Stages Your Avoidant Ex Goes Through During No Contact

he took a space and i gave him his time and sent him today a text after 20 days , do i need to be patient and not pressure him ? " does telling him that i won`t think about this behaviour again and i won`t judge him is a good thing ?

How does this work if I have a child with him?

I contacted him during no contact to reschedule the next call. As you describe, it looks like he is sad about hurting me and it's gonna numb himself instead of trying to grow. Is it acceptable to give him hints about me being open to try again in the future?

If he says no (sec. 40) it's a no and it's over lol.