8 Reasons INFJs Stay Single Longer Than Other Types

I never married and will never marry but could use a couple
Of good friends though

Infj-t. Fun fact. I like talking about the weather because it is light slightly impersonal and yet deep on a subtle way way to get to know someone. It helps me know if someone pays attention to the moon, what happens in the sky, nature, the seasons and their physical environment and how in tune they are with the rhythms within their surroundings. It is a great way to test for depth of moods and compatibility and values. Without them knowing a simple talk about the weather and I have learned so much about your personality and temperment. Just in case any other infjs out there needed this tip/social hack. Bc yes other things get exhausting and I would rather talk about the weather than hear celebrity gossip of a culture I don't tune into. So moral of the story sometimes weather talk can be deep depending on how you talk about the weather.

How do I know if I'm a true INFJ or just traumatic person?

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Dating is so exhausting, it’s impossible to explain to someone that they’re a great person, but you can’t be with them because you can foresee the relationship problems you’ll have with them 5 or 10 years down the line 😭

Hello! Thank you for the insight!. Generally, I don't date. Not because I am not open to a relationship, but because I don't really come across many men who are kind, fun and interesting/attractive (to me). I can usually get two out of the three, but that third quality is quite elusive. And, while I am not really big on socializing, I do get out and about, following my own interests, alone. So, there is always a chance I might run into some magical creature who peaks my interest along the way. Who knows. I am cool either way. Enjoy the day my fellow INFJs!

as INFJ and November Scorpio, i am doomed....😂😂

He said I am an infj.😏

Thought I found as close to perfect a partner I could find until he showed disrespectful behavior towards me in front of his friends. Decided God's the best relationship I will ever have so forget everyone cause I need my peace.

The part you said about learning and trying to share with people because it excites you, is so true. I find that my real friends don’t get offended, but others do and it’s you being your authentic self.

I am thankful that I found your channel! I hope that I am not double sending this comment because I accidently clicked at the wrong time. As an INFJ who is now widowed and in my 70s, I find that being alone is comforting at times and yet very lonely. It would be a blessing to have an intelligent, supportive and loving man in my life, someone to love and support and nurture in return.

Honestly, I don’t think INFJ’s can have friends or roommates either. We just don’t blend well with anyone. 😔

I wonder if INFJs are highly anointed by God for special work in this world and this makes other types upset…

This is such a great space! Thank you, Jay, for these very helpful videos. Cheers to all my INFJ friends!

I am intj male,i have found infj female, i am 64 she is 30, i think she is the most interesting type i can imaggen.

Can you imagine going to a party of hermits?

It never occurred to me that it’s not normal to want to consume learning content 😅. I never have time enough for the things I’m interested in.

From my earliest memories, I felt like I was watching the world and not really part of it. I'v always been very intuitive in different ways. So, I found comfort in nature and being by myself. I love being alone to this day.
I played the game of being married twice but only to please my parents or someone else. I was taught that's what you're supposed to do. Pff.
I'm glad that I have discovered that I'm an INFJ. Now I know and love who I really am . Because I wear the lable as an artist, people accept me more for my unusual behavior. But now I understand. Thankyou .

“All you ever have is opinions” is a hard one to shake off from a partner.

I am an infj who is generally always in relationships. I think it maybe because I don't place a man in a position of needing to understand and agree with my complexities, just acknowledge my uniqueness. It also helps that I am generally always willing to listen to and improve my partner. married 10 years.

My Ni says you might pair well with an isfp or isfj 🤔SF femalessuit the caring mother role just naturally ,,Another dating insight for you to date based on vibesss🌀/auras 😝i would guess you have a 🔵Royal blue aura 👑: 🌀This color represents a highly evolved spiritual person with excellent intuitive and psychic abilities.,, they say royal blue aura matches well with orange ,lavender ,gold or yellow auras ,so basically Jayson you are a spiritually evolved human 🪽 so you would need a person who also has a spiritual vibe or someone who is not necessarily spiritual and intuitive but who can be understanding and protective of your energy ⚡️ keep us in the know 😝🤞🤞🍀

I actually love talking about the weather because I see weather as the language of the Earth. Weather can effect everything for that day and I enjoy sitting with people admiring nature :) But I realize I’m an oddball

Thank you for another great video 🤗. I was single for long times in my life and had only a small number of relationships. I’m married for 7 years now with an ISTP man. He has a good character but it’s often tough too, because we are so different. Sometimes he tries to understand things I feel and I try to explain it. But with his kind of brain he doesn’t seem to understand at all. I don’t blame him for that.
To be true sometimes I miss the times when I lived alone.
Your channel is really helpful. We might be special and rare but there are still some people out there who understand us ☺️.

I made the mistake of marrying someone with Aspergers.. it’s pure hell

I have no intention to ever getting married too
But one thing I think what really makes me think that and stay single is that I think people can’t come and talk to me in the first place because I am weird to them and seem too serious and so perfect compared to them and me on the other hand don’t bother welcoming them because I think I meant to change the world and I have bigger goals so I don’t put any effort in making any relationship work 😅
I am focused on building something to help the world and to be the best version of myself, truly I capture myself a successful leader or a founder of a startups that changed everything like Sam Altman for example. Never even as a kid captured myself in a bride dress or something I’ve always wanted to be on a stage with a microphone in front of a huge crowd. INFJ confession 😂

You killed me with "We'll go back to our room and continue reading Lord of the Rings" lmao

I am an INFP man and happily single.

I'm trying to give myself grace and space to heal for as long as I need while not totally closing myself off to any opportunities, but after spending over a decade in a relationship that became toxic and codependent and seeing my ex do everything I predicted they would do afterwards, it's really hard not to feel jaded and distrustful of people. It feels like most people spend most of their lives chasing other people rather than working on themselves and learning what a healthy relationship is supposed to be like and how to truly care about and be a partner. After doing a lot of self-reflection and study I've had to come to terms with the fact that I can't be in a relationship with someone without that deep emotional connection and deeply emotionally investing in it, and I don't have it in me to put all that heart and care into someone again that can't reciprocate the same level of respect and dedication. I'm not perfect and I don't expect someone to be perfect or to feel as much as I do, but it seems like expecting someone to be an equal partner and respect and accept me is too much to ask. If that means I'll be single for the rest of my life, after everything I've experienced, I think I can live with that.

Try and find a INTJ😂

Thanks for all of this. Discovering all this at 34 is fantastic. Not even upset I didn’t learn it sooner, though it certainly would have helped. Probably not a surprise I believe things happen when they’re meant to. Glad I am here now to learn and move forward.

Unfortunately…that person doesn’t exist 😂 ahhhh that got me 🤣

I really should check out the Lord of the Rings.

"Get outta here smegal" had me giggling on a deeper level.
Thank you for making this group ❤
I never feel like I can connect with anyone with such fakery this day and age. Your videos make me smile and not feel so alone 😊

I have a policy and people always find me odd because of it.
"People date for one of these two goals
1- To break up
2- To marry"
Take your pick and get it rolling.

INFJs believe they know what they want (Ni Hero function). However, their Ti - Te axis (child - trickster) is what often times undermines them because faulty internal thought process + Te (not enough external data collected). Thus, take care INFJs.

INFJ as a male sucks 😑

We should create a INFJ whatsapp group chat

I'm an Intj single male looking for an Infj queen 🎉

Because I insist on true love and not a business transaction. I've seen the latter and I'd rather be alone.

I’m an INFJ who’s been in a 6 year relationship with an ENFJ. We match like peanut butter and jelly. We are so similar but our introverted and extroverted differences balances us out beautifully. It’s definitely hard to find someone who is compatible to our unique personality but they’re out there somewhere. Cheers 🥂

Thank you 😊

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Correct.

I am ENFP-T. I am also a hermit and a loner. 😶‍🌫️ In relationships, I self sabotage, test them if they will stick with me no matter what... Because I crave soulmate kind of relationship, full devotion, loyalty... Unfortunately nowadays most desire sex, instant gratification... I crave deep emotional, intellectual, spiritual, physical compatibility. I crave perfection... But at the same time I enjoy my alone time very very much. I am a wild, free spirited person, continuously learning, exploring the world but when I am in a relationship, I, unfortunately, tend to be so obsessed, possessive, jealous, controlling...I lose myself into another person, kind of forget who I was, how free spirited, funny, joyful, wild, curious, childlike spirit I was... For the past 6 years I have been single despite my attempt to be with someone who I thought was my soulmate and eventually being blocked by him due to my tests on him... I kept being single... Now I feel like I am obsessed with freedom...

This was meaningful. Thank you. :) I've been to 36 countries and I'm just so shocked that no one seems to care or even asks about it. Like it's an every day occurence. I guess the irony is I achieve these feats because nobody does or did really make an effort. If I felt loved and listened to I would of probably never left.

I felt heard after watching this. Just like that it made my day. Thanks!

Stay single stay happy. Today's relationships are materialistic.

I am so an INFJ 😅

I am the most INFJ person ever😵 it’s such a complex or foreign concept to be a complete hermit who is emotionally profound… that’s why I find it difficult to date. I’d rather jump into marriage directly but in this day and age, it’s harder. So I just stay single…