BPD Do Borderlines Play Mind Games? Do Borderlines Consciously Manipulate You? Why Do You Stay?

The fact that they can behave whenever it suits them (treated or not) means they have control, they just choose not to..NO, asking for accountable behavior on them should not be considered that "we're asking it because we stil love them", NO, for some of us can't be further from the truth!..their actions as with any other adult should have consequences, this is not us asking/whining for unanswered BPD love, this is us asking for accountability on their actions, plain and simple. They don't get a pass, we don't get a pass. And I agree with you, we should all stay away from BPDs, Sam.Vaknin in one of his videos practically says they should be avoided and they should isolate from society. They trully are a destructive force.

I have seen the splitting occur during physical intimacy. One minute she's burning like phosphorus, so incendiary that she would nearly burst into flames, the next minute as cold as Antarctica. Come here go away. Push pull.

I don't know that what bpd routinely experience is genuinely psychosis

It's weird, because I've heard you say it over & over. But, you are 100% right when a BPD sees you are codependent it is like facing death with an unaliving level of fear.

Repeating that these BPD women are mentally ill does NOT help anything and it's highly anti-male.

Was with a bpd few years ago. Learned my lesson.

Than recently I started hooking up with a new woman and quickly identified her as bpd. Ended it but surprised by how I fell for it again.

Proceeding to do the one thing.

My bPD person is a male & I definitely feel he tries to mess with my head and I have a sponsor who thinks it too . Either way leaving helps . Toxic is toxic period !!

I watched your videos after my quiet BPD discarded me. 6 months later she tried to draw me back in and I rejected her because I saw your videos. It hurt me a lot to do that. I still carry the pain of the splitting and ghosting. I always have to remind myself it will happen with everyone it wasn’t just me and it’s not my fault

I have a relation with my ex girlfriend
How has borderline , was very crazy
Many mind games , out side from my self I look fine but inside my self I was totally drying.
I think I was getting crazy
With anxiety, stress ,guilt
She used to say things, and wen I asked wy you said that
Her answer was I didn't said that
Was a crazy relation.
I am happy we are Finnish
But I wish a good luck for her in her life , she is a human like everyone .

I am really sorry that you went through a bad experience with a woman that has BPD. It is also makes me really sad how you present BPD. It was interesting to hear the other side, how do you experience a relationship with us.
I do have BPD because of events in my past that I didn't chose to have. No I am not trying to find excuses for my mistakes but I do love people that close to me, I do genuinely care about them, I do trying to please them because it is what I am used to do all my life to survive and not to catch them in a trap or something. I am communicating very openly about my needs and uniqueness (in a bad and good way). For some of them it is too much and I understand. I never meant to hurt anyone intentionaly and if I see that I was wrong I always apologize.
Yes it is a mental illness and it will stay with me forever all I can do is to grow my awareness. But does it mean that I don't worth to love and to be loved? I don't think so. Actually I noticed that some of people with high emotional intelligence are able to cope really well with my BPD, they are not triggering me and bring a lot of peace into my life. But some of people just keep pushing on the same sensitive buttons and retraumatize me.
Just trying to bring a different perspective. ❤

I agree all these personality disorders are the same except psychopathy. Psychopathy is not a personality disorder and alot of the behaviours they have are opposite of personality disorders like not caring what people think not enjoying peoples company not needing attention or validation from people remaining cool headed and in control of their emotions etc but they do also carry traits from personality disorders like granndiosity arrogance manipulation etc secondary psychopathy is a personality disorder primary psycopathy no

Ordered the book just now. Thank you. I've been been so messed up in the head or hurt so bad by any relationship I've been in

Youre the best...thank you

Borderlines have so little empathy that it counts as none. They are wickedly self-absorbed and selfish, intentional in their manipulation and actions, mind games, vindictiveness, control, and compulsive lying. They don’t love or care about anyone anymore than a narc or psychopath does. They are just more emotionally unstable and more easily triggered and obsessed . Here’s another. They immediately and unceasingly proceed to ENMESH with you not only because of their weakness and obsession, but also to control you and destabilize your emotions and mind. They know what they are doing.

The disappearing acts... Those are what really pissed me off. I broke up with the BDP on Vday cause she literally pushed our plans back after I scrambled to make the day special. She disappeared all day into the evening and when I tried to politely let her know i didn't appreciate it, she was somehow the victim and I was told I wasn't allowed to come over at all that night... Uh huh. She then tells me i have mental problems the next day and I was the one who chose to not come over on Valentine's. She insults me, tells me not to contact her ever again and then blocks me. Lo and behold, a week later i get an email saying "Im not pregnant, I figured you probably already knew, but just in case you were wondering. I wish things hadnt gone down the way they did. I Regret my contribution. I hope you are okay"...

Already dealt with the final discard from my former bpd frenemy, IDGAF about her anymore. Since she was so content in treating me like I didn't exist, why should be any different. Blocked her and almost never looked back. To me, she was nothing but a painful sobering life lesson.

Covert narcissism and BPD are the same, that one got me thinking. I've read a lot that borderline gets a little better when they age, and narcissism gets worse, so help me out with this one.

Going numb and sticking around actually in some ways leads to more abuse and the same outcome because they see your numbness as a threat and triggers their abandonment they will lash out at this. Even though it was actually just a defense mechanism so you could stick around longer.

i believe in one God and I believe un science . that s really what happend tio me. thank u my friend for all the information

Your pitiful Mike ;) Borderlines are the best!!! None better. You can love them all you want, for about 90 days LOL! They are the best lovers, ever made!!! Just make sure the cutlery isn't sharp and know that when she splits, you got to hunt another one. Fortunately, they are everywhere ;) But that 90 days (or whatever you get) is like an adrenelin rush!! They are the perfect "pump and dumps" because you know you will never have to do the dumping!!! Their projection of love onto you is temporary and you can freely give that back because you know her delusion will come to an end. It's like a piece of "Juicy Fruit", it's wonderful until the sweet is chewed out of it. And the end is quick and like the strike of an axe. They can never be fixed and I ain't buying that "Therapy" will fix it. It is permanently "programmed in" in early adolesence. Are you so nieve to be hunting real love with a normal woman (whatever that is)? You need a mall map with an arrow that says "You are here" ;) You were probably about 18 when the last chance of a relationship with a woman who could commit to you for a lifetime passed. But now? See that map above ;) Now the tree is full of ripe fruit, all you got to do is pick it!!! Oh yeah, and rake that cutlery across a rock a few times, just to be sure ;)

I’m a big fan of Ronald Reagan. He screwed up. He never should have cut funding to the mental hospitals

I have bpd and I would say I am in a lot of pain too when I am in a relationship , I don’t want to hurt my partners

I have a 1yr old son with my bpd wife. She moved states and I don’t know what to do. Specially with my son ?

The type of dad we wanted earlier. But thankful to him. Thank you dear sir. 🙏🏻👍🏻