5 Hidden Betrayals Narcissists Use to Break You

That was my parents

Wow! You have nailed it Christina! It’s one of the best videos on this topic. The analysis of the novel 1984 is brilliant. Once they change the meaning of the words and get you confused , they have already won. Brilliantly explained. Thank you 🙏 God bless you ❤️

My second narcissist suddenly disappeared. We had just started planning on getting married when that happened. Two years later after completely ghosting me I got a call. She wanted to see me. She was extremely beautiful. And she was about for miles away (cabin in the mountains of Colorado). I had found out that she had disappeared to Canada when she left. So to get my emotions under control I walked to her location instead of driving. The cabin she was in definately didn't belong to her ! WTF ! She acted like we had never been apart ! Tried to deflect where she'd been. She was all over me ! WTF ! She stepped into the bedroom with a big smile saying she was going to put on something "more comfortable ". I stepped out on the porch to have a cigarette and just kept on walking. I've never heard from her again. I had never heard the term hoover before. But that's exactly what it was. And it had happened once before with my first narcissist. Thank God that I now understand narcissism.

Emotional whiplash. Never heard it put better. It's crushing, and it's in an instant.

Amazing insight and spot on!

Sometimes they don’t want to break you. They just want to do their addictions/perversions/abuses and have you around to fix their everyday and make them a moral screen in front of family. They live by lies amd they need the lies to sustain.

Too many gut punches.
This is so on point, thank you ❤

I feel some of me inside this and some of her.

Familiarizing myself with the fact that narcissistic dysfunction is, I am learning today to be very selective about the people I allow into my life.
Not by choice, but I am glad that I can understand the mechanisms of dysfunction, although I am still learning it and suffering the consequences of my lack of knowledge earlier in this matter.

Indeed they adore only themselves. You are merely their servant - nothing else.

Only 35 on her video and she does not reply to a single one. Disappointing. She does not care

Hello to everyone reading this. Right now, l'm inconsolable. My ex-partner left a few weeks ago, and I am heartbroken and saddened since this relationship is the best thing that has ever happened to me.
Although I tried, I was unable to win him back. I don't know what to do, but I shouldn't be posting this here.

Like death by a one thousand sneaky little cuts. Thanks Christine.

Thank you for clarifying.

This all connects well. Thank you. It is helping me recover.

Low self esteem , plus family narcissists make you crave narcissistic relationships . These abusive relationships feel like home !

They map you out and create a mental blueprint of you.

Unfortunately, my covert has decided to reach out to some of the guy's i dated in the past and use them to triangulate me. I seem to attract these types Unfortunately well I used to anyway. Now that he is doing this, I realize I can't keep in touch with him. The no contact will now feel that much more peaceful!

57 years old, adopted into n family. The layers of betrayal seem to be endless. But, praise God, He's gotten me through everything, He's teaching me who i was born to be, freeing me from binding lies. It feels like a new kind of birth.

They will bring you up, so they can tear you down. They flip the script and accuse you of being the monster.😢

Psychological manipulation, coercive control should be a crime.

Fantastic!! Very powerful🙏

My dad just sent me an email asking for my number because he misplaced it ….. I am not responding because I know he is going to find it on his own because he has often sent screenshots of printout conversations we have had on WhatsApp when ever angry conversations where being Had. Taking photos to show us what we said … when I saw the first one I realised he doesn’t trust me. So I have stopped chatting to him with general chat. I respond when he messages days later because I am sure he is trying to build up inventory to use against me in the future

Naah. War is Peace is a deliberate direct tactic, and is used by totalitarians, like Nazi's and liberals. If you at all times blame things on the Jews or on MAGA or the Immigrants or Donald Trump or the Patriarchy, you never need to examine yourself, your side, or truth. You stay firmly established in Self-Righteousness.

Give yourself time to heal , it’s like when a parent pet or friend dies. Give yourself time to grieve. We carry all our experiences

That’s a red flag 🚩
I have had that happen before, they say no one will love you like them ! 🙄

I've just offended a probable covert narc by telling him I'm not interested... I told him in a more subtle way at first, but then I was accused of "being immature enough to make up lame excuses". Then I told him directly that I was not interested, sorry not sorry, he said: "You shouldn't have said that, you had made that clear already." And then my rejection was named: 'walking all over him' and he announced not being nice to me anymore if we would accidently bump into each other. 🤣🤣🤣

Great Video❤💯🏆❤️ Thank you ❤

Unbelievably accurate. Wow.

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Narcs are masters at using what would make you happy to stab you with it. Then you will see how dependent they are on you when you are drained. Then they will get others to "help" them with you. Instead of letting you have peace so they will benifit too they are addicted to thier preconceived notions to let a healthy person develop. Thanks again.❤❤

You have hit ! ...( On-ALL-Four !) ( CYLENDERS ) IT POWERFULLY SCREWING YOUR MIND.

Howdy those of us c ope?

I have to ask, do you think that abuser watches your channel or are they blocked from everything?? Just my curiosity, I’m going through it unfortunately with a 2nd narcissist husband 💔 feeling fooled again and heartbroken but silver lining is I’m stronger than ever.

Thank you

So true! It leaves ever lasting scars hurts so much

Great content, so great that at some point i thought you were telling my story ... 😅
I have a real question though. Do narcissists know or are conscious of their "tactics"? I only can't imagine someone getting into relationships only to satisfy their supply... And yes, i am still in the trauma bond phase 😅
Thanks again for the content Christina ❤

Thank you! You are very talented and good at explaining these subtle abuse methods.

The answer is individuation. You can let go of anyone, especially a covert narc. Simply see them for who they are, pity them. They think that controlling you, others, or their world, that they are protected, in power. But the truth is, no one is in control. Let them go, they are transparent, they are ghosts. Don’t believe their lies about you, see them as damaged and unable to be completely human. They are trying to control only because they are afraid. They are weak. They don’t know how to love. Find your strength in individuation. Become your own best friend. Don’t look for validity from the outside, look within instead. It’s time to stand alone.

Stop calling people “survivors” it does a disservice to people who actually have survived life threatening situations.

Yep! In the early stages they mirror you! You are great at this!

Time investment…I was in a 45 year “best friends” friendship with a covert NARC. I viewed her as a sister and just “accepted” the episodes of cruel behavior, hoping things would get better. Around 10 years ago, she developed a drinking problem, which intensified the bad behavior and frequency. After a grieving period of around 6 months…letting my love for her go, and truly accepting what was going on, I was able to walk away. The release of all the toxicity in my life was SO incredibly freeing there are no words. Now I look at her and can clearly see every move she makes, and it no longer has any impact, except for pity and sadness.

You're very insightful.. And you explain things like I'm talking to an old friend. I feel heard.

People from the streets mirror other people in their environment to survive too. My ex was from the inner-city and he knew how to use those tactics to get what he wanted.

"Narcissists don't share pain to connect.....they do it to create obligation"... THIS‼️‼️‼️ is very very true and tou find yourself fighting they're xsuse, supporting them through thick and thin..And yes - when you share your pain....its crickets...total silence - you get nothing!