Brené Brown: Vulnerability, not over-sharing

Maybe folks in the comments can help me understand. What she’s saying sounds cool in a vacuum, but I can think of so many situations where vulnerability is weaponized and can have real world negative impact on a person’s livelihood or relationships. When speaking of vulnerability, discernment would seem to go ahead and hand with it. I keep thinking of the old-school Biblic warning of not throwing pearls to swine. How many times have people’s words been used against them? Again, this just feels like it’s in a vacuum.

I think a simple definition of vulnerability would clear up things nicely - instead of dancing around the word here...

I really love her

This interviewer is as dumb as a rock. Lol.

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She didn’t answer the question or she thinks people crying is always crocodile tears when it would be deemed inappropriate.

Thanks for the video

How do you know if you are tapping out or just getting out of an impossible situation?

It's not about sharing or being vulnerable, it's about being honest - being emotionally honest and consequently transparent.
Vulnerability is the "feeling" experienced while being honest but at the end of the day the goal is to be honest and risk it all for your truth, simple!

she means honesty, not vulnerability. be honest and truthful. vulnerable conditions are left subject to attack and without protection. she's not using the word vulnerability right 🤦‍♂

They shouldn't be spying to get at people's vunerabilities then expecting forgiveness either.

That's a great distinction!

Must watch for all leaders of corporations and government departments.

The people who do cry are okay too. We all have that trauma to process

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I totally agree

She is smart. However, you do have to be careful as there are predators out there & being "vulnerable" with them is not good. A lot of people trusted Ted Bundy. I almost got killed by someone I trusted in a martial art. A colleague took care of someone paralyzed from a local training round of jiu jitsu where he was likely training with someone who was unsafe, who he trusted.  

At work, innovation comes from requesting input as much as being vulnerable. The safety literature shows the way input is requested, or not, determines whether people speak up. Without specific mechanisms to show people management wants input, people don't give since speaking up with management that does not request it does not lead to innovation, the result is retaliation from patriarchy.

The secret is we are all pretty similar. We have regrets and terrible thoughts. People really aren't that complex. We hide the ugly, we don't really want to let others see us break. But the truth is we all do. Sometimes we laugh about it later like it wasn't a big deal but is was at that point in time. The best way I see it is just to find those little moments that you can give a little away. See how they react and if they handle it well maybe let them know a bit more. My honest opinion is if it is a negative trait about you that effects your relationship with an individual, then they deserve to know what it is. Most people really aren't that terrible especially when they start to see your similarities. That doesn't mean we don't need help following through with this. Understanding the concept and actually using it can be hard. It might seem counterintuitive to people who have had a few bad experiences but it's amazing how many people will embrace you when you open up just a little.

I’d love for her to study shame in relation to race…that’s prevalent.

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Brene' is brilliant speaker. It’s simple but it’s amazing. Vulnerability is not an emotion, it’s a power, a power to accept oneself.

Love this and she is beautiful inside and out

Look at the sense of urgency combined with authenticity in the way she’s giving the message…she’s clearly doing what she was put here to do and we need to listen to her

But… making new friends does require courage and vulnerability. Psychologists say the best way most people do make friends is to give someone a little vulnerable information and see what they do with it.

She is the walking buzzword generator...Her advice is only good for the women of the same race as her, but for those of us minorities we see her similar to like a false prophet.

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Great advise, unfortunately the 500 fortune companies still rule by bullying their employees into a good Performance. The corporate world will never be ready to be vulnerable they thrive thanks to a cutthroat competitions and discard the ones that can't deal with the fast paced environments.

"Stay brave, stay human" is definitely a lot easier said than done when you're right in the middle of a panic attack but it gets better with time, awareness and watching over your thoughts (in case you're still having issues about this, I'm a work in progress myself)

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I still struggle with this part. Sometimes I open up to much and people use it against me.

What is wrong with a person crying if thats whats coming up in the moment of them being vulnerable about about something?

“Stay in the cringy moment and keep leading”

Vulnerability is rooted in sincerity. Without sincerity, it's just manipulation.

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I think vulnerability is when you truly take a risk, not when you act sensitive because you think that's expected or that it'll help you get away with things. Vulnerability is also accountability.

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I don’t know how not to overshare

Working on this with assistance she is amazing

what i've learned over the years, is that if someone doesn't like, it's oversharing. if someone likes you, it's vulnerability. it is that subjective

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So crazy this happened right, exactly when my old boss needed to hear it. Wild.

Her face, eyes and voice...😊

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