Saying I Love You First | You Can Sit With Us Ep. 123

Becky: Why are all the sex dolls females??
Matt: You tell me.
Becky: I didn’t do it!

MADE MA LAUGH OUT LOUD. REBECCAAA! Also, just listening to you vamp in two back-to-back podcast episodes this week is just chef’s kiss

Maggie retelling that day when Zach told her he loved her all bashful is so adorable! And the pact she and Becky while their partners were befuddled cracked me up! But seems like a good arrangement!

The whole thing with the sex doll is sooo funny!!! I used to really like watching Real Sex on MTV and the sex doll episode sticks out to me a lot for whatever reason 🙃 but they are customizable to look the way you want them to look (red flag if doll looks like her or ex wife) and can be warmed up though I can't remember how they did that. They do make male sex dolls as well that also warm up. It's WILD. Also Lars and the Real Girl was a weird but great movie. I recommend watching it 👌🏼

I used to work somewhere that sell sex dolls. There are inflatable ones, they do have heads. Bezos probably doesn't show them because it has an open mouth for that option too.

When I met my husband I was done with bad exs and my sis said do u still wanna be a old dog lady i know a good guy and wow lol but he told her tell her he was older and heavy and when she said that I said and what, doesn't mean anything and over a thousand messages later in a night that's when I knew it was real

We need You Can Sleep with Us asap. 🎉

I would get an OF for you can sleep with us 😂

I too, gasped, at what idiot would cheat on Matt. He is a witty delight

Hey Mags, can you please not eat on the podcast 🙏 or make that tapping noise with your mouth (you do it when you describe yummy food) it genuinely hurts my ears because I'm sensitive to sounds

Lars and the Real Girl is a really good movie for someone who is studying psychology, specially the personality of the human being and coping mechanisms. Please don't describe it as if a grown man used a sex doll everywhere, because it wasn't like that, although that comment made me laugh a lot

Maggie's breakfast is very reflective of my day to day breakfast... because ADHD. In a dream world I eat better breakfasts everyday.

my mother freaked the fuck out the first time I had male housemates. "what will your neighbors think" and whatnot. I was like "well, they can introduce themselves and get to know me I guess." anyway!!! my relationship with my mother was severed before I had to find new housemates.

My roommate left a sex doll in his closet and a flesh light in the shower when he moved out. So awkward

as someone who’s boyfriend worked at a goodwill for like 2 years… people do donate sex toys 🙃 new and used 🙃

I would love, love, love to have their dad's on the podcast. The mom visits have been so much fun!

anyone else lowkey concerned when they asked if an “interesting laugh, hums a lot, etc.” were red flags or dealbreakers? red flag is even kinda strong in my opinion for something like someone’s laugh😭 no shade. just confused. love the pod always!

In response to sex toys - there's a toy called a f**k machine (there's a few different types) for people to use who want to get penetrated. I would think there's not as many sex dolls with penises because there are so many other creative toys that are easier to move around and don't resemble dead bodies 😂😂

Idk if it’s because im a freak but this has to be the funniest and interesting episode everrr😂😂😂

The bit about how much you see each other is fascinating! Granted, I'm 38, and also polyamorous, but I feel like when I first get interested in someone I'm all "ooh I wanna see you allll the time!" but what that means in practice is maybe twice a week? Weekly seeing each other consistently would be a super serious relationship, more casual maybe 1-2 times a month. Even the partners who live in my house (I have a basement apartment I probably see once every 2-3 days. 😂

Becky!!! 😂😂😂😂 no blinking eyes!! That’s tooooo creepy. Lmao! ❤❤you all!

Truly loved this episode- ughhh but it makes me miss Ariel though. She's always been so sex positive. I would have loved to hear her reactions and thoughts. Maybe one day. (I get it and I know, but I still miss her).

Becky wants to RANT on Ned but can't

I remember the video with Samra Asrat and I want her to appear on the podcast again.

Can someone tell me which podcast had the “twin flame” original story? I love it when people follow up but I can’t remember which podcast that was 😢

Rachel I love your sweater! So cute!

I miss Ariel, I feel like she gives great love/sex advice. Everyone else is still amazing though!

I would say him saying a big part of his divorce was not having enough sex is a huge red flag...maybe we're missing some important context. If not, sounds like he was probably with a woman closer to his age and possibly could have been beginning menopause which can cause low sex drive and hurt a womans self esteem which could also lead to less sex. He choice to leave and I believe started dating his current girlfriend when she was 25ish. So what happens if her sex drive lowers? Will he leave and find a younger woman again? This is me assuming we are not missing important context.

Miss Ariel <3

You guys have ruined my Amazon search history and recommendations 😅😂🤣

Sell the doll online lol. I watched an episode of weird collections once and this older couple collected sex dolls. Apparently not for “sex” lol. They had them all over the house.

Sometimes I put on this podcast while I'm working, because I don't have to watch, and this one cracked me up. The sex doll convo and Rachel's snicker, thinking about warming it up in the microwave... gold.

I sooo want to know the full story of Becky and Keith's first break up. She clearly went to a full-on party without him so what got them back together? Not gonna lie if a guy did that to me I would be ticked off and demand a ride back home, assuming they went in one car! (If any of the trypeeps read this, no pressure if neither of you wants to tell)

I love that Becky talks about breaking up with a guy because he got her a burger with mayo and in the most recent Eat The Menu Keith freaks OUT when a tiny bit of mayo got on Becky's hand. He knows her so well!

does anyone know the episode with the original question about twin flames?

can anyone tell me where Rachel got her jumper from

My best friend told me that when her husband dies (hopefully decades from now) she's gonna move in with me. We hate liars too.

Might as well do a dump run for the coffin box and everything else they're throwing out while cleaning up the basement.

It took me a while to come around to my love.
I met him when we were 17 and I denied my feelings bc i was in a bad spot for a while. I decided to allow myself love when i was 21 and left a failing 3.5 relationship/ engagement. Not necessarily for him, but we did end up together soon after.
We're expecting our first child in January 2023.
I'll say you don't question it so much. If you're having so many questions, then maybe step back.

Me and Rachel had similar tragedies and exes. I like how she framed it. The tragedy/trauma was too much. Relatable.

It's great having Matt on the pod. He's fun.

I absolutely adore Maggie, cuz she always takes a medical and scientific view on things and it tickles my nerdy brain in such a nice way.

EVERYONE in this podcast is so cute <3

BetterHelp is sketch if not a full-blown scam - it has known privacy issues and some of its therapists are really unprofessional (unclear where their certifications come from or how BetterHelp screens them). Also just contact 24/7 with a therapist is not exactly healthy or helpful to process what you gain from therapy. It may be the only thing accessible for some people, but it is really just... not great.

I think the best way to get over a crush is to humanise them, cuz we make them as a perfect being in our head. Find things in them that makes them a human being

I completely relate to Matt’s finding anew ick to get over your crush