If You Think Your Ex Will NEVER Come Back, WATCH This (Part 2)

Found out my ex is an Avoidant
Had no father & not much positive energy from mom

Lucia .. what will happen if both couple did no contact ?.. so no one will make a move ..
its hard to admit i made a mistake rather than seeing the other is wrong..!! thank you

long story short!!she broke up with me 3 months ago!!blocked me on everything!!after leaning about no contact i did that!! she reached me again and again!! we meet up once and kiss and little makeout!!she said i love you and i want to be with you again!! unblock my number and added me on facebook!!then again i tried to set up a date and she said no she only see's me as a friend and offered me friendship!!i denied and said contact me if only she's actually wanted to get back and she said she never gonna contact me again!! after 16days later she contacted me and said not to wait for her anymore and i said ok good luck and she said she knew nothing's gonna effect me and cut line on anger!! after 14 days she contacted me and said why i'm giving her massage from fake accounts and i said i haven't!!she said ok good and don't ever try!! meanwhile she's watching my stories and watched my story even today and unfriend me from facebook!!🙂

Lucia, I have tried to give up hope and move on and still in no contact 6month on. How ever I believe he will come back! Why?

Right timing!!!!

Hi. It''s Holi festival and I'm going no contact with my ex she too is off social media and has deactivated her Instagram. So should I wish her happy Holi. I really want to talk to her. If i don't wish her she might take it rude and maybe other guys aare wishing her holi and making plans with her. What should I do?

Hi Lucia yes have had the thought regularly that I won't get my ex back but no contact has been a life saver thanks to being in the no contact army 👍

It’s so hard to think she’ll ever come back. Even after all the hard work I’ve put into myself since she divorced me. She’s living with her bf now and they had a kid together. She’s got our two children living under this guys roof too. Since she left I’ve gotten and stayed sober (almost 2 years sober) I’ve gotten a great job that I’ve kept and I’ve become such a great father and person. I pray everyday that either god helps us to reconcile and get back together or to heal my heart. I miss my kids being in my life everyday and tucking them in every night. I miss the touch of someone esp her. I never thought we’d really get divorced. I thought after I got myself together she’d come back. We never got a real shot together because I was drunk everyday. Nowadays, all I do is work and sometimes go to the gym. But I do drink so I don’t go out and I don’t really have friends anymore. So I’m alone all day everyday. I’ll be 33 this year and hope to god I don’t continue getting old and die alone. Idk how she can’t see that I’ve become the man she wanted me to be and have an interest in working things out. I’ve dated and had a couple girlfriends since being divorced but those relationships only last a couple months because my hearts not even close to being healed. That girl even after everything she’s done to be still has my heart.

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I want to stay in no contact but he said in a week he would reach out to arrange to give me a box of my stuff back. I don't need my stuff back. Would it be OK to just ignore him if he reaches out to give my stuff back?

He left a belt at my house, but I might just leave it on his car when he isn't looking.

Any advice for the situation, please?

I want to stay in radio silence because I gave up social media for lent and he knows that.

Hey Lucia my ex (22)broke up with me(22)after 3.5 years and I cheated on her once about 2 years in and she forgave me and we worked on it. About 2 months ago we got into a huge fight New Year’s Day and she said we were done and she packed my bags and told me to go back to my moms house. We then made up and she asked me if I did anything in the day we broke up (I texted a old friend who was a girl) I lied and said I didn’t and then a month later she finds it and then actually breaks up with me. Didn’t talk for 2 days and then I show up at her house to talk and there is another dude there but I didn’t know it yet(she told me a day or two after this day). We talked and she cried in my arms saying it was a mistake and she didn’t mean for it to get that far and I forgave her while she was saying she had to do it because she felt like she didn’t want to give herself a choice in coming back to me. We stayed friends for 3 weeks I begged and pleaded she would invite me over (we had sex once) and she would text me to come over after i went to work and the gym. The 4th week she was super cold and barely talked to me. I also find out that she is talking to this 19 year old who she “likes” and said she wants to give him a chance and I continued to cry beg and plead(very ashamed and embarrassed I know). I freaked out on her and said things i definitely shouldn’t have said and I regret. The next day I apologized and went into no contact. It’s been 7 days and it’s getting easier to deal with but I know you said when the 2 month mark comes around I should reach out since I technically cheated and she left me.What do you think? Thank you if you read 😅

Working swell for me. Been 9 months and nothing. She is however has been in a relationship with 2c guys. Thanks!!!

Lucia, what’s your thoughts on if she is moving fast with rebound introducing him to friends and co workers?

It hasn’t even been 2 months since we broke it off.

You can move on only when you don't make hope for reconciliation. When you stop waiting and expecting, then you will start to heal. Why would you want someone who prefers pride over you? We deserve better.

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

Yesterday...I received a text from...my ex...after 68 days of no contact. We both are avoidants, which resulted into several break ups, in the past 2 years. Last time I broke up with him and he accepted the break up...but yesterday he reached out on whatsapp...commenting on my new profile picture...(exes do keep tabs on you, trust Lucia😉) so never block your ex!! Funny thing is...I also deleted my datings apps...cause I'm dating a new guy for a while now...
Coindicent...or did my ex start to worry...?🤔

My ex girlfriend just texted and she dumped me back in October because of my drinking and dishonesty so she just texted a few minutes ago saying she would like to meet up for a coffee sometime unless if I am seeing somebody else she doesn’t wanna disrespect the other person. Which in this case I haven’t dated anybody or talk to anybody since the break up. I’ve been working on myself. Stop drinking going to therapy eating right exercising doing a lot of mental and physical change. Interesting how she texted. Not sure how to respond to that.

Hi Lucia. Thanks for you insight. It’s true, when someone blocks you, they are requesting space. If you don’t give them that space for as long as they ask for it, you seem not on the same wavelength with them, and that you aren’t a catch. My long distance boyfriend’s homophobic father forced him to break up with me. He said he still has a lot of affection for me and he wants to stay great friends. It’s been about a week of being blocked. But I understand his situation is tough and that he isn’t yet financially independent and protected from his families judgement. I’m here to talk to him when he feels ready to start contact again. He said he is leaving the bisexual thing behind, but that’s his father speaking. When he feels he can be himself more, as I understand Cuba isn’t as accepting as Western Europe, then I’m open to it.

Hi Lucia. When an ex has sent you a significant text and you are back in contact, what is the correct way to respond is they ask if you are single? Thank you.

I don't know I'm in 3 week no contact my ex is silent he use to text me but I was ignoring him but I don't think he will come back ..last breakup he use to text me like everyday no matter how I ignored him , this time its just different

Went through a friendly divorce 2 months ago… how can i have no contact when we share 3 children… when we’re around each other should i keep it friendly?? She’s probably talking to someone else so it puts me in a weird spot…

Thank you for this video.. it helped me healing..

I fell for a breadcrumb! He found a loophole that wasn’t covered in any video.
He’s 22, I’m 27 and this was a long-distance-situationship where he didn’t want to commit and stopped responding to my messages at some point, so I went no contact.
About 5 months into no contact, he texted me with a fake account named ACCEPT ME that he was sorry for everything and misses me. I replied “Who is this?” and he said “Who do you think it is? Have you forgotten me so quickly?”. I said “I don’t know. Just tell me who you are”. No response, so I removed the fake profile.
Two months later I was in his area and thought since it’s been a year, I have nothing to lose. I asked him to meet up. He said no. I replied “Then stop texting me that you miss me” - I wanted to call him out for the fake profile with this. He said “Okay 😊”. Then I deleted him, which I never did before. This was the only app we ever communicated on.
Was this the right move?
How weird is it that he went through the effort of creating a fake profile to text me, even though we were friends on our regular profiles!

I’m quite certain that I’ll never hear from her again.

She got with a guy 3 months after our official break up n 3 months after that got married to him, I had not seen her for about 4 months before she officially broke up with me but she would message me a lot but wouldn’t call me , we were engaged n had lived together but I feel she didn’t care for otherwise why not marry me after being engaged to me but then meet this guy after me n only dates for 3 months then Marty’s him

I don't expect to hear from my 3 exes again. I like how you talked about faith God keeps showing me situations of one ex Jezebelle.

I have faith God has removed these hoes from my life and will not have them return. He shows me signs of one ex so I can see how miserable and sad her life is. Having aex with a 70 years old fat sugar daddy the entire time we were together and now. Bahhahahahaaha all for money and the thing is I'm rich 😅. Back to the streets!

I'm interested in me, my business, my growth and my community.

Women are repairs and maintenance on my income statement and a contingent liability. Ain't no body got time for that. I prefer revenue Thanks

I have had the thought, but i know in my heart, gut, and from history he will be back in my inbox. Not sure if I can let him back in my heart though.

If he has lost interest in me, does no contact still work? Before he told me he wasnt ready yet for a relationship, we already didnt speak for a few weeks until i reached out (yes i still regret it). Now i want to make the no contact last forever, i know he has loved me, he left me on good terms and said he wasnt sure if he was gonna come back. Do you think he will?

This video was excellent... Thank you

Thank you, it’s good timing finding this.. The woman I was dating for a month over told me 2 weeks ago that she was falling in love with me and I was the greatest thing to come into her life. 2 days later whilst out together, like a light switch she started an argument out of no where, for no reason, we were having an amazing time together, another2 days later after asking if she’d like to have a talk she text saying, we’re not compatible, and I wish you good luck moving forward.....and then blocked on her phone, neither of us do social media....wtf !! I was really into her, feel a bit hurt but I knew it would happen as it felt rushed. After that text from her I seriously doubt I’ll hear from her again. And I honestly feel confused to whether I’d be able to trust her actions again.

Been almost 50 days of no contact still no sign of her coming back. She doesn’t view my ig stories. However she still has our Instagram reel up that says “love” on her social as well as our pictures.

thank you so much for all of your videos they help my anxiety

I am moving on with my life and if he comes back I’d consider a friendship but I don’t think I Can be n a relationship w him again

So listening to these videos i kinda think I may have messed up big time had a breakup 6 days ago due to miss communication I guess and she an anxious paranoid type think she doesn't see what she does and takes everything you say the wrong way and then punishes me for it she was pissed of with me on so many levels and wouldn't talk so I kinda called her out and said alot of bad stuff she believes I'm narsasistic and as she been through this befor said it's 100 percent completely over because she wont be abused again iv apologised till I'm blue in the face through text told her i loved her,tryed calling she is silent treatmening me now hasnt blocked but wont reply thing is I never did anything wrong until after she turned everything on me and I kind mess up out of emotional reaction so I'm left thinking is she a victem of her past of abuser so I call her a narsasistic not the smartest of moves but none of the less why cant I seem to go no contact all I can think of is sorting it out with her very confused and I guess that's the point of these videos and so true how we react in desperation

Been blocked everywhere and told me the number of times she has moved on . Tried get connected through her phone no response at all .for three months now .

Cuh-tahhs-truh-fizing 😊

Just before your outro, you said ‘and I’m still not interested’ 😂 I imagine he was listening hopefully whilst having a crying w😂nk and ‘came to fruition’ just when you said that! 🤣

i would like to give the answer that so many people on here are too afraid to give: no, they will never come back. so just move on

I love this video ❤ I think it is one of the essential videos

He blocked me.

Thank you Lucia ❤

I'm sitting at the 7 month mark of no contact.
My head fluctuates between forgiveness and wanting her to suffer. I'm getting there, slowly but surely.

I think it’s really powerful the whole aspect of focusing on you and it actually is harder than it seems. In my experience more times than not they come back at some point if you leave them be. But there is that fear it won’t happen, but that’s your attachment and belief you’re not good enough. Focus on being better. You will get over it and re attract your ex.

“Hearing” from them in a meaningful way is very different than just “hearing “ from them. They might check on you out of curiosity, but it’s way lower of a chance at hearing from them in a meaningful way

No contact works wonders, even when you’re not doing it purposefully. I’m currently doing it with my ex who I am convinced is the loml. Complicated but amicable breakup. He broke up with me, I chased for a day or two and went no contact. 5 weeks now. Still watched my stories and follows me everywhere, I still follow him but don’t view or like anything (I have him muted so I can’t even see).

I’ve started to lose hope because we’re long distance again (I moved back home to the state over after the breakup because I also lost my job and a close family member) and I’m not sure he’d find it worth it to reconcile, especially if we had to be LD a second time.

That’s changed because I know it’s my primitive thoughts thinking that. I also just heard from someone after 9 months. He still thinks about me and would love to take me on a date (we never even went on an official date because he was so anxious and flakey at the time!). I also went no contact with someone I had a deep crush on for 2.5 years because he knew I liked him (I told him months prior to no contact) and he never gave me a straight answer, just led me on for months and used me for attention. He contacted me 57 days after starting no contact, saying he missed me and wanted to ft soon. I replied politely but at the time was in a happy relationship with my now ex. I went no contact again, pretty much unknowingly, and he reached out again 1 weeks after my now ex broke up with me. He still isn’t mature and I have no intentions of pursuing him. I only want my ex

However, no contact is so dependable as it’s worked TWICE without me even knowing it! This video and the fact that two other men in my life contacted me after months of no contact gives me hope that my ex will come back. We’re only 5 weeks in and I’m hoping he breaks it within the next month or two 🙏🏻🙏🏻 it really is all about personal growth and faith. Thank you for this video Lucia

Three months since break up. My ex has reached out twice (approx five weeks apart each time). I “fought” for us after the break up and after he left the first time. I’m on day 6 of NC again and i didn’t fight this time. He was just not reaching out or engaging with me. I said it was clear he didn’t want me in his life, I wasn’t going to tolerate being treated with disrespect and that if he ever changed his mind he could reach out. That text was sent over snap and I immediately unfriended him bc i can see when he’s online and it was killing me. He has other ways to reach me. I only removed him from snap. I’m planning to be a little more firm (not rude) with expectations if he returns (do you think he will???) and he needs to know this is the last time. He takes off again and I’m done.

I’m hoping he doesn’t take as long as the last times and the fact that I walked away without fighting will help him realize i can move on if needed. And that I have self respect? Idk… would this classify as mixed signals??

It's gonna be an uphill battle. She's a DA. 😬

When I got broken up with, I went on a 10 mile run. First time ever but I do boxing so my conditioning definitely helped me. I also sent her a text like that email Lucia got but it was more so a “I have to move on” text but I wished her the best.