Is It Possible to Avoid the Friend Zone?

Thank you

yes, just dont interact with them as a friend lol

Is the friendzone really that gendered? I have seen websites made by women for women explaining why you are the "girl in the friendzone."

Be unambiguously clear from the get go that you are romantically interested. If the feeling isn't reciprocated set them free and stop having contact

Don't be ugly

I like the Friendzone. Not every relationship with a woman has to be sexual. Make friends, don't date, and be happy with the life you've built.

You can avoid the friendzone only one way - DON'T HANG AROUND HOPING FOR A RELATIONSHIP.
Women decide within seconds of meeting you whether you're a valid choice. Nothing you do afterwards can increase your chances. Decrease? Absolutely.
Cut your losses lads.

I'm ugly asf, Ima stay in the friendzone for Like 20y , and also broke, not even 6' bruh.. and chronically underwright with lvl 2 autism💀

damn i went through the friend zone for 1 year.she said she got a bf so i cut the cord. been feeling better ever since

Yes, you can avoid the friend zone. You simply have to refuse it. You have to be willing to risk, getting nothing. It's barely even a risk. You're probably not getting a romantic relationship with that person. She already made up her mind about romance with you. The sooner you choke down the medicine, the sooner you're cured. When I plainly quit showing up, I had time to find someone else. When she came back, I couldn't remember what the big deal was. The woman who became my wife was the woman who gave me a lame excuse as to why she wouldn't go on a date with me. She gave me a lame reason. I said ok, maybe some other time and hung up before she could answer. I crumpled up her number and tossed it. A week later, she's looking for me.

me: hi

her: hi

me: i have noticed that i have romantic feelings for you

Well, it's pretty easy, don't date in the first place, and don't have friends of the opposite gender

1st time I actually agree with this dude

I've lost like 5 years of my life due to this shit with different girls. Telling me they love me and want me "but IDK" 😂😂😂 now I'm 24 and I've been robbed of my childhood and teen years. I'm s fuckin loser lol

Here after viewing the most recent members stream. You can go back as far as you want in dr k's catalog and find something useful.

I swear your videos always find me when I need them the most.

Not sure whether the Justin Wong reference in the thumbnail was intentional, but it made me laugh nonetheless.

The frend zone doesent exsist.

best way to get out of the friendzone move on and find a hobby and a girlfriend then she will consider dating you

This is a nice theory, but it’s predicated on the other party having a reasonable reaction and being a rational person. Also, from all these (and other) videos I’m feeling more and more that having an anxious attachment style means I’m completely fu¢kêd when it comes to romance. It’s just another thing to add to the list of insecurities that have recently seen my 15 years of unsuccessful attempts at relationships turn to 16 years. I always think these videos will help me but I seem to feel more and more hopeless/helpless after watching.

I am in love with plenty of people…

If ur watching this. It’s too late

The BEST way to avoid the Friend-zone is to be clear on your intent in the first place, NOT accept it, and walk away.

SIR CAN YOU MENTION THE STUDY I WOULD LIKE TO READ MORE ON THAT?

But dr k dr k. Should you tell them if you develop feelings when you legitimately were just trying to be friends and they already have a relationship so confessing your feelings might be bad because its best to respect when they have ongoing relationships.

Friendzoned guys, remember: You're not in love. You're desperate, lonely and you think you can't get a girl so any girl paying attention to you turns into a fixation. If you had an active sex life you wouldn't fixate like this.

I have the problem where I have a friend of the opposite gender, but then other people insinuate the friendship is an attempt to develop a more intimate relationship. This has resulted in toxicifying the friendship and in most cases the friendship then ends. Also in some cases my friends actually have a SO, but then said SO hears the whole "oh you're trying to get with so and so" and then the SO becomes very defensive and then I lose yet another friend.

This has happened so many times, it saddens me. I legit did not try to get with my friends, they are my friends, I love them as such and no mre than that.

what if they’re your roomate🤠

This is very dope!! Thank you so muchhh 😭🙌✨

It took me a long time to understand that some relations are just not meant to be no matter how much you want them to be. most of the times its not even because you lack something, some people might not see you as a partner for various reasons but it doesn't mean that no one will. If you find yourself overthinking or being depressed for being in the friendzone then just stop chasing that person and find someone else. Men and boys always neglect self love and give control of their emotions to someone else, which almost never ends well, respect yourself and take care. You are amazing!

Ya man i gotta leave them again 😂 we knew eachother as friends of a group & she was dating someone else in thr group. He dumped her & some us stayed friends we got closer & she seemed like she was showing feelings for me then I started feeling her didnt express much interest cuz I didn't think she was fully interested then i saw she was doing things with another dude on social media and I ghosted. Came back and it repeated now I'm under the impression she doesnt feel the same about me and just wants to game together. 🤷‍♂️

Guys I did it and the girl digs me back I kept avoiding it and getting scared then after missing an opportunity I planned to take I just went for it and even had to bust out Google translate

Friendship is bull******. It's really simple: when they see you "as a friend," they want you to leave theme alone. If they REALLY wanted to be your friend, they would invite you for a hangout or some lunch or some sort of social activity. But they don't, they just ghost you. To be friend zoned is just another manipulation tactic just to not be "mean" and not say "no" to you. So here's my advice: she wants to friendzone you, gents, forget her. Her loss, her failure to recognize you as something worthy, and your gain in another stepping stone of determination to make yourself a better man. Work on yourself harder, better, and keep shooting your shots.

I was on bumble and someone that I liked said that they didn't see me that way and just wanted me as a friend, and I said hey that's fine the friend zone is alright with me :) and then they said that "friendzone is an incel term" so they are below my friend in my book....

As a girl I cant imagine being wiht a friend for a long time and they have been romantic in thier mind 😮😢

Don't overthink it... I you have to talk about it with your "friend", you are a friend.

what is the study he is talking about?

Funny thing I started off watching a video about Friends Paradox for my grad class here, I ended watching two videos, one about online dating and now Is it Possible to Avoid the Friend Zone. So I downloaded an app to make friends. I made friend with one guy who was looking to make friends as well. We hit it off and I was just ecstatic to make a new friend. He would text me almost every day, on his way to work and after work. I told my female friends about this new friend, they thought he may be interested in me romantically since which man would be so invested in spending so much time texting a woman? I completely disagreed; I just feel why would a man if interested in a woman would suggest her to join Coffee Meets Bagel even when she told him she was not looking to date anyone since she was so busy with grad school. Then one day my niece wanted to see his profile. She pointed out in his bio that he is looking to make new friends and open to see where it would lead to. I am not sure why many men think romantic relationship can evolved after being friends for a while. They forgot about the "friendzone" which often happen in platonic friendships. In my case, not that I believe my friend likes me in any way, but 1) he has friendzoned himself by trying to encourage me to join Coffee meets Bagel and 2) friendzoned me by saying he is not looking to be in any relationship now but will be ready in a few months time. Anyway, it had been 6 weeks since we started talking. We met for the first time last Sunday for brunch. I believe we had a great time and he said he would see me this weekend. However, I feel our friendship is running its course. I actually felt our friendship fizzled after the 3rd week when he stopped texting me much. It was almost like he lost his enthusiasm in cultivating our friendship. Last Sunday he mentioned he would be extremely busy at work. I have not heard from him since. I just can't believe one could not spend 5 sec to text and say hi. So if he does not value our friendship anymore, I will just have to let him go.

Yah.

1) Be attractive
2) Don’t be unattractive

Yeah, it's possible.

By not talking to anyone at all. That way you can avoid all possibility of being rejected and being "friendzoned" or whatever bullshit it is that incels came up with.

just don't accept a friend-zone relationship. Having dignity and self respect allows you to stand up for yourself and avoid exploitation. Also, don't act like her boyfriend or allow her to use you like one without actually being one.

In short get rejected hope you can reject your feelings too

The only way to get out of the friend zone is to not get into it in the first place, DONT ASK OUT YOUR “FRIENDS”

I started developing feelings for a girl friend, and I was ashamed about it because she was in a relationship with my friend. I couldn't tell her. Probably should have, but I really couldn't, given the situation. So I just became distant and reduced exposure, as dr. K advised. They got married last week, and I've been having lots of mixed feelings since I was invited and attended the wedding. I was happy for them, but also felt lonely and sad for myself because I habe been struggling to make space and free my mind of the dead-end feeling I was having for her. It is really hard, and I still think the right thing to do right now is to go on and forget about all of this, even if it's really hard because I see them often.

shoutout to whoever get paid to insert absolutely useless graphics on the screen every 20 seconds because they're scared people will click off 11 minutes in without the most basic of visual stimulation.

I met a lady and told her how I felt about her fairly quickly. She said I was like her brother. Then being the dumb ass that I am, I continue to just be her friend anyway. I haven't gone insane over it but I still find her very appealing. But I am keeping myself at bay. I don't think I overly emotionally invest in her. I just don't like the idea of cutting her off just because she didn't like me romantically.

Yes. It is possible. Just don’t act like her friend and show sexual interest in her right away by flirting. Stop being her friend when you don’t want to be.

I think a big problem is that a lot of men go into the friendship expecting it to evolve into a romantic one and that's how they get this feeling of putting in all this time and effort only to get "friend zoned". If you actually value the girl as a friend first then it's unlikely the term friend zoned would even come to your mind. You would simply chalk it up to being rejected or her not feeling that way and he okay with that and not let it bring you down. You are also probably doing something wrong if you have several girls you feel something towards and they all friend zone you. That tells me you are probably playing it safe and building a friend chemistry with them instead of being up front about your intentions or feelings from the get go. More often than not if you have romantic intentions they will be able to pick up on that early on based on your chemistry with them and the way you carry yourself around them but if you are making it seem like you are just their friend you are letting all this time go by where they are building a friendship dynamic with you and moving further and further away from the romance zone and before you know it, you are getting a little more comfortable with them and making your move and catching them off guard because they didn't know you felt that way. I'm speaking from experience from my past btw and what I learned from those years and I know this isn't the case for everyone all the time but based on what I've seen both from my own experiences and others I feel like this is the case a lot of the time.

Lack of communication and transparency.