Why I Left My Colombian Wife After 1 Year of Marriage

This is why my grandparents and the elderly told me to only date in my race.
Because, the person of your race knows your language, knows your culture, and your tradition. Other races don't have the embarrassment for reacting in obnoxious behaviors. Most of the time they take it as "pride" and "ego" for such arrogant behavior.
I have dated only Mexicans, and after the last, I said no
more.
To add, I started to see how they were slowly and sneakily trying to make me go more their family side only. I missed out on many holidays with my family.
I also paid and bought many things, yet nothing in return. The mother and sisters don't cook and don't even know how to cook, they always rely on my significant other.
I just cant. I need someone who has a backbone of his own understand mutal respect.
*Not saying all are bad. *

Out of all the pretty women(no talking about fake boobs one, but natural) that are in Colombia you settled down with a below average girl, I've dated several colombian girls that are pretty or even beautiful, worked in great companies, speak 3 or more languages and I don't have spend a lot money on them because they chip in. Value yourself, there are plenty of beautiful women around the world.

You married into a cult. Sorry, mate.

That's not a church, it's a cult

It’s good that you recognized the situation and took action early rather than later. The signs were there, but like many young people, you overlooked them…partly because you were drawn to the intense love-bombing that Latin culture often brings. You craved that connection from a cultural perspective, and it pulled you in.

That said, there’s one area where I think you’re making a serious miscalculation. You believe you truly fit in and can build deep friendships wherever you go, but the world isn’t as welcoming as you perceive it to be. There are strong cultural barriers at play, and you may not be as accepted as you think. That’s not to diminish your personality or ability to navigate social circles, but once you fully grasp this, I think you’ll be able to work with people more effectively.

Good, you left unharmed. Sounds like straight from a movie except it’s real for you- Wesley S

I kinda relate to your story. I'm 30, divorced at 28 after 5 years of marriage. Funny thing is I was the one who introduced church to my ex, but as he studied theology and wanted to become an elder, all I was was a poorly filled mold of a christian woman... Also I understood that my partner's friends are never my friends. And also related to the language thing to a degree, my first language is Spanish, but I felt like he missed a part of me because he didn't even read a meme in English 😅. I don't want to get married ever again, much less to envolve a church on my relationship (I'm still pretty much a beliver, but I don't call myself a christian to avoid being associated with the church)

Man how u gonna marry a church girl and not wanna go to church 😂🤦‍♂️ this one on you Brotha.

She was manipulative. She used her words to make people think what she wanted them to think, turning them against her husband. She made no attempts to be a loving wife to her husband and treated him like an accessory. She was far more cunning than he saw.
A relationship with God is foremost personal. Church is good to reinforce that but the proof of your love for God is between you and God. I think there was probably infidelity at play, why she wanted to stay away from you so much.
Wes, you did good to be away from this manipulative person. Pray to God, in Jesus' name for guidance and to allow a worthy wife into your life

Women in latin america (in general) are very old school on the stuff that are convenient to them, but want to be a feminist and liberal with the rest. They want you to be a man and provide with most of the income, but you better help in the house cleaning and cooking and things like that, and she only gets to work if it's a passion for her. This kind of entitlement is weird to me but real.

She probably called you a chino behind your back too

Pus*y was so good and worth dealing with the Church until it wasn’t 😂

basically you wanted a pretty girl and she wanted a stable man (you couldn't walk away sooner, she only viewed you as an accomplice to HER life journey).It also seems like you deal with a guilt complex( a lot of us Asians do because of our upbringing). I learned a while ago people are not bad or good its just choices, people change and because of that you will never really truly know them. You see things you like and you think that's wonderful, you see things you hate and you say i want her to fix that. All the while the other person is doing the same. Its gets confusing so all we can really tell ourselves is "are we happy" and then that opens up the flood gates of what is "your" definition of happy. You learn that happy comes and goes and life is better if you chase peace. Then you make choices based on, " if it cost me my peace its not worth it". The world is already harsh outside the last place you want to deal with it is at home

lol that putang is why u loved her

The only right thing you can do is run fast away from colombian

you tricked on a columbian. happens.

Dude, happiness starts within you first, don't go around the world thinking you can get happiness from someone or somewhere.

avoid religious people.... I also contemplated marrying a religious girl but could already see that religion was always going to interfere in my personal life... today am happily married to an atheist... get to sleep in on Sundays ... no need to attend tiresome ceremonies.... our children grew up unencumbered by silly rituals... .

It's good that you guys separated. It sounds like you want to distance her from God.

Regardless of the nationality, being with someone who belongs to a cult (and you’re not totally on the same line of beliefs) is taxing and stressful. Make sure your lifestyle matches.

People who like to gaslight, peer pressure, and give death threats?

Those do sound like Christians 😂

You can't change them. They have to be the ones to change themselves. They live in their own little world and if you don't live in that world then it will devour you instead. The Bible literally teaches that it's more important to be faithful to god than it is to be faithful to your blood family, even to your own children.

I used to be a Christian and kinda thought like how these people do. I wasn't a super hard-core Christian or anything as I was born into the faith and was just kind of along for the ride. Only after looking into it myself from both sides, while in University, did I manage to see how hypocritical, distorted, and just borderline untrue the core values and beliefs of the Christian faith (in all its denominations) were.

Anyways, don't let this weigh you down too much. For now yes, but try to focus on how you survived a situation that was not truly going to support you from the very beginning and how you learned and grew from that.

You'll be alright. Now you have one hell of a story to tell at parties 🥳

I am truly sorry you have to live this because you are now facing a life or death situation. Take any threats seriously. God bless.

You have to be really careful here. That church was so entangled with your lives it almost sounds like a cult. When the oastor said you have to follow the edicts if the church or keave now. You arent allowed to question anything? You should have left then. Thank God you had no children with her

Cause she was a hoe who i simped for but i forgot to mention that.

Yeah your story really stirs me. What she did was horrible. She doesn't understand the covenant of marriage is. Some people are christian and some people are religious.

Good luck to you, you don’t have to take 💩 from anybody. I am hispanic. Not all women are like that but then just keep your eyes open.

I love how they are all so religious but will threaten you with death threats. Hypocrites.

I bet sex was awful too. The religion is the worst thing on earth.

I'm so glad I'm gay and atheist. Jeeeeesh... What a torture this life sounds like!

Ahhh the old betatization by a thousand cuts.

I feel for you young man! You are blessed to be alive, as most of the World is familiar with the Colombian violent way of life. You were set up to provide that woman & her family with $$$ advantages, no love or compassion was ever in the plans. The guy who made the death threaths sounds exactly like an experienced thug and/or cartel member. Rejoice in your new found life! Peace!

Why are you asking for money on PayPal? Support you on what journey ?

Damn, women throwing away good men. Marry me!! 🎉

I had a very similar situation to yours. Those moments when you want to talk and make important decisions with the woman you love, not with her family or a priest. I completely agree that it is really worth living with someone, even without sex, but getting to know how they can cope with life alone and with me. Understanding that you can't try to change someone unless they themselves show such a need and desire is worth supporting, but not pressuring. You also can't build a relationship if your husband (in this case) is not the first person on the list of priorities and you don't talk, you don't solve disputes, because there are always more important things.

The first red flag was she being Latina. She was not accommodating to you, was the 2nd red flag. 3rd was marriage counseling without being married. 4th working in the medical field. 5th "The ghetto big brother with missing teeth."

Its says in the Bible to not be unequally yoked, you were clearly unequally yoked. You are obviously not a true born again Christian, that's why the faith and church wrrent that important to you, she should have seen that.

Your ex wife dodged a bullet 😂

Dating a foreign church leader and complaining about the church coming first is peak male passport bro delusion. 😂

This was not a Biblical marriage what so ever and Im so sorry you endured what you endured. This mustve been so difficult and hard. Divorce was the right thing to do and these people are crazy

As a Christian, Im truly sorry that you had to go through this. Divorce was definitely the right decision and I wish you the best in your life.

🤣that’s crazy

I'm Colombian, born and raised. I got married when I was 35, and met my wife when I was 32. It took me a while to find my wife, the reason is that while women in Colombia are easily approachable, finding a good woman is hard. I see a lot of foreigners looking for a wife in Colombia and I think to myself: "If it took me so many years to find a good woman, and I live here. What they are doing trying to find one in a short stay; it's gambling." There is a small chance they will find a good and caring person, but a huge chance they will find the opposite.

I dated multiple Colombians. They are the worst women on the planet . Your story isn’t even that bad

Latinas are beautiful
But but extremely dramatic.

Yup stay away from Colombians and most Mexican girls, Cuban girls are fine. I'm Cuban btw 😅

Thanks for sharing this!

marry a filipina

She was radical religious SUPER RED FLAG