not alone.

Bao is such a positive role model for young folks. Such a liberated sweetheart!

You don't need therapy, all you need is a good friends.

I wish that I had-had Bao's mental fortitude at my crossroads. But a lass, I've become those things she doesn't want for herself. I am proud of her.

what happened? so much shit going on recently i can't keep up?

Lots and lots of hugs to Bao. I hope you have nothing but good things happen going forward. You are so amazing. I can definitely say the internet is much better for having you on it. Its going to take time im sure. Just please consider self love too. 🫂❤️🫂❤️🫂❤️🫂❤️

How can anybody be so weak wtf cry cry and cry some more

Bao do you want the secret to real healing
Here is the answer go into your room relax take a deep breath confront your thoughts feel your emotions and let them go therapy is just a stage for validation and acceptance real inner clarity comes from within you aren't healing that way

Don't accept worse you are meant for better

You are stronger than you think braver than you know and smarter than you think

Healing is not linear.

Stay strong kiddo

what happen

I gotta say it's been driving me nuts that a few days ago I saw her name trending on Twitter & I saw some people actually defending her. Some simp wrote a 64 page google doc on a situation he has NO inner knowledge of & the thing REEKED of narcissism and Dunning-Kruger effect about philosophy.
The internet will always have ships of fools, but we're swimming here with the whales. 🐳