Is It Normal To Still Love Your Ex After Years?

I hope not...lol now that I turned from AP to Secure I dont want that to happen...I saw my DA ex 3 weeks ago with someone new and for me its a way of no return (there is this disgust thing in my head after my ex is with someone new and im no longer sexually attrackted). As an AP I can confirm that after an event like that it's way easier to let go, altho I dont want to be with her anymore after what I saw, I still love her and probably will love her forever, I have a soft spot for her...that's why I dont want her to msg me after it turns out she can't find anyone better than me, considering that I manage to be with her for 5 years...I think it's gonna be a hard task for the new partner. Hope he will manage and keep her.

Secure here. But under stress have some disorganized FA tendencies. Ex very avoidant. Hyper focused on a super anxious rebound that’s lasted beyond the “norm”. Waiting for the blow up. But it’s a very long time coming. I know I’m on their mind, though. It’s interesting to watch.

Like wow, this video. I don’t know what to say, I resonate so much with it. I just wonder how much of it is true about avoidants.

awesome video

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After we broke up my first reaction was to date again just to forget him. To be fair it was a break, but it really felt like a smooth transition into never seeing each other again. He made clear he had stopped loving me. I was devastated that he didn't want to be with me anymore. I met my current bf and let myself fall for him, although never quite experienced the same degree of love ever. When my ex called to find out what we should do, if we should go back together, I told him that after 5 months of him never talking to me, I had moved on and wished him the best. He said he had met a girl several months ago but didn't do anything with her yet, but now we were clear, he would contemplate a relationship with her. They became a couple right after that and they're still together now. It's been exactly 3 years we broke up and 2,5 year they've been together now. I still can't process it. Sometimes I want to kill myself because the pain and regret are too intense. There was not a single thing I didnt like about him. He was objectively almost perfect.
My grandfather is still hating himself for breaking up with his first gf, over 70 years ago. It's painful to hear. He says he's wasted his life with one decision. And that's how I feel. And I feel guilty for not being capable of loving my current bf nearly as much. But to be fair my current bf (the same one) is the opposite of my ex. I chose him the way he was in hope to never compare them together. But my ex was my type of guy in all aspects whereas my current one is not. Still there are tons of things I love about him. But the relationship was never easy as opposed to my relationship with my ex which was always easy and full of love.

My DA ex asked me out to dinner 10 years later!

I don't think it applies for me. I don't know. I think we're both avoidance type people. But it's been 16 years. I think I'm going through the phantom ex thing or something. He has a girlfriend and he is happy.

Awesome video and very insightful. I was dumped by a dismissive avoidant . I wonder if I’ll ever hear from her. Been 1 month no contact. I’m feeling so much better. Definitely won’t go back , be interesting to see if this plays out. 💫🙏

Pseudoscience and lies. If your ex has moved on, forgive them and move on.

Gosh I'm all of it... 8 years on 🤣

Lol this is me and my ex. She was anxious and I was avoidant. I broke up with her 6 years ago and moved to another city to focus on my career. Then the pandemic happened, made me reprioritize what was important, and I did a lot of work on myself. I'm intending to move back to where we both lived so i reached out to reconnect.

I realized she gave me every I wanted at the time 6 years ago but I was too young and immature to realize it. I'm flying back to visit and we're going to meet up for dinner. I hoping to win her back and live happily ever after...

crazy to think this video came out a year after my breakup and i have to watch this shit a year later than it came out. Hate it

Made more sense to me than everything else I've been hearing for the past few years in just a few minutes 🤔

Thats meeee. I want to recover from this.. what should i do ??

This is bullshit. All of it. Doesn't apply to me and I won't pretend it is like other comments. I've reflected a ton and that man I was with has a bar to reach that no one else can jump high enough.