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Thank you both so very much! So very helpful 😊🌈~Angela
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Ответитьwe are told "What is wrong with you?!"
you said "I got quiet in my brain" then I cried!
you are a very 💕 entertaining host!
When he said a Heroin addict is not going to say "I think I forgot to take my Heroin today." 😂
ОтветитьI could not disagree with him more when he said, it's underserved in 1990s... but that's changed in 2025. yea, I can see how he sees that, but NO, it has not.
Really glad and excited to listen to the remainder of the chat!
My husband and daughter both have ADHD and your podcast has helped me so much to understand them and how to live in harmony with each other. Thanks so much!
ОтветитьHi Cass I'm your biggest fan and you've changed my life maybe even saved my life. I just wanted to warn you that you said irregardless and I believe that's not a word and that the word is supposed to be regardless. From one neurodiverse person to another I'm just giving you a tasty tidbit. I think that you're super intelligent and I learned so much from you and I just wanted to share that one little grammatical thing with you so that you could sound even smarter than you already sound LOL I love you so much. I'm sorry if I'm wrong and irregardless as a word but I can't look it up right now cuz I'm doing something bye
ОтветитьThank you Cas, for bringing us such good content!!!!❤
ОтветитьThank you for this post, Cas.
I’m having a bad day, with lots of negative self-talk about a couple of things that have impacted me today.
As a recently diagnosed autist (82+ years), who also has ADHD, I relate to having been corrected a LOT at an early age. Perfectionism dogged me for most of my life, as a result. The diagnosis (almost 2 years ago) has opened up my heart and my mind to SEE that I am NEURODIVERGENT, that my brain processes DIFFERENTLY. I’m NOT “broken”!
Admitting that I’m “human” and fallible has been challenging, after a lifetime of attempting to be neurotypical/“normal”.
Talking to my sad, little girl self and telling her that she’s okay, that she just made a mistake, and that she’s a good girl and that I love her, is SO important.
Thank goodness for my monthly EMDR therapy sessions!
Blessings for your wisdom and humor, Cas!
C, I’m going to take the risk of making you mad so here goes…I know you wanted to be a fireman and I remember your concern was whether you, as a woman, were physically strong enough. That was then and you did it! 🎉 But you’re struggling with the militaristic structure and rules, as well as some of the subject matter you have to learn, and how it’s taught. I would like to propose that this isn’t the job for you. In a way you’re enjoying the challenge or the puzzle of how to make this work for you, the process. But that’s different than being suited for or loving this job. You wouldn’t re-enlist in the Marines if you hated the military life. IMHO it’s not a good match for your temperament. You’re obviously very talented and capable. You’ve helped me beyond what I can express, literally changed my life. Why would it be so bad to say this isn’t the job for me. It’s been real, it’s been fun but it hasn’t been real fun. Maybe someday you’ll master this and it will be worth and I’ll be full of it. Or maybe someday you’ll be a mediocre, not that happy fireman. Only you know what you truly want. I’m rooting for you, you do you, you have nothing to prove. ❤ Cheryl
ОтветитьAdhd/add meds can feel scary but for me are sooooo good! I am not physically hyper but my brain was always thinking of backup plans, and ways to protect myself if I forget that I was in constant state of anxiety trying to ‘stay ahead of it all’ for when I drop the ball.. my brain was always overwhelmed with the things I needed to get done and I had to work through analysis paralysis to just START... Now, there’s a calm focus. The anxiety of not ‘good enough’ fizzles bc ‘get it done’ is good enough… being able to be PRESENT and not rush others and extend grace and PATIENCE is ABSOLUTELY a game changer. Things get done somehow without the question of ‘am I forgetting something?’ I WISH I would’ve gotten this help when I was a little girl … but I wasn’t hyper and got good enough grades so who could have known?
ОтветитьI was diagnosed at age 55 with ADHD and it altered the way I looked back on my difficulties in my life. I finally understood why I had to make rules for myself so I didn’t mess up.
The “why” is huge for me!!!! I need to understand why you do it this way in this situation so that I can apply that to other situations. I HAD NO IDEA THIS IS ADHD!!!!
I’m not diagnosed but a lot of everything mentioned about ADHD resonates with me. Thank you yet again for a very helpful video/podcast.
ОтветитьThank you, Cass, for an excellent discussion on ADHD. I am looking forward to reading Dr. Tuckman's new book as well as his others. Our ADHD brains are literally wired differently than non-ADHD brains. ADHD can be a gift once you put in the work to learn how to harness it and make it work for you. We got this!
ОтветитьJust came here to say I really appreciate you Cass. Weird thing to hear from a stranger I'm sure. I found you totally by accident when I didn't even know what I needed. Stressed and overwhelmed. ADHDAF 😂
Decluttering & getting organised has changed my home and abilty to parent. All 4 of my kids have a calmer, funner & happier Mum because you chose to share what helped you ❤
Sooooo goood!!!! Need to get Ari’s book asap! Recently diagnosed (autism, ADHD, OCD, anxiety) 😬 35yr old female Mumma of 3 neurodivergent kids finding the meds so confusing how do I know if they are working or not? I’m always anxious, overwhelmed and scatterbrained 😂 I have 3 kids with complex needs!!!! Hard to observe myself and be self aware enough to know if my meds are right…..
ОтветитьVery helpful and thank you Cass for sharing your personal story & what you use & going through
Feedback for Dr Tuckman, drop the ‘right?’ after most statements. I know it’s a hard habit to kick, takes away from your message. Thanks
Excellent conversation. Thank you.
ОтветитьThe lack of trust is a huge thing. It really hurts our decisions.
ОтветитьI'm real aware of the moments that I'm aware and it brings me a centered feeling it does take work people do see a difference because they react to my calmness.Though I do all this for me ..
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ОтветитьKnowing we have ADHD EXPLAINS to us and others why we behave or do things how we do, but it’s not an EXCUSE. We still have to function in society. We just need others to see we can still do the job just differently. For example, my coworkers would tell me something and I would respond and have no clue what they said. I finally got them to understand if they wanted me to actually hear them, they had to get my attention, make me look them in the eyes so they knew they had my attention, and make me repeat what they said AND write it down 😂. Took some time, but they finally got it. I also kept track of everything on post it’s. I wrote and left them everywhere, then gathered them up and stacked them in a single notebook and tossed them as I completed them
ОтветитьI was diagnosed with ADD at age 41. Your comment: "If you explain the Why, I'll retain it better." resonated so much with me! If I can attach logic to the action, I can recall what is expected. The "because I said so" thing doesn't work for me at all. This is why Dana's No-Mess Decluttering Method works so well for me: the logic!! 😊
ОтветитьThis was very interesting! I also have ADHD diagnosed as an adult which makes sense from when I was a kid.
ОтветитьI am always EARLY because i have always been so afraid that I will get distracted with the "one more thing" and forget what i am trying to go to and be late. Early at least 15 minutes, but for my religious ZOOM meetings, 1/2 hour early. This is because i don't want to forget when i get distracted between 30 minutes until our meeting starts promptly at scheduled time. ... i do get distracted. I also want to be considerate to the up to 40 others on ZOOM, whom the assigned ZOOM host has to let in before we start singing.
I also use public transportation, and I need to be early so I don't miss my bus or train...
My oldest adult son has ADHD since he was younger. I researched for yrs on what meds to put him on. He went on 3 different ones and the last one worked. It helped him in school. For him, it was hereditary thru his dad side. He does good now.
ОтветитьThis was a great discussion! I was diagnosed as severe adhd when I was 49 or 50 years old. (I'm 56 now). I was able to hide a lot of my struggles through my childhood and my jobs. I wasn't a kid that bounced off the walls, got into too much trouble and I got decent grades...so my ADHD was totally missed. I then had jobs that were not detailed and I could work at my own pass some what. I always had to work a lot longer in school and in these jobs to get the work done, but I could get it done. I then took a job that required meticulous detailed work, after a year I ended up fired. I worked long hours to try to keep up but I just couldn't. So I then took another job that required meticulous detailed work. In that job, if I worked longer hours, I could keep up at first. Then they started adding more work and different kind of work to us and I completely melted down. I tried so hard. I felt stupid. I couldn't keep up. I went through the same training twice to try to grasp everything....but I did not. I went into severe depression. I also was lets say, starting the menopause process and not one doctor ever mentioned how this could affect me either. It was around this time I did some testing and dianosed as severe adhd. I ended up on disability. It took me a while to get mentally better and understand I wasn't dumb. I did not have bosses that understood or would work with me to explain things in a way I could understand. I even got in trouble when I was caught sneaking into work early to try to stay caught up (they said they could get in trouble for not paying me). It was traumatic. I tried a medication but it really didn't help, I then tried vyvance and had a manic episode for a few months. Was diagnosed bipolar, but it really was the vyvance not bipolar. So I am unmedicated but living my best life lol.
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ОтветитьWhat’s the hack to read the entire book? You are asking an ADHD to sit and read. How do we do that?
ОтветитьA lot of people have been doing well with just eating the carnivore diet.
ОтветитьI have struggled with this my whole life , and it's even more frustrating when the meds stop working. I remember finding a med bottle in my mom's cupboard a few years ago seeing that I had been on ADHD meds back in the mid late 90's at 8-10 years old I'm now 37 and have tried so many meds and the issue with another condition that makes meds less effective or processed faster making meds not actually available in my system as long I feel frustrated with doctors treating me like I am an addict. I've never had a problem with addiction and honestly fought not to be on meds for so long and would stay away from the meds I needed, that it's frustrating when you go to the doctor and your like hey I know that it seems like it's a lot but it's not actually working anymore what do I do now and they just act like your getting high or are going to go sell them on the street. It's gotten to the point where because also as a woman I'm not treated the same when I'm on my own, that I have to take my husband in with me to any appointment regarding my meds because he's the only one the doctor "trusts" or regards as a sound voice. Like I am working my butt off I truly am to take my life into my hands but man sometimes there is heavy guilt over the things that don't feel in your control and you may have meltdowns or just can't handle anything more and it's like you don't want to be this 5 year old stuck in the body of a 37 year old and even worse is that you are literally screaming on the inside while the 5year old version is coming out. Inside you're like no no no this is not what I want to be like for the love of all things please stop yet it's like nope your meltdown is here you are overwhelmed you forgot to eat you weren't hungry you dropped something for the last time hit your head off the corner knocked something over and you just are an absolute mess.
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ОтветитьI definitely want to read this book!! I have a feeling it will make me cry though. In a good way
ОтветитьThanks for this Cass and Dr. Tuckman!
Going into a situation knowing you will embarrass yourself is the BEST way to learn. Not comfortable but best. ❤
Highly recommend the podcast and website Additude Magazine !!
This is great. Thank you. I've been struggling with back and forth opinions from different doctors. At 30yo it was suggested and everything made soooo much more sense. And knowing how my brain works is the beginning of getting my life in control ❤
ОтветитьPlease add cookware link to Description. Spelling is important; only saying link doesn't tell me the spelling. 😂 I know adhd thing.
ОтветитьI was more productive when I had a job, as there was plenty of structure, although I had plenty of variety, as well.
When I left to stay home and deal with a disability, the lack of structure and having to work around the various aspects of pain and other limitations really threw me for a loop.
(We also moved to another state, so I needed new doctors - thankfully - but also lost contact with friends and co-workers.)
I've made progress over the past 30+ years. I'm most productive when I've written a list the night before, keeping in mind that not everything may get done.
I can refer to the written list when ADD would otherwise drag me off in different directions.
I often do a brain-dump to paper before bed, creating task lists and sorting them by category or room, etc.
I can easily verify my schedule (now that it's on my phone) and choose among the listed tasks for those most urgent (or just most likely) to go onto tomorrow's TO DO list.
I recently started using Gemini to set my appointments on the calendar. It takes only a few seconds and then I just have to worry about having my phone or a computer nearby to view the appointments. Which is still a challenge, but I think I'll probably be more likely to actually look at my calendar if I am putting things in it on a regular basis. It's particularly useful for things that repeat on a pattern for a shorter time frame. For instance a class that might meat every week but only for a couple months.
ОтветитьHaving ADHD and going through perimenopause… I feel like no one talks much about this? Is it just me? During this time my ADHD symptoms have been exponentially worse and I truly did’t think that was even possible! I feel like I’m losing my brain, my ability to function and all around, me. It feels really scary and I feel for anyone else who may be struggling with this too. ❤️
ОтветитьGreat content ❤ Thanks🎉
ОтветитьIt's funny how you Americans pronounce Ari. 😅 My father is called Ari too! I am curious to listen to this, my guess is that I am just bad at adulting. 🫣🫣🫣
ОтветитьI'm pretty sure that I have ADHD. Thank you SO MUCH Cass, for being so open about your struggles with ADHD. Thank you for having Ari on. If he's our King, then you are the Queen, at least for me! THANK YOU!💜
ОтветитьThis is so challenging in a classroom environment. There is a boy in our class who could have more successful friendships but he has specific behaviours that repel the other kids (stealing school supplies and breaking them, getting really close and yelling in someone’s face etc) mist of the kids will accept the rest of the behaviours, but get incredibly frustrated by these.
How do you balance the needs of the ADHD child with the needs of the rest of the class? Often the other children have struggles as well, but they don’t get help because they are not bothering anyone.
One of the "helpful hints" a psychologist recommended was to let my son have the TV on while doing his homework, because it was EASIER to tune it out than more interesting noises from inside or outside.
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ОтветитьExcellent I do not have adhd as far as I know but relate alot ❤❤❤❤
ОтветитьThis was amazing 👏 thank you
ОтветитьIrregardless is not a word! 😆🙃 but I love you Cas! ✨
ОтветитьI went for a walk with .y dog while listening. Normally I clean and declutter . But it's going to rain and I have a dentist appointment so crunch time baby lol
ОтветитьI see ADHD in my mom and both my kids have been diagnosed sooo.... thinking I for sure have it since I have similar habits/traits
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