I Don't Think My Ex Cares At All

This situation sounds very similar to my own. It does get easier! Stay strong!

That’s one thing I didn’t feel like was nothing. I am a father and my child kept me going. You should focus on something to keep you grounded while you work on yourself, your family or friends. You’re more than just your relationship. Obviously if you’re here looking for help you probably aren’t a bad person so keep your head up.

I respect that Coach Craig doesn’t call out other coaches and content creators by name when there’s conflicting viewpoints. I think it’s kind of a respected unwritten agreement in this community that relationship/breakup coaches may disagree with one another without resorting to drama by name dropping. I only watch two channels but neither one of them call each other out by name even though here’s certain points of disagreement. Thanks coach Craig for keeping the high ground!

Hi Craig!! I want you to know today makes the Big 50 today in NC!! Thanks to the help in all your videos,I never thought I could do that,trust me. I don't feel like he cares, he hasn't reached out at all, he's an avoidant,the last texts being the end because he wouldn't talk about it,I reached my breaking point,not to mention the accusations were wrong. I miss him terribly,still think of him,worse I think he's living with someone.These past few months have been agonizing,deeply depressed. I'm hoping he thinks of me,and reaches out,but I don't hold out to much hope.

Very similar to mine ... a relationship for 10 frigging years!! Trust me - Work on yourself. You will heal in time. Things will be much much better. ❤ We are all sending love!

"YOU" are important! "YOU" are the best! As time goes by, you will certainly heal. ❤ You will find somebody better or the Jerk will get back to you. Universe works when you work on yourself.

She dumped me, and after some months of no contact she is:

- mirroring my posture (when im in public) and my copiyng profiles pics;
- repeating what i say when i talk in group,
- mirroring my voice,
- laugh of everything that i talk

But never try to starts a conversation or try some direct contact etc (i said when she dumped me that im not interested in friendship, and in case of her changing ideal, to talk/contacg with me)

Is she breaking no contact or giving me breadcrumbs?

"Thats not how most people are." There ya go. Thats why its so easy to see this as black and white. Its extremely rare for me to experience something thats real. Ive heard stories that it works out but thats just it. They're stories.

they cared enough to explore it in the beginning.. didn't they? 🤗

he or she explained the feeling very well, I remember going through that too, but in time he or she will see that it is all worth it

Hi Craig, I'm struggling. Thank you for everything truly. If you have time, I have a question. What would be the best thing to do. If you all broke up. But you broke no contact after 15, 20 days, talked for a month and came over finally after a month and it was great and all the love is still there. But two days later, shes just off, then comes to me and says I'm sacred to tell you this, but my Gparants don't want me to see you, and she doesn't even live with them. She's really not a lair and have alot of trauma from family. But she can't find a way this would work. Does no contact still apply and will it still work.. I told her if she won't figure out a way or even try to work on it I'll have to move on, and she says prepare to move on then... I sent a good by video on snap and she said I appreciate that I love you alot. I've never been in this situation and it hurts. I'm lookimg for any suggestions. And if I already messed it up. Just looking for some advice.
Again, thank you for all the videos and all you do for the broken hearted.

Excellent video Coach!
Their feelings may change but the damage they’ve done isn’t forgotten. I would never discard a person like trash or give a silent treatment. Horribly toxic behavior. Sometimes it IS best to walk away forever…. I’ve learned the hard way.

This is amazing. It's literally my story after 8 years verbatim. Just I'm the guy and my ex (female) was just like the male described in this 1st story. Thanks coach craig again amazingly insightful as always. I'm anxious. She was avoidant 😢

My ex pretended to not care and then care and go back to not caring again

At this point I don't care if she cares anymore. When she broke up with me I wanted to make it amicable and I wanted us to be friends. Because we where friends 4 years prior to our relationship and we have mutual friends and functions. When I went to her place to give her back her keyes and belongings we talked a bit and I offered her a ride to the grocery. After that she completely stopped talking to me, I was a bit sad and didn't know why until a few weeks later. Just a week after the breakup she got together with a dude she had known for some months through a computer game she plays. When I found out I begged and plaeded for a week, she told me she understood my pain and said she would help me through it and then she completely ignored me again. In retrospect I see the things I did wrong in the relationship and I see she tried to talk to me about my inability to communicate feelings since communication and transparency was important to her. That just feels like utter bs now. Even one of her breakup excuses was that she didn't want to feel alone in a relationship, and then she starts a new with a guy who lives a 3-4 hour ride away.
And this is something she did to someone she had known for 4 years as a friend and 7 months as someone she claimed to love, without any second thoughts.

A lot of great motivational quotes in this video Coach Craig! 🎉 Thank you for offering different and healthy perspectives. ❤

"I think my ex doesn't cares at all"

Indeed! 5 years has gone by and still does not give a 💩😂😂

What do you think about someone in a marriage for 27 years, husband left and moved in with rebound after 1 month. January will be 6 months since he left and 5 months since they moved in? Shouldnt this rebound blow up soon?

I'm in such a hole right now. She knows I went through a though time, had surgery on my nose which has given me serious anxiety to the point I don't want to go out, she knows all this and over the weeks became cold and ended things after I challenged her on her distance and how she had made plans with me then told me a few days later she double booked. We were LDR and all this made me uncomfortable and suspicious. I think she was wanting to end things and now she just doeant want to talk. Posting updates on Facebook about booking holidays with friends ect. I just feel so let down by her. And sad. I just want to tell her, as it seems like she doesn't care at all.

Someday I'm sad, some days angry to the point I just don't want to ever see her again, then the next I want her so bad. I'm struggling a lot, don't know what to do. I feel like she's seeing someone else, and can't help I've caused it with my negative thinking that way

I can't ascertain whether he cares so little he left or cares so much he felt he had to get away (overwhelmed Avoidant.)

I no longer have a desire to date.

My son was found non responsive in his bed by my youngest son today & I’m in another state with my ex but of course on my way home but when I asked my ex whom I’ve been abandoned by since May ( except when he wanted sex)he was raised by a gang ( in the streets) & a lil by his grandmother both his parents went to drugs & the streets & I do remember him saying he use to wonder y they didn’t want him & left him & he never stayed more than 2 yrs with a woman but with me almost 8yrs

Part 2: he showed some condolences but when I asked him can he come see tonight after his shift before I catch my flight at 5am he stated he had something to do…..the pain in my heart has gotten stronger because I would have been there for him no matter what.

If they don't care, why should you?

We broke up 4 days ago. Went into no contact and didn’t beg or plead (went with the textbook coach craig and margeret advice) it feels like she doesn’t care at all. But I will stay strong in NC and I‘m convinced she will come back. Wish me luck guys!

My ex is a narcisstic man, i really Think hin dont care about all..and him said many Times he dont mind nothing

Love does hurt ! Sometimes I feel it’s better not to have someone around who can destroy your heart!

Its been two months since we broke up, i was in shock, the first weeks ive beg and was devastated, these videos motivated me to atleast keep me sane 😢

This sounds like my situation. Together 9 years. Engaged. Helped raise each others kids. 6 weeks after I left he had someone new. Clearly she was already in the picture. He was mean, blamed me for everything and completely stopped contact with me and my kids who he claimed to love. Rebounds don’t always crash and burn. It’s been over 3 years and they are still together. Don’t live on hope that he will be back because they don’t always come back. I’ve moved on and I’m happy but the way it ended still brings tears to my eyes. Never thought he’d do that to me.

The Applebee's story sounds really sad I'm so glad you can relate to all of our stories Coach. Thanks for sharing.

Hi, got back with my ex after 7 months of no contact.❤worked on myself and created great friendships during the break up. Working on myself has helped greatly and I'm a very happy person. I was the dumper.❤

What if he said that he doesn’t love you anymore or have any feelings?

Is it even emotionally or mentally healthy to want a EX back after things don’t work out the first time?

When it comes to avoidants, damn, they go from you being the best person on the planet to pretty much hating you for no reason at the drop of a hat

I would never move to his country. From warm southern California to freezing Canada? I couldn't love anyone that much sorry 😅😊😅😊😅

Her mistake was reaching out after the breakup! Plus she didn't give him enough time to miss her. He basically used her as a safety net until seeing something he wanted to capture. She would've won if the communication was shut down and just left! When the No contact button had to be pushed she would've did it from her choice instead of being pushed to do it.😮😮😮😮😮😮
Like you always said coach "Don't text or beg them back, it will push them to run from you even faster!" I'm sorry if i have misquoted but that was her boo boo right there. She will get past this in no time she just has to disappear and focus on herself ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

Engaged 4 years,he met another girl in his new job within less than 4 weeks he planned a new life with her,new house even new house furnishings,left me christmas eve and then blocked me.
Wow my head heart world life has been smashed i feel i have no purpose no vaule

Two days ago I sent my guy a text msg “I miss you!”
And he replied “Sorry I don’t know when we might be able to meet again. I bought a house in Washington State.
But, I hope you have a happy new year.

My ex tried to tell me I split with her, after she told me she had ended it the day before. Then she moved on 2 weeks later and to leave her alone. She turned so cold so fast, if was like she never felt love at all

What's the Applebee's story?

I met my ex or whatever he was Manriar when he was working at 7 Eleven in South Gate California near my house, he is from India he came illegal to the United States, I met him in late March 2023 doing the registers, I came him my Instagram since the moment I saw him I felt attraction, I started seeing him and coming over to his place and met his roommates, I was happy, I felt he was a good guy, I'm latina, later on he left out of state in June 2023 then when he left out of state he stop responding, I left him a message once saying who's that blonde girl next to you? Then he blocked me, when I was with him I also slept with his cousin, because I ended up having feelings for Manriar and his cousin Manjinder, I felt ghosted when he left out of state and stopped responding, then one time I propose marriage to him and send him a picture of his wedding band and then he un-friended me on Facebook, I was heartbroken, i feel like he doesn't care 💔

Last time I was here was 2019. And here I am again 😂

I'm there with you my ex has a 4 year old I worry about.

Im going through something very similar right now.

I'm currently in this kind of situation.

I've been in a loving 1 ½ year LDR and we had amazing chemistry. We even were really good friends in the beginning and shared wonderful memories together. He always told me 'I love you' and how I was the greatest thing in his life. He is a child of divorced parents, his father used to have pretty strong narc tendencies and also went through multiple relationships that were toxic. I also had my fair share of toxic relationships in the past but he treated me with so much kindess and affection. I really feel at home and peace in his presence.

The breakup came out of nowhere. Obviously no relationship is perfect and we had some struggles but none of them were so major that they couldn't be resolved via honest communication. We were planning to move in together during summertime this year and were already looking for apartments to rent.

He broke up out of the blue on January 10th after a mental breakdown. One week later we had this typical convo where I was given "the reasons". It was this typical 'It's not your fault, it's mine. I'm not attracted to you anymore".
He told me how he lost his attraction around the holidays. Keep in mind there were no fights or arguments. Just family dinners and a bit of stress like always. He tried to regain his feelings and didn't tell me a word, even continued to be intimate with me as if nothing were wrong.

He even went ahead and suggested being friends. I was sooo heartbroken in that moment that I accepted it and we both cried heavily. Continued to text him after I returned home for another week but soon realised how cold and dismissive he became and went into No Contact after that. It's been almost two weeks and it's absolutely terrible. I'm constantly thinking about him and worried that something will happen to him. He doesnt text me or reach out in any way. I'm scared he already moved on to another woman.


I'm currently reading lots of self improvement books and focusing on my mental health as best as I can but the pain is almost too much to bear. 😢

My only wish is that he realises what he has given up and that this time apart will make him miss me. I know we aren't perfect but I love him. I just want us both to work on ourselves so a healthier relationship can exist in the future. Right now it feels like he never cared at all and he feels like a complete stranger to me 😭😭💔

Stop being so weak people!!! Every breakup is an opportunity to get stronger.

Really need some advice guys/gals. I was dating a girl for 4 years with plans on my end to propose to her in June in Mexico. She lied to my face that she was off work(we both work nights together) I go into work to hear she had transferred out to her home town 1600 miles away. I started to call her but her phone was off/ I was blocked on all social platforms. I came home to an empty house. She left me a note on the bed(immature if you ask me) saying pretty much saying good bye and I love you still. I haven’t heard from her in 5 weeks. My mom reached out to her because some of my stuff is missing. She replied back to my mom saying I hope all is well but please don’t contact me again and that I’m moving on. I’m mentally destroyed and heart broken and don’t know where to turn.

Can fearful avoidants understand as this after a breakup , after they jumped into a rebound impulsively for a total misunderstanding? In my NC he is reaching indirectly to me in many ways. But he act as he doesnt care.. But cant give up on me or lose me still, because he knows he misunderstood.

What about no contact when it was a long distance relationship? And the only comment is we are not friends on fb, however for my job some of my profile information, and to see how many friends I have are public. So how does no contact work when they can look at that stuff and maybe give them a fix of sort of connecting, even though they do not reach out.

Trust me when I say, there is a lot more going on with your ex than you realize!!