8 Signs You're Not "Nice", But A People Pleaser

Why is there such a typo in the thumbnail??? Pretty embaressing innit

thats the thing i feel like majority of what i see i go through or still am going through. Its like yess thats mee, but its like ok how do I STOP or get better from all of it especially when its something you did growimg up and still continue to do.

I am still a cronic people-pleaser with the peralyzing hear of causing anyone negative feelings. I would like to learn more about this thing I got so thanks Psych2-go :)

I do all of these 😭

I never knew that all my habits were actually bec I’m a people pleaser!! I rlly wanna speak my mind with others but it’s so hard :(

Most of them are untrue and i don't see myself as people pleaser or kind either
I prefer to create a strong bonds with those whose i know fairly well

*8 out of 8 finally got a test perfect! *

Wow. I wish this video was available back then in time. Even though I don't relate to this anymore, it still gets to me. I used to be the shy girl who tried so hard to be friends with everyone, even bringing jokes or snacks to lunch to make them like me. My worst years were from 3rd to 6th grade. Thankfully, I found a great group of friends at the start of 7th grade and we're still close in college. I've met even more people since then. But this experience made it hard for me to trust others. Sometimes I'm scared to start conversations. My social skills have improved though, and I'm happy about that...

I'm not a people pleaser

Hmm I sometimes wonder if I'm a people pleaser. I wonder what some of the signs they say are

(Ticks 7/8 boxes).... Oh. Well I guess I'm a people pleaser then!

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After a painful divorce of being a people pleaser, my eyes are open . I’m a super empath now. With education I know my weaknesses and turned it into a strength. Great video.

I don't think I'm a people pleaser,as I only relate with the over-apologizing part.

What about people pleasing and connection between lying?

I’m always being unfair to myself in order to please others .. I’m scared to say no or upset others .. I can’t stand the thought of anyone being upset with me .. Lord please deliver me from all unnecessary burdens to please people.. please teach me to me direct with people .. help me overcome being overly caring , overly apologising and pleasing people.. help me be myself.. please Lord please help me ..

I treat others with high care and neglect myself because I can handle myself... I cannot express emotions to others and cannot realise emotions of others... Including like 80% of the things in the video.... Yea I see that I am one

I only over apologize and seek external validation (I don't think I do that often, but sometimes I do). So I'm probably not a people pleaser..?

I scored really well in an entrance exam but somehow i had to hear that from others that 'you did very well' and yet still felt that wasn't satisfying or that they said that cause' they had to..i wrote abt it in a book and convinced myself how wrong that is and it helped me..

A while before i was heading to a program far from home and i met a friend there.after the program when he told me to come to a place close to his home but far from mine to just hangout and i agreed without thinking twice and i ended up coming home real late..

When i used to be in hostel,before an exam someone who didnt know anything asked me to help him but i knew if i didnt i could score much more and yet i helped him..

I used to find it very hard to say no but after i found out about such things and after i dived deep into myself and saw what caused them i think everything's suddenly getting better..i think its much more better not to bother or care much and i understood prioritising yourself over others sometimes need not be selfish ..

I am, for the most part, a people pleaser who finds it hard to say no, but I'm getting better. One thing I have found over the years is that by always putting others first? Has made me bitter and resentful and that's toxic which can impact on one's mental and physical health.

I feel a deep sense of fear and anxiety by watching this.

I really need to stop being a pussy boy 👦🏻

I'm definitely a people pleaser 😢 I hate myself for being one . Don't get to set boundaries like I should! My narcissistic father has turned me into one . I despise him for that he doesn't respect me it hurts when your own family takes you forgranted .

Am a people pleaser but I don't agree with everyone

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recently my friends called me a people pleaser, as an insult, and I asked them if it didn’t just mean I was kind and nice and now I stumbled upon this video, must watch.

Och my first time realizing it all the things on the list is all that I do

I've always thought that I'm a people pleaser but thank god now I realized I'm just nice😂 I stand for myself

Is being people pleaser bad?

I honestly can't remember the last time I've said no to someone other than something about money since I don't get allowance😭😭😭

I knew it...

I'm a people pleaser 😢

I've been a people pleaser for years. It's hard to get out of it. But I have been trying to get out of it. I've said no about some things recently. Because I've found out how people can take you for granted.

I am a pepole Pleaser and now i have started rp Try and speek up for myself and it just enda up with someone screaming at me there opinion or they sideing up agenst me.

I agree with all of this thank you for educating us.

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If everyone was people pleasers, we wouldn't have bad people causing problems on the people that don't cause problems on others like people pleasers don't. And we could live in peace because we would all be pleasing one another. From reading most the comments I see there's allot of good people pleasers that feel bad from this video and will self-center more that will hurt the people there pleasing that rely on their people pleaser. The Bottum line is the only reason why were still a living civilization is because the people pleaser so there's nothing wrong in being one. You're actually a nice person because you're showing your kindness rather than keeping it to your inner self. You create peace by being a people pleaser and you care more about everyone instead of just yourself because you care about everyone instead of just yourself Which proves you are a good person and should feel proud of yourself. You are a good leader and others should follow you.

Who do you call a "nice person"?

I am very much of a people pleaser too be honest, and one other point that I think people pleasers have is that once someone gets a good impression of them, they will worry about how long the impression can last.

Not great that it's phrased as "guilty of beinf a people pleaser", personally this is why it took me so long to figure out I had this behavior pattern: because "people pleaser" is a term with so much stigma attached. Isn't there a diagnostic term for it? Also, the video doesn't say how this behavior might be a maladaptive schema carried over from childhood, or how you can learn to change your behavior. It should at least point to some resources. The way the ending is phrased just heaps more guilt on you, the viewer.

Yep, just making sure

So i see that i relate to three of the things on this list which is the uncomfortable with conflict, seeking validation, and not speaking up about my feelings or struggles but i dont know if that necessarily makes me a people pleasor or not so what exactly could it be?

I am and it's killing me please HELP!!!

The amount of times I say sorry in a day....sigh

I pleased people too much, and now when I'm trying to be sincere with myself nobody gets it they think I'm changed and not the same person anymore 😂

I'm a people pleaser who can't please people, I don't know how else to put it

Cut that out people are not people pleaser I happened to care and love people. So stop it.

God, 8 for 8, I'm really bad then

Do you have stories of when you might have felt you were people pleasing and how did you handle those thoughts?