Should You Get Married Young?

Amen. Well said Nick.

Not wrong at all. We were the same age, just the other way round. I'm glad we did. My wife passed away at 68 after 48 years married. If we had waited we would have less time together.

OH MY GOODNESS, YOU NAILED EVERY ISSUE IN MARRIAGE. YOUR ADVISE NEEDS TO GO TO EVERY PERSON IN THE WORLD. YOUR SPOUSE IS YOUR WORLD AND YOUR LIFE, WE DON'T WANT TO BE IN THIS WORLD WITHOUT THEM. EVEN AFTER ALMOST 46 YEARS I AM STILL TRYING TO FIGURE OUT SOME OF THE THINGS ABOUT HIM. HE USUALLY FIGURES ME OUT, BUT I TALK TO HIM AND HE HOLDS ALMOST EVERYTHING INSIDE AND WONT SHARE THINGS WITH ME. THAT WAS THE WAY HIS FATHER WAS AND HE IS FOLLOWING THAT WAY OF THINKING. I ALWAYS TELL HIM, I CAN'T READ HIS MIND JUST BECAUSE HE CAN READ MINE. I LOVE YOUR WISDOM, YOUR INSIGHT ON THE THINGS WE FACE IN LIFE. FROM GEORGIA ❤❤❤😊😊😊

I was 19 also
Didnt know who I was let alone who he was. Then had. First daughter at 20 , secound daughter21. He just wasnt ready to seddle down or grow up.

Every one is different

Young people NEED to hear this! I never heard anything like this when I was young - I wish I had.

Government devalued our dollar to exorbitant levels. That’s why we can’t live off one income.

I was 23 and he was 27 (issue wasn’t my husband it was me) and was told I’m too young, need to see the world, see what I want, travel and live alone 🙄. My husband and I have been together for 13 years, married for 11, have 2 kids (4y boy and 1y 9m daughter). Annnnd yes: the same couples telling us that I was too young are divorced. Marriage is private, it’s between you and your partner. You wanna get married at 18, go for it. You wanna get married at 30, have at it.

Marrying without first "fooling around" and "experiencing" other people is what the Christian God intended. Having a complete relationship, mental, physical, emotional, spiritual, with one person is God's plan. Couples who realize this are much more likely to develop their lives into the kind of relationship they need and want. Marriages not based on God are more than likely doomed to fail. Yes, maturity is a key, but Christian values are the mortar which hold the bricks together. God bless you and your bride.

Let me just add....some of us just aren't interested in hooking up with random people before we get married. Some of us prefer the idea and ability to commit to one person. I was never interested in having s*x, still am not. I've been happily married for over 20 years. My spouse feels the same. THAT'S why our marriage works. Because we have the same principles.

In my honest opinion, if you find someone who you truly love, who also truly loves you; That’s all you need! As long as you’re 18 years old then it’s all good!

Women, yes men no

And if that were true, better to have multiple partners/experiences before getting married, then the bible would support that claim.

I agree 💯 with you Nick 👍

No, I was 18, I was way too young , too poor and immature. , I was 18 my husband 21. Now, having said that, we have been married 58 years.

My wife was 19. I was 21, just out of the Navy and was recently home from a tour in Saigon. We are celebrating our 57th Anniversary this fall. My wife has 3 sisters... all divorced.

i know myself too well given all the changes re: college majors and career path that at 19 it would had been the wrong time. i wasn't irresponsible but i just did not know what i wanted to do, where to live, all of that. its not age but maturity is the best quote here. my life's path wasn't paved, it was loose gravel.

I got married young and it ended in my jaw being fractured, a divorce and me losing my apartment due to being only 17. I mean no disrespect but, it's not a bad idea for people to wait. I do admire and respect the way you love your wife. I wish all men did that.

Why is it still 1959 in Nick Freitas’ world?

Ive been watching your shorts for a little while now ,and still dont know much about you , apart from i agree with what you have to say 100 % . You are an incredibly intelligent insightful kind man ,❤

Thank you for this video, I needed to hear that. I'm 28, not married.

What you explain is more than just "Are you too young". It's also thinking about what is really important for you and not let superficial desires dictate your decisions.

I hear people say that they couldn't stay with their first big love because they wondered what they could have after. With time they admited it was maybe the person that loved them the most, but it's too late.

As Nick says, don't waste the time and don't break the heart of people that know what they really feel.

It hurt when I notice almost nobody think like that now...

Choice is your biggest enemy

Ok, there are always ringers: people at 19 with the maturity levels of a 30 year old. But for the most part, hey: you were just sitting in a desk in high school a year or two before. Grow up a bit mature emotionally and mentally and find out who you are. Dont get married as kids yourselves. Wait a few years. There is a reason why actuary tables for insurance companies have high premiums until people are 25...the brain is not done growing yet and the cognitive centers mature at about 25.

I was married at 18, my husband was 20. Turns out I was ready & mature enough, but he wasn't. He cheated and we got divorced. He has spent 40+ yrs being hateful towards me, and the sole reason was because I wouldn't let him go out and have his fling while sitting home like the dutiful wife and welcome him home when he was done. I raised our son from 3yrs till 21yrs. I then met and married my eternal companion. We were together for 14 yrs, married for 13 of those. We both went through a lot together because of his ex, and his 2 sons. But we survived and and came out stronger. The only reason we're not together now is he died in an accident. For me he's still my husband. I know he's watching over me, and will do so till the Lord calls me home. I 100% agree with everything Nick said. They are a blessed couple. ❤

I got married at 26, and my wife was 23. I started dating her when she was 19, and I was 22. We been married for almost 24 years and together for almost 28 years.

I always advise young couples to work together on a tough and unpleasant task that requires teamwork. You will learn fairly soon if you can have a life together. Marriage includes many many such tasks. If you can’t work together on one, you won’t be able to on years worth of them.

I got married at 19, for every single wrong reason and was divorced quickly. I wasn’t ready. He wasn’t ready, and it went to crap. The “ right age” is going to be different for each person, and my age wasn’t 19. I met my hubs seven years later , married when I was 28 and he was 29 and we are happy and strong 14 years later.

You shouldn't get married at all. Marriage offers absolutely nothing for a man. All the laws lean in women's favor. Why would you sign a contract with a woman when it's only the woman who benefits by breaking that contract. Well over 50% of marriages end in divorce, and over 80% of those divorces are initiated by women. Well over 80% of the time the woman is awarded the children, child support, alimony and the house in all divorces. The man is always limited in how often he is allowed to see his own children. The woman's new boyfriend can see her children every day. The man is threatened by a judge that if he fails to pay child support he will be put in prison. Getting married today for a man, it's the worst investment you'll ever make and the biggest gamble you'll ever take. We all know how indecisive women are, they change their minds about everything all of the time. What makes any man think that his wife will never change her mind about him? It only takes four words for a woman to flush a man's life down the toilet. Those words are, "I'm Not Happy Anymore." Any judge will grant any woman a divorce if she says just those four words. A man getting married today is a fool, plain and simple. As a man you are gaining nothing and walking into an institution with the likely hood of losing everything. Be wise guys, marriage is a trap. (Single, Happy, Free, with a whole lot more Money.)

Married at 21, 44 now and still going strong. Maturity is a very key component when marring young. Great video Nick!

I know this is an older podcast but thank you for making this podcast. My husband and I got married very young too. I think the most important thing in any marriage is you have to talk about everything together. Both partners will help each other of what they have to do to make life meaningful and make the marriage work. I went back to school three different times so I could better myself in the work force. My husband was in the forces for 25 years so he had the opportunity of improving himself as opportunities opened up for him.
I must say that we were very much in love when we did get married. All the rest that came along, children and whatever we just worked it out so that both of us were happy.
We were married for 53 years when he got very sick and died. I still miss him but life goes on.
Should you get married when you are young. Only if both of you want to help each other through life. Marriage to me is about helping each other. One might be better in making lots of money but be terrible in building or whatever. I was excellent in designing.
Yes about sex we enjoyed it just like most people but we got to enjoy it with each other.

I got married at 21, my wife had just turned 22. I found the woman for the rest of my life. Why wait? We had some legitimately poor years when I went back to school, but here we are almost 32 years later, 4 well adjusted adult children and a reasonably successful 26+ year legal career. We continue to grow closer and closer. Honestly, I love my life because I love my wife and she loves me. Not ashamed that both of us have only "been with" each other and then, not until marriage.

It's not so much young but ready, and I don't think people realize what that entails.

My wife and I met at 15 summertime love , then continued long distance relationship broke it off at 18 and got back together at 19ish
Married at 27 for 13years thus far and two kids later
I guess when you know you know

Not always fun, we know each other far too well 😂 but we trust each other
You have to actually put in the work to make your marriage work, the vows you take should be more than just words

How do you deal with rape in the sense of being the only one your partner has been intimate with and guilt about it?

Getting married young works if you're raised right with the right morals and understandings and have already at least somewhat figured out life and know what's what.

I'm enjoying the stories here in the comments section. I was 23, she was 20 when we were married. Now at 52 years and still in love. It's a grand experience to have spent most of my life with this person and at all stages: young marrieds, parents of babies, parents of children, parents of teens and young adults. And that empty nest thing was like being in high school again -- having fun with my best girl and having fewer responsibilities. Now in our 70s we're slowing down a bit, but are still able to have two of our grandchildren once a week and sometimes for several days at a time. God has blessed us.

Thank you Nick ❤

Best advice hands down! Agree with every point you made.

This is what an actual MAN looks like!

I was 19 hubby was 20, in 2 days we’ll be married 49 yrs. We vowed at the start that divorce is not an option. Have we had hard times. Yes, but we worked through them together.

I love this!!!! I was 18 when I got married. I’m 48 and still married to the same man!!

Great video Nick. Married at 23, my wife 20. As a 2lt in the Army I was immune to advice. All good 45 years, two daughters and three grandkids later...

I don't know if one should marry young, but I'd love to jump in the sack with you even if you're a Trump Republican. I'm not, I am Italian and live in Florence.

Married my first wife at 17, child born on my 18th birthday, when she (ex) turned 18 (legal drinking age ) she went out with her girlfriends and cheated, divorced soon after, I was smart enough to realize that I could never trust her again. Met my second wife at 20 married her at 22 married 45 years and it been a smooth relationship, 3 kids, 7 grandkids, we will no doubt be together till one of us dies.
First wife cheated on 2 more husbands afer me and now is a lonely alcoholic.

A man ALWAYS has sexual debt because most men never get the validation for this. And it's part of Maslow's hierarchy of needs. Sure you found someone young you're madly in love. That works. Childhood sweetheart? Better. Someone who shared trauma and is closer at office? Perfect. Get out of the dream that is an exception. For most men, you do need to try it. It's not akways cheap and meaningless. Girls know which guys to hang out, flirt, sleep with or marry because of options. Guys don't have this luxury so they really need to try until they find someone if they didn't get lucky early on.

i have been with my wife since i was 18, and she 17. every single principal we have in life was built together. 15 years I've been with my wife and there isn't a single experience we have been through that i would trade. I'm happy i have "the lowest body count" of my collogues and friends. I married my soulmate when i was 22 and I've never once looked back.(now i sure hope and believe my wife when she says she feels the same) because damn do we have some dynamite connections.

Haha absolutely! Less partners less memories, less comparisons, less chances of STD'S and on and on and on. Your right it comes down to maturity, and unless the current mindset changes people may never grow up.

Nick, you and Tina are among the Very Few who have some of The Sweetest memories, And those memories aren't just happy or easy. Alot of some of the best lessons I've learned were actually in the hardest and darkest times. I've heard that trees that experience strong winds have a deeper and stronger root system thus making a heathier tree 🌳

Sexual compatibility is a myth. The chance you find someone who just happens to have your exact sexual likes and dislikes without compromise is so low, its not worth holding out for. Everything involves compromise. Lots of people just dont have the capability and generosity to communicate intimacy. You build intimacy just like you build the rest of your life together, over time and with lots of love and giving. Its so much better not to have someone else to compare your spouse to and its so much better knowing your spouse isnt comparing you to anyone else.

That was awesome.

God bless this man