Unsolicited Advice | The Mel Robbins Show

Brilliant! I think so many of us have friends and loved ones that truly mean well, but need to understand that it is not always welcome or appropriate to give opinions or advice. Thank you, Mel, for getting this message across in your signature way that is filled with equal parts humor and warmth. It can truly save a relationship when the other party understands that if advice is welcome, it will be asked for. Thanks for being amazing! <3

Here’s a show idea for you related to this; What happens to me is, “Some” friends, family and often people I don’t even know will complain to me about their husbands, someone, or something, and I interpret it as they want my advice so I give them my advice, but they really don’t want my advice, they just want to dump on me. After two hours on the phone or a two hour lunch with someone like this, I am left feeling exhausted and wanting to end a friendship or at least keep a distance from that person. The irony is the next time I see them and ask them how the situation is going, they can barely remember the conversation and what they complained about to me! Aaaawk! Now I just listen and say filler words like, “oh I’m so sorry”, or “that’s terrible” etc! I’m also getting better at changing the subject, especially if their’s is a repeat problem, with no resolution.
I Love your show Mel, and feel this would be a great topic for one of your show segments!

This might also be a validation-seeking behavior, as when someone has the thinking that "They need me!" There may be genuine intention of wanting to help people and to share knowledge, because it feels good, but that's the problem. Sometimes it's contaminated with the "need" to be needed and to be the knowledgeable one and the care taker.

❤️this guest!

Great show

That was a good reminder and advice

It's a nice and funny reminder, that might help at the start, but i doubt it also works in the long term, coz it's a habit she enjoys. Just listening won't give her the little dopamin she craves.

The interesting part about this (from my viewpoint), is that I think some people do this to avoid their own imperfections while being overly opinionated about other people's imperfections. My grandma said, you have six months to mind your business, and another six months to leave other people's business alone, and that completes a year. I guess it boils down to circumstance, location and situations. But, I doubt someone like her would be a friend of mine. Cheers Everybody!

Lol, How is she obnoxious and adorable at the same time?

BUT is this a legitimate psychological technique, or is it only for fun and screams from the audience?From this only to me it does not feel she will stop giving advice..to me she enmeshes into other people's life too much...may be codependent or sth...and needs therapy..not only one blowing of the balloon in the show...

I think she's not an advice giver she's an ANGEL!

This is the best show EVER
Great Mel Robbins show
I keep watching episode after an episode

Ms. Ladee!!!!

I am a mini her...lol.

Honestly she is right. She gave an advice that makes sense.
But in reality people do not like getting advice when it is not required.
Most of the time people just want you to listen.

She is a cutie ..love her.

some times advice help.

She is annoying af

This was hard to watch lol I was like who are you to tell anyone anything that you only heard 2 sentences about? But I’ve been there so maybe that’s where my ick came from. Phew I’m glad I’m working on this

Thank you

Oh Mel, you captured me on advice giving because of my 'vast' experience; thank you.. I am practicing.. I needed your advice on this. Love it!

Neither of you know if he needed it.