7 SECRETS Of Successful Relationships (Proven by Experts!)

I always want to resolve the fight right away. Get it over with and go back to the way things were.

I love your videos Matthew , wishing to meet you and take a picture with you and Audrey when I travel Australia this year .❤❤❤❤❤❤

This was beautiful 🤗 More of this, please! It's so funny, I JUST posted a comment a few days ago on another video hoping for videos with more 'how to make a relationship flourish' content, after the early dating stage. Love it!! ❤

Hi Matt, just wondering if you realized that there are many other channels popping up with your name snd profile pic giving relationship and sex advices? I suppose the actual Matthew Hussey only runs this channel, right? :)

Steven putting you on blast

Question: what if a guy comes back after a year whom you just dated but never slept with or kissed but just dated and you were the one who actually didn't want to go deeper in this ?

How do you know if it's covert narcissism or just somebody who is super unsure and 'sensitive'

If you do not do whatever it takes to make as much money as you can then when your rent is due your landlord is not going to show you mercy. Your landlord is going to make you homeless. In my entire life I have been homeless 4 times. If you do not make money your priority then you will also starve to death. I am going to do whatever it takes to see to it that I never become homeless again and if I spend the rest of my life with someone I am going to insist that they learn about budgeting and saving and investing and I am going to make sure they do not have a shopping or gambling or hoarding problem.

Audrey is a gem

"The data don't lie, babe" "THANK you, Steven" lmao 💀

I was with a partner who needed a lot of space, what would trigger my anxiety, so I couldn't 'let them go' / 'stay in their face' / 'keep hunting for connection', which made it all much worse. Usually I eventually retrieved, disheartened, and when I came back there wouldn't be repair, just moving on and not speaking about it anymore. The few times I did managed to give space and soothe myself, they eventually would come back (crying and apologising), but I already had build up my walls and would harbour resentment, so eventually after many arguments that didn't repair well, that relationship dissolved.
I worked hard on myself and learned to trust more and walk away / shut down my 'hunting-tendency'. I also learnt much better to listen to myself, to analyse what it was that happened inside me that made me angry or anxious, and to find words to express it. Also the ability to say sorry for my own conduct was something I worked on: if I want my partner to see my side and experience as valid, I need to be able to offer that humility to him!
The relationship I am currently in I started very consciously, noticing how they reacted to conflict, and if they took a stand against what I tried to bring up and we would get stuck, I saw that as a sign for me to start practicing walking away and being patient (against my tendency, but knowing that the knot would only get tightened if I kept pulling!). It turns out that my first partner was actually extremely avoidant, because I quickly saw that my current partner has a much shorter timespan when it comes to coming back or showing signs of wanting back our harmony. That build my trust like nothing else. I can now much easier let go, give time and space (and use it myself to calm down). I also saw very quickly that my man wants to repair and connect, he is willing to look at himself and be honest. When we are at a stand off and after some time apart happen to be in the same room again, he started making faces, or saying something like 'whats up with you now' in a silly voice, like it was all on me, but jokingly. I learnt to see this as his bid for connection, and I can feel him relaxing when I take my armour off and react to it in a semi-willing way. I can even make a grumpy face and say something accusatory but silly back. Then we move closer and he starts to touch me, which relaxes me, and then I feel we are moving towards repair.
What helped him tremendously was my willingness to authentically say sorry first. (I had to learn not to wait for the apology, but to pro-actively search my soul for my own faults and be vulnerable in showing him I understand his reaction first). He still tells me that that's the thing that surprises him the most, my willingness to take my part, he never had a relationship where she would be willing to apologise and truly forgive at all!
I've been having relationships where the hump of unfinished business under the rug became so huge, it became unresolvable. Now I have a clean slate all the time, and it feels wonderful!
My golden tip is to be very conscious in the beginning, to see if your crush/partner is even anywhere near your tolerable 'timeframe' when it comes to rip & repair. And hiw strongly their wish for connection and harmony with you is: It makes such a difference!!! ❤

I am just here to say what a great job you all are doing at changing the dating approach in the insane world we live in now. Congratulations and keep up the great work!! ❤

Abraham was a patriarch, his life was recorded in the Bible. When his wife had an idea, God told him to listen to her. So don't make God have to tell you to listen to your partner. Also, every CEO worth their salt knows better than to throw their weight around and refuse to be influenced by consultants and subordinates. And that applies to someone who is actually 'in charge'. There is no arrangement anywhere in humanity that sanctions men to ignore or dismiss the thoughts and feelings of those around them. The ones who do are slaves to their own insecurities.

Emotional and physical intimacy—both are vital, yet often overlooked. Thanks for the reminder!

Omgsh this is awesome! ❤ I can't wait--this is going to be my commute-listen tmw ☕️

I really like the "Michelangelo effect" you mention at the end. You are helping me in almost my first non-abusive relationship in 40 years. Thank you, Love-Life Team.

Can chemistry be cultivated as a result of having similar values?

People want honesty 😂😂😂

Get the fuck outta here. People can't be honest with themselves let alone others.

People want to hear the truth that appeases them, they can't handle real truth.

I’m new up this channel and I’m so glad I found it.

Thank you 🥰❤️🙌🙏

As a man, I think changing," How do you feel abt...", to," What do you think abt...", will get me to open up easier bec when I hear ," Feel," it makes me pause and analyze well," what am I feeling," but when using the word think it more naturally gets those feelings put into words, for example," I don't like x because x". It causes a more... say logical response, and we know men are more logical than 'emotional'.

That part about not being adversaries? That’s the one I wish I’d heard before the breakup.

Most of us weren’t taught how to repair—we were taught how to protect ourselves. And the cost of that is usually the relationship.

This kind of insight matters so much more than chemistry.

Very interesting conversation! Audrey is such a gem of an addition to the team, by the way ❤

Gottman's work is very helpful and I love that more folks are cluing into the ongoing research and new findings they are consistently putting out. Combined with work like your own and trauma effective modalities, a lot of relationships will improve and more healthy outcomes even if that means not continuing in ones that are not a good match.

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Loved it 😊

For a successful relationship, communication is super important. Talk openly and honestly with each other, and really listen when your partner is speaking.

Trust is also key. Be reliable and keep your promises. Respect each other's boundaries and opinions, even when you disagree.Make time for each other, too. Plan regular date nights and activities you both enjoy. Small gestures of affection can go a long way in keeping the spark alive

Brilliant discussion and helpful insights ❤

There is a podcast with Macken Murphy where he explains a research on what people think is important in relationship and underline what they really care about in a relationship. The results is as brutal honest as the Love Life book.

Amazing episode! Thank you 🙏🏻

I have to add that still men need coddling and women still need to contort themselves just to have conversations to keep a relationship going. Is this really worth being in relationships with them?

Wish there was a demographic stats on this. I'm certain the majority of this poll was taken by women. Betrayal is high on that list.

Just when I need it most ❤❤❤

Yes!!! I was needing this!