Why They Can’t Come Back (If You’re ‘Waiting And Hoping’)- Getting Your Ex Back

Thanks!

I have no idea how to move forward from someone that was texting me daily. We were almost obsessively texting...how could he suddenly not be thinking about me? How could he tell me he "never wants to lose me" then breaks up with me and disappears? I know realistically he has found someone else, I'm 90% sure of it. It's just killing me and I don't know how to NOT think about him anymore. He was a huge part of my daily life.

Wow, That was excellent!! Thank you so much!!

How do you do thisbwhen your so deeply in pain and no matter ehat yiu do you cant pull your mind off of them

35 years. I've been in the ditch for 35 years.

One day you wake up and the pain from them isnt leeching onto you anymore. thats when everything starts to feel okay again.

I disrespected my relationship several times and I was given the boot and I’ve been trying to get her back but she’s not interested in me anymore. It hurts and I’m the blame for this situation.

beautiful... Bless you. Greetings from The Netherlands

You are a legend Susan.

Susan he hurt me so badly , I’m crippled by it

Move WHERE!? Welp! That’s it then..not gonna see or hear from him
EVER AGAIN!! 💔💔💔💔😩😩😩😩💔💔💔💔💔💔

Very informative video and helpful to me. I was waiting and hoping but your video has been very helpful. Now I know what I must do and that’s to move forward. Thank you again.

Thank you for your advise. My partner of 13 years has broken up with me and I spent a whole week crying. But this week, I have decided to completely let him go and have absolutely no expectations and focus on myself.

Estou assim 😢😢😢😢 não consigo superar. Já tentei de tudo. 💔😭

Such a great video! almost made me cry, currently hoping for someone to come back and this gave me a little push to move forward in a positive way! Thank you!!

He broke up with me and I was forcing him to come back. I am still hoping even if he told me clearly many times that he cannot be with me. Regardless of how he treated me, I still want to be with him. He is on my mind every minute. Do you think what I feel for him is love?

Thank you for making this video. I'm at a point in my life where I really needed to see this. It's not about a romantic relationship for me, I just have an old friendship that ended after we had some problems together, and it has been extremely hard for me to let go, even after a couple years. Everything about this video makes sense and I'm lucky to have come across this :-)

Love your videos and that's helping me to go through the pain. I lost my lover of 25 years and the pain its so much.

Never return.
Never take them back.
They/you had their/your chance.

@fernandodesousa9362
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We complicate things in life. Everything comes down to Logical thinking “Why chase or think about someone that doesn’t want to be with you” read that again and let this sink in

Hello Susan, I think I already thanked you on another video, but I will do it again anyways. Thank you. Your videos help so much.

My ex broke up with me almost 2 months ago. It was a 9 year relationship and I was blindsided. She essentially cheated on me, chose another man over me, and that was my fault, I pushed her away so far that she needed to get her emotional support elsewhere.

I changed myself so drastically in 2 months that people can barely recognize me anymore. The way I act, my weight, I got off of my medication, etc.

She wanted to stay friends, and at first I accepted, but then I reneged. Yesterday, I told her my intentions, my plan for our lives, and what I was willing to put into our relationship. I told her I couldn't be friends with her because I loved her too much. I apologized sincerely for all the misery I put her through for the past 2 years. I told her, whatever she does, I will respect her choice, even if I think the choice she's making is a huge mistake, I will always love her. But to respect myself, I need to walk away and never look back, and based on the decision she makes, she will never hear from me again. And if she ever changes her mind, she knows how to contact me.

At first I was heartbroken because she left me, then because I found out it was because of another man. Then it was because I realized the hell I put her through when I finally came off of my medication. Now, the heartbreak is knowing that I have no other choice but to walk away from her, even though she already walked away from me.

I waited for 18 years and one day I said...no more. I did not want to leave but I could not be patient any longer. Shame on me .the one that
got away. ❤ what he did was he changed 100 percent and one day I asked him why are you making changes . He told me I am not going to do the same thing with the new girlfriend the way I did to you. I felt so guilty but I had to make a stance

This is profound insight. While presently feeling the victim, i am becoming self aware of my own comtribution to the failure. Communication breakdown. Its a Win Win, be grateful for the time we shared and let both of us heal on our new paths. I am Forever Happy for you, and i apologize.

Ive tryed everything nothing works but this simple truth im a cursed man this is why all my relationships hve failed this is why im single again sory guys

THankyou SO much SUSAN

Nice! Very useful for me :)

Take your energy back !

Thanks for your kind advice..... love from India

Thank you for this. I'm going to watch this daily.

How to move on when kids are involved? What if someone cheats on his partner, when times are a bit rough (let’s say when baby arrives, pregnancy, etc.). Easy to say, just move on he/she doesn’t deserve you, but how to let go?

Coach can you talk about us waiting for them to comeback knowing that we don’t really love but we just wanna know if we really mean somthing to them ?

I love how she mixes between Spirituality and the LOA & Therapy ❤

It's an electro magnetic attachment.. a push pull effect.

Hey baby how are you

Thanks!

So true. Thank you for reinforcing my feelings.

It cost me $2 million dollars to get her out of my life.
Why would I want her back?

Don’t go back to someone God has already rescued you from 😅 if it was supposed to work, it would have already worked. Surrender to that.

I'm exactly where I was for 2 years ago...I am trying so hard to not miss him. My car is broken and it is impossible for me to get out of the house. All I do is ruminate. My blood pressure has been so high for 2 years.

MY EXPERIENCE AFTER WATCHING THIS VIDEO TWO YEARS AGO. 

This video changed my life two years ago, in this exact month. I was going through a break-up from a seven-year relationship, and it was the worst pain I had ever experienced. I wanted to literally die just to escape the pain. At the time, I wanted my ex to come back... I had been bugging him and obsessing over his return to the point that I was literally going insane. I was browsing through heartbreak videos when I came across this video.

After watching this specific video, my initial intention at the time was to move on so he would come back. So, I worked hard every day to retract my energy from my ex and practiced no contact. I worked on my issues, processed the breakup, and went through healing. Literally, I combed through all of your videos on breakup every day to get through it. After a year, I finally was at peace and did not want to get back with my ex. A win-win.

However, five days ago, I received a lengthy email from my ex saying how much he missed me and that he wants to "find me again". He said he regretted everything and despite having a new partner, he was thinking of me. My first thought was... DAMN, SUSAN WINTER WAS RIGHT.

My ex is too late. If he had told me these things two years ago, I might have gone back to him. However, now, I no longer want to go back. Honestly, I just feel sorry for him at this point. It seems he didn't grieve our relationship properly because he moved into a new relationship two months after our breakup.

That email just confirmed and validated that I HAVE FINALLY MOVED ON WITH MY LIFE. I already have a new partner whom I met six months ago... I adore him and love him so much, and I am happy and content.

I just want to say... THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR ALL THAT YOU DO, SUSAN. You saved my life two years ago. This video was a turning point for me at the time. I CANNOT THANK YOU ENOUGH.

Thank you very much.

This makes so much sense yet is easier said than done. In particular if you know that you are being rejected because you are too good to be true. Our relationship could not have been more perfect but one day out of the blue she told me that she can't have a relationship with me. She's too afraid, too broken and says she doesn't want to hurt me. The easy way out was to push me away. I'm still in a world of pain and came across this video and I will try my best to take it to heart. I know she loves me but I think showing her that I can move on without her may actually make her realise what she is rejecting. The problem I am facing is that I will be doing this with the underlying hope of coming back together which may well jeopardise the process. Why does love have to be so painful?!

Idk ... i have stopped thinking about all of my ex's and not a one has called me lol. Must not work me :P

Excellent video!! ❤️

I'm not waiting on them.

Wishin' and hopin' and thinkin' and prayin'
Plannin' and dreamin' each night of his charms "Wishin' and Hopin'" (Dusty Springfield, 1964)

Thank you for these videos!

Susan, you are so thoughtful. Thanks for the useful advice and for providing strength during aching times.

What if the person chose not to move forward because we lived in different countries, not because something bad happened between us?