Why Abusive Men Really Get Married | The Truth About Control (Not Love)

Do they all hate on the pets too?

So true. I experienced all of this.

Sometimes they are actually gay but want to enjoy the patriarchy too. They may say they aren’t gay but just like to mess around with men mostly using quick hookup apps. The marriage is cover and all the other benefits they demand. Usually they have very little time for their wife. Dangerous men.

❤ Thank you so much. "Absuive men do not marry because they want connnection, they marry because they want control."

Thank you. You answered a question I've been asking since my divorce a over a decade ago.

where's the group's of 'not all men' standing up for women during these dangerous times?

i can literally count the ones who do on my fingers.

Great topic

The first red flag I saw was days after we signed marriage papers. It's insane.

Unfortunately it’s looking like while it’s not all but it is a large majority of them. They want access and control. And when the “ good ones” do not to do enough to check and correct the men who are more openly abusive and unsafe it does start to be all men and even many many women who hate women and live by patriarchal standards

Im married to a man with serious 'mommy' and 'stepmommy' issues and it's been HARD EMOTIONAL LABOR for 20 yrs. I'm no longer naive. Hopefully it's not too late ❤

This is true 💯. My abuser thought i'd stay forever becasie I am a Christian. Nope. I read books on how the OT allowed for divorce if the man doesn't take care of his wife and abuse for year and years with no repentance is definitely in this category. I left him and I thank God every single day that I got away from him.

Excellent content ✍🏻Its not only abusive men its most men Women are a commodity and in business you are seen as stable if you are married with children many are DL and are raised in patriarchy to utilize us for all there needs to be the side car of there lives. Thats why they always compare us cars 🚗 Very replaceable with high miles ..

I remained loyal in my relationship.

I refused to get a Government Bound "Marriage Liscense" and have a "Wedding".

I was also accused of being "abusive".

I also still put 110% into being a father for my son, while battling parental alienation from the mother.

This video, and all your channel, is projection. You are delusional. Seek help.

These are closeted gay men. Ask me how I know.

One of the twelve Kingdom mysteries of God is becoming one in your marriage. Ephesians 5:31-32.
Husband are to give up their lives for you like Jesus Christ gave His life up for the church. Jesus Christ anticipates our needs before we do. Jesus Christ provides and gives us our hearts desire.

You did all the right things to get your husband. You keep bringing peace to his heart and obey God. And Jesus will change his heart give him a new heart for you.

She is speaking the truth but God gave you to him to change his heart.

Subscribed. ❤️

I knew on our wedding night I was in trouble. 😮

Women always be financially stable and have your own assets parents siblings spouse and kids all can be abusive except God there is no true love and kindness

Thank you very kindly for this video. When I learned of how men and religion play on women's emotions and intelligence I changed my perception about both

Not much difference in WIVES AND SLAVES

New sub!

I'm sure my 3 exes were only with me for the potential. Any man who tries to mold & change her for his benefit is a narcissistic creep. There never was real love. My 2 adult sons now are verbally abusive because that's how their dad was.

Three a lot and f man that HATE women women need to pay attention and learn how man pretend they are the good man but in reality that man can be yuor worse enemy yes man can be great actors

So much this!! My X husband used to role his eyes at me often, then when I would address it,he would basically tell me I was seeing shit. Cowards

The ex s the last Five hate women and they it starts with small insults talking bad about women criticizing women I see the red flags now I rather be alone than be with a abuser

SO TRUE 👏👏I Wish this video goes to alot of women man hate themselves hate women they take their hate their insecurities on yuo all the nice UTs a facade to control yuo

Patriarchal conditioning that has been groomed into societal thinking for thousands of years is regarded as the world's worst pandemic in my eyes. Male entitlement and coercive control of females is utterly abhorrent 😡 I am going to change it.

This is so true. He wanted all the perks of intimacy, but without investing in any emotional closeness.
His words verbatim ;
"I am not your friend, I am not your partner, I am your husband."
Then, after he cheated on me and I forgave him but asked for transparency;
"Why do you need to trust me? If you can't trust me, then tough luck for you!"

You're better off alone than with a toxic narcissist. If you're alone there is the hope for someone better

Lisa,

You speak 100% truth. This video needs to be shown in schools, just as Adolescence is.

Also, it needs to be shown to every family lawyer and family court on the face of this earth.

Thank you for bringing so much insight and nuance into this topic because a lot of people don’t get it. I dated an emotionally abusive man who intentionally led women on just to discard them in the most horrific ways. But to the outside world, he is a perfect catch and a lot of women want to marry him (I’ve heard it from them) but it’s so clear from the way he talks about women that 1. he hates us 2. he’s on the DL.

Sounds like the women I have known 😅

Men are so scary
They say they love their mother and see them in their abusive marriages and yet they marry women not to be a better husband but to abuse her in the same way their father does and taunts her she is not like his mother
There really is no hope in these cycles of abuse

Let's face it, there are some bad men but fourth wave feminism primary goal is to belittle and demonize all men and give phony excuses for any and all woman to hate and attack and be abusive and mean to any men. The foreign brides from Asia are among the ones that are abused the most. It is interesting and very sad how easily people or both men and women can become abusive once they have a little bit of power over a person.

Where are the ones that aren't like this? Especially in my community. Mental health issues are rampant. And blaming women for ALL of the community's problems are the norm. The only option we have is to date interracial. Then you get shamed and ostracized if you do that. Being single is the only way to go.

The sad thing is that there are more of these men than not. This is because both the culture and the churches teach this is appropriate thought and behavior. True, there are men who aren't abusive, but sometimes it is not possible to see before you get tied to them. Women get abused and women get blamed for associating themselves with an abuser. And sadly, the men who are not like this tolerate and refuse to call their buddies on abusive behaviors. So, there is tacit tolerance and even approval.

Gentlemen this is not your fault. The women never agreed to marriage. Men forces it on them. Meaning, men didn't hit them or bust them up the head to make them wives/get married. Men said if you want my resources & have my child I want something in return for my labor, resources & a way to make sure I am not taking care of some other mans baby.
At the time they came up with marriage & monogamy as to safe guard themselves from being taken advantage of.
Now that women don't need men for resources the women the women no longer want to do it. You could take their jobs away from them but that wont solve the issue totally. The best way to solve the problem is 🛑 all forms of system enabling & all forms of male to female participation.
They don't want you, then react in kind & you don't have to put your hands on them, just leave them alone. But guess what your/our mom's are the same way. They wanna attack men through jobs. Then men at like your at war✌️

Well after being in the divorce meat grinder for the last 3 years all the negative cliches have been thrown at me as a man….

I’ve dealt with false allegations, a cheating ex wife , who was actually physically and emotionally abusive.

I don’t think women are any better or worse than men however, we actually have a system that recognises bad behaviour from men and not women.

Women are treated like kids… ie if they behave badly it’s because the man is worse or an action he has committed. The funny thing is the good women out there recognise this behaviour before most men. I would be at a loss without a woman like that in my life.

There are times that my experience has made me very negative towards women and institutions such as marriage … I don’t think that’s any different for women.

They are con artists The more you are trapped eith children etc the worse they become because they think you can't leave.

Look st their relationship eith their own mothers It will give you s good indication as to how you will be treated

The vast majority of men don't get married. Marriage is a legal, emotional, physical and mental trap for men. Marriage used to be a strong symbol of togetherness. Something that couldn't be broken. Now it's just a way for men to lose everything. Why grow with someone when you can just wait at the finish line and choose the winners?

Because you’re trapped after marriage and he can slowly abuse you until you die.

This is more men than we're comfortable admitting

this. 💯

My ex husband called me wife after the wedding...it was sorta weird but cute...then I realized he never used my name again !!! 🤮

Uterus Havers: only have babies by anonymous donors so you're NEVER TRAPPED to anyone EVER. Never EVER live with partners or miss finances. Keep your personal details vague in case their switch flips and they try to destroy your life. I promise you'll never regret protecting yourself

A built in servant who isn't allowed to quit. Well said.

What if they threaten suicide constantly when you try to leave. I am 2 months post surgery. He is a danger to myself and our son. I am not sure what to do.

Religion. Except, we all know at this point that the Bible says to love your wife LIKE CHRIST. I am so embarrassed for men who cannot “read too good.” Matthew 22:30 saved my life from religion.