Mom Life Confessions: Meltdowns | Anjelah Johnson-Reyes

That’s so normal, my son is diagnosed neurodivergent and we had to do ABA therapy to redirect the tantrums he had when shopping at markets. It got easier and easier without having a meltdown myself or not even being able to go to public places. For instance giving times at leaving fun zones ‘you have 10 min’ than reminders ‘5 min’ and times up. A movie that I loved so much in teaching me was ‘The Son Rise Program’ movie. I know she’s doesn’t have any diagnosis, but it’s a great way to see other methods that can give insight into their worlds some times. Thank you for sharing, you feel sad cause you feel the loss of your intentions, but it’s all good. Xoxoxo

You will never feel that you're a good mom.
That's what makes you a good mom.
If you ever feel like you did enough for your kid, drive back to the last store you went to, cuz you forgot your baby there.

Aw sweetie from a grandma here just enveloping you in a big virtual hug!

Maybe your little girl is trying to tell you something and is not able to articulate it so it becomes emotional. Her "melt" downs are not about you. Childerns 7 (some say 9) basic needs are Security, Stability, Emotional Support, Love, Education, Positive Role Models, Structure and Consistency.

Believe it or not unfortunately it is more common than not. I went through the same emotions when they fell through with my girls. Trust in God that he is directing you. Always trust in him when things don't go as planned. And you disappointing emotions will go away 😉🥰 Both you and Miss Rosie are so precious. Be kind to yourself momma ❤

Im going to make a mistake if I don’t do something

My oldest when she was around 4, we would be in the grocery store and she would want something and I would say no next time and one specific time she yelled “ ouch don’t hurt me “ omg I died but then dropped everything in the middle of the isle and left back home and she sat in her room for awhile. The second child well she would scream louder then the first one did 😂😂

Wow love❤ I just came across your channel I’ve watched many of your stand ups and love your approach I love how you’ve masted comedy without the need to jump on the vulgar train . This beautiful channel reminds many of us how human we can all be. You are a beautiful mother and a beautiful soul keep praying and keep searching your doing amazing Praise Yahuah ❤

Me too girl! Me too 😕

She is training you girl!

Wow OK so you're normal? Lol! Happened to me all the time with mine. I once went to Walmart was going to get some things for Valentine's Day and end up having to put them back because my toddler started throwing the biggest fit ever and I left the store empty-handed and some guy literally ran out of the store and handed me the box of chocolate that I was going to get myself and asked me if I still wanted them and I was like dude I didn't pay for those and he said I know I did do you still want them? And I was like oh well yeah and so he said happy Valentine's Day! lol. That was a craziest thing ever but so sweet

Wow OK so you're normal? Lol! Happened to me all the time with mine. I once went to Walmart was going to get some things for Valentine's Day and end up having to put them back because my toddler started throwing the biggest fit ever and I left the store empty-handed and some guy literally ran out of the store and handed me the box of chocolate that I was going to get myself and asked me if I still wanted them and I was like dude I didn't pay for those and he said I know I did do you still want them? And I was like oh well yeah and so he said happy Valentine's Day! lol. That was a craziest thing ever but so sweet. I can't tell you how many times that happened to me and yeah I felt like a horrible mother too even though I knew I wasn't but sometimes you just have to leave when they start throwing the fits.

OMG this is so funny 🤣. Welcome to parent reality 🤕. As a single father raising two daughters all I can tell you is "done that, been there". I'll give you a golden tip, it worked for me, and carry a little baggy with their most favorite snack and some milk , or juice. For my two daughter it was Lucky Charms 🍀. To this day they both still love lucky charms. I have a granddaughter and when my daughter went through that same stage I looked at my daughter and smiled. "Having a little problem there?" "Shut up Dad". Here is the silver lining, it gets worst. My granddaughter is 14 now and 😱. If someone tells me that girls are easier to raise, I'm going to punch them in the mouth. They did everything to aggravate me. Sneak out, break curfew, sneak out of school,, etc, etc, etc... As a Latino I had a chancleta and that didn't work, and neither did grounding. So Anjelah, were you a good daughter? 😀 You'll get through it. As a prior Military I had help from other military friends. "It takes a tribe to raise a child". Find your tribe and ask for help and advice. 👍

No, no failure. It's parenthood. She's little, trying to learn about her emotions and experiences. Hang in there and guide, reinforce the good.

You are disappointed because your expectations weren’t met. Totally normal. You will have to teach her one day on how to manage that emotion, so look at it as preparation. Now plan another outing ❤

Yup!!! I dont even want to go out and be judged especially travel to family and be judged 😢

Her meltdown is not your fault. But giving in to leaving may not be the answer. I would pick up my child, go stand outside and wait. Really boring. Hold him/her until s/he was ready to stop. And I'd explain that we're not going anywhere until the tantrum and crying ends. Worked every time. I have 15 children.

I think you’re maybe just disappointed.

Girl, kids are rotten at this age. Adorable, sweet, and rotten. 😂 Wait until she is about 5or 6yrs old. From then until middle school she will be mostly a joy (unless you start handing her everything she wants when she has a meltdown, then she will STAY rotten). Mine threw a store tantrum at 3 yrs old. 1st and only time she threw herself on the floor and started screaming she wanted something. I pretended to leave her ass there. Had my eye on her the whole time, but she just saw me walk away. Immediately stopped and now she knows that if she ever acts that way in public then she is definitely getting nothing. We are bestie’s now (she is 16)-all kinds of fun mommy daughter days. We
love hangin out. But from 2-4yrs old they are a test from the Lord. 😂❤

I had a sweet baby brother that did that sort of melt down thing when I was baby sitting him . But his melt downs were getting worse and worse and more frequent. He was the sweetest little boy ever . And it was totally out of character for him. was about 2 or 3 . I was about 12. And finally one day when I got home from school he had a major melt down ! He was kicking and screaming and destroying things. I decided to grab his little wrist and put them together. And I got up in his face, and said I don’t understand what’s wrong. I don’t understand why you’re so angry. But if you’ll just tell me. I promise I’ll listen and try to fix it. He then threw his arms around me and hugged me. And he told me that every day when I go away to school all day. He was afraid that I might die and never come back. We talked it out. I found out why he thought that would happen . I told him that I would do my very best to stay alive every day . Lol and I promised him that when he was old enough. I would devote my Saturdays to teaching him to play baseball, instead of hanging out with my friends. And he never had another melt down again ! Lol I don’t know if that scenario would work for everyone. But it worked for me.

Pay attention to these events. As someone mentioned it could be sensory based. Way too young for diagnosis but Autism is present at birth. Early identification will help everyone including you. It especially goes undiagnosed in the Latino culture. Otherwise feeing the way you do is common. Just know that it will not last forever and second guessing yourself will always be present. This is why books etc cannot cover every individual child's needs or personalities.

Oh man, just tryna do something special! I think my babies had gotten over stimulated public, sometimes. Hope this helps! Stay strong mama! ❤

Sounds like you need some Me time. No Guilt you get to get things accomplished. Then you can spend time with her.

Your a good mom. It gets easier. She’s learning. I have to remind myself at times still when my boys loose it they are learning and so am I and there watching to see how I respond too. I Usto be so embarrassed and shut down it wasn’t tell both of my boys at the same time just lost it because I told them no and I picked them up put them back in the cart and headed for the door so embarrassed and flustered when someone stopped me she looked right at me and said “ there learning too, I’ve been there, it gets better”. I stopped and realized hey not that it matters what people think but most people get it they have been through it and if I keep showing my kids right from wrong and follow through one day it will click like should. Don’t give up keep going places this to will pass one day they won’t be running away or picking everything off the shelf or throwing food in a restaurant in the moment it’s hard we think unbearable but when they look both ways for the first time with out warning them or they no longer need the plastic cup with a lid and they start checking the list and only grab what we need we know we’re doing things like we should we’re teaching and learning with them. Love you your awesome

its dehydration she needs a juice & a snack!

You didn’t fail, hell girl it’s just beginning. My oldest is 43, youngest in 25. They make you happy more than they disappoint. Just never give in, your the mother and that makes you the boss and if you crack the whip make it count. My little 5’ tall Italian mother raised my twin sisters and I and felt the wrath of that little lady, a whole lot, and I have so much respect for her because she did it. I just sent her a candle that says, I hope this smells better than the shit I put you through. She texted me and said, a whole lot better.

Toddlers so unpredictable it gets better

If I didn’t buy the wrong thing at TJ Max, then why do I have to go and return it? ? I never understood that one I hated doing errands with my mom ,still do 😂

I can empathize. I’m really trying to not get upset when my kids don’t respond to things the way I wanted them too. I may have spent a bunch of time setting something up for them and they might be into it and that’s ok. My disappointment is also ok but I don’t need to let it make me feel like I did something wrong as a parent. Hang in there. Keep sharing. Having community has been so helpful to me.

I can empathize. I’m really trying to not get upset when my kids don’t respond to things the way I wanted them too. I may have spent a bunch of time setting something up for them and they might be into it and that’s ok. My disappointment is also ok but I don’t need to let it make me feel like I did something wrong as a parent. Hang in there. Keep sharing. Having community has been so helpful to me.

Kids are unpredictable sometimes. You did nothing wrong.

It's hard when you plan something and they just hate the moment. It's hard especially because you want that moment and that connection but you still get it by showing up everyday ❤️

Nuh uh!!! You've failed at nada!!!! Who knows why she was having a meltdown. It could have been anything! Beautiful baby girl could have been going through at that moment. It could have been anything from gas, flash back to a nightmare or just feeling blah..who knows??
I remember when my kiddos were young and I planned these "perfect" outings. There was usually a lot of complaining, tears, and "I don't want to go" whining at the mention of what I had planned. I would silently cry to myself and push through. It was hard and I always felt like I was falling short in who I needed to be for them. NOW as adults,THOSE BUGGERS REMINISCE ON HOW MUCH FUN THEY USED TO HAVE DURING OUR OUTINGS. It is surreal to me that thats how they remember those times. TWILIGHT ZONE!!

Im sorry mama. Youre the best!
She’ll be a lil Maxinista like mama

You are no failure, and the pictures and captures you see of these "perfect baby moments" are not real! Kids; especially daughters begin fighting for Queen Bee's spot quite early. She may be super sensitive to stimulation. Some people do not do well in crowds, as an infant she doesn't have the words to explain what she is feeling. As she escalates your stress comes through to her as well, and so she thinks, "I was right, we are in grave danger from all of these noises, colors, smells, sounds. You are a great mom, please know that you are reaching out and care, that is healthy; just think of it this way, this time is going to give you the very best material you ever imagined. I cannot remember how many times me and the kids laughed later about things that seemed horrid. Ms Angela - I am glad you are okay, I look for your comedy all of the time. Bless you

A shot in the dark here but inside of stores the fluorescent lights can affect kids(and animals). Remember that a toddlers life evolves around them and only the moment

Nooo.... you are fine. You are as normal as the the rest of the Mama's. Babies... its all unpredictable. You may need some "me" too. Getting out by yourself. Hang in there... get a hot bath & restart. ❤

She's just too little right now, trust me it gets easier. She will be your little bestie! My daughter was like that until about 4yrs old. She was terrible twos, then a threenager 😂, you have to go through the stages before it will get easier, she's just learning.

Awww girl, you didn't fail her! You're amazing! Mommy and me days don't always work out. Don't you dare listen to the voice of the enemy.
He is a liar! You are fearfully and wonderfully made ❤️ I've seen you with her, you're an amazing mom! I wish I had the foresight to do mommy and me days, when my baby girl was little. Usually didn't have the energy or the strength to carry her, or put her in a shopping cart most days 😂😢
You are her biggest supporter, teacher and nurturer. You're doing great! ❤

Yep no expectations,no disappointments. Go out the door not expecting anything.

Yeah, it’s failure. I felt like that plenty of times in the exact same situation. I would at that point get a little take out, (something very light even if it is just a drink, something nice for yourself too)because if you take her out of the car seat it may happen again like a little time bomb and take her out doors, a nice little hole of nature or play ground (with slides and toys or just nature -my favorite) and do that together. Nature is very healing.
I am a 5 time mom. 22-5 years old.
I am so glad you had a baby. I just found your channel and was sad when I heard you didn’t want kids. It is hard but it is the most rewarding thing in the world! Prayers for you momma, you are in the trenches. May God bless your days and grant you graces to parent peacefully ❤🙏🏼

My oldest used to literally faint from crying too hard (my mom told me that I did the same, haha), as a toddler. First time she did that, she went totally limp in my arms, from crying too hard/not breathing, when it was time to go inside after playing outside. Freaked me out!!
When she was little, like 3-5 years old, I’d take her out to a kid’s night at a local restaurant that would play cartoon videos and had a clown that made balloon animals. When I’d begun having a hard time getting my daughter to behave in restaurants, staying on the booth seat instead of crawling underneath the table, etc., I refused to bring her back there unless she was going to behave. In the meantime, as I would be out running errands, we’d drive past that particular restaurant and I’d point it out to her and say, “See, there’s your favorite place to go out to eat. But we can’t go there because you won’t listen and follow the rules.” She soon straightened up her behavior so it could be enjoyable for both of us!

It's okay. We all have been there and I felt it like a rejection so I felt like I was failing. That was over 40 years another daughter and twin boys, 8 grand children ago. It will pass and joy comes. Trust me. She loves you and will appreciate sweet mommy and me outings s she gets older. God bless you.

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Guess what Kids are crazy! I have two boys, and I think what is YOUR problem? You are doing great! Give yourself a break!

It's the expectations

Are you my mama?

It happens Angelah! I’m 73 year old man who has felt this way as well. Talk with anybody about it. Forgive yourself and move on. You are good.

wtf a "meltdown" control your kid. be the parent and parent, don't let her control you. I thought you were a strong woman. Man up or should I say WOMAN UP.

Maybe she’s not a Maxxanista 😩 you’re doing just fine mama. She’s acting her age lol