5 Steps to Speak Up Confidently When You Don't Know How To | Assertive Communication

Great Video, watched a couple of them before and the lessons stick with me

From Italy: thank you, you, very clear and complete!

As a soft speaker trying to be more expressive, I confidently wish everyone a Happy New Year a month early, bow to Juila in thanks, and send a hug to anyone who needs one :) ❤

Love you!!!❤❤❤
Wonderful as always!!!

Thank you Julia, for the wonderful video! I, along with many others, have this issue relevant in my life. Good news for me is Im getting better with it. but its going into these uncomfortable places that create the most growth but doesnt make it easy to do in the moment. :)

Highly appreciate you & your work. Love your brain Ms. Julia. 🤓most your Video's are right on time for me as if a GOD send, thanks so much. Clean, Clear, Classy, Confident, Communication. Easier for me to remember if I think of it as the 5C's. Have a Blessed Day.

Hi Julia, Melynda is here, thank you for these videos and this one is fabulous!! ❤

You are so brilliant and explain everything so clearly.
Thank you so much ⭐️⭐️⭐️

Love this video & the way it is presented. It's more simple to follow with the steps you highlight in the beginning and in the closing of the video. Steps 4 & 5 are especially helpful to me to prepare myself before the talk. Thank you Julia !!

Hi Julia were in shift society are you learning clean classy and productiv ?

This video really resonated with me and opened my eyes. Thank you

I'm a cleaner I'm not allowed to speak up apparently!!😂

Thank you for another great video.....
I remember when i was a young kid my dad got death threats it the mail so ge started carrying a gun. My neighbor was a really cool guy that as i kid was a hero of mine, he babysat my brothers and i. He borrowed my dads gun and shot himself . Not long after my dad went to a VA rehab center awhile then my parents got divorced... every time i asked school psychologist to talk he always said he didn't have time for me ......
... sonetimes id get very sad and cry and tell my mom it felt like no one loved me.( i couldn't describe depression good as a child 🤷) but all shed ever say is dont start with your no one loves me bullshit 😢.
I want to be better for my kids then adults were for me.

Thanks for this , Julia, I always love your information, real stuff.

Needed this one today. My lifeline journey apparently

Love this. Good classy clear content. Thank you for you.

Julia thank you so much for these videos! Also thanks to my mom for always sending me these types of video's because its her way of helping me understand myself better even though we dont always get along haha. As someone who is very sensitive and emotionally weak in a way. I've aways struggled at communicating exactly how i feel, especially to toxic relatives its even harder especially when they are African. They just don't understand the concept of boundaries apparently. When i do i speak up, im being "disrespectful" and they are always right. I'm also really frickin sick of the words "freedom of speech" being used just to defend themselves. Bish no there is a limit to what you can say especially if its to hurt the person. The amount of times I've had to sit through mentally draining conversations because i didnt want to be seen as argumentative! Is infuriating, especially when you're the eldest daughter. Its like I dont have the right to speak up wtf!

I really can relate to this as I grew up in a household where if you speak up you got in trouble. Now as an adult I have anxiety about speaking up and I just don't say anything. How do you get over the anxiety of speaking up?

Absolutely everything I hear Julia say perfectly describes how I feel now and felt and experienced my whole life.

Really nice video! i was wondering if i could help you edit your videos and make them more engaging as well as create short content out of them.🙂🙃

Julia, great advice!! You look extremely beautiful in this video 😍

Very helpful thank you

I notice my father is not really open to having discussions on issues I want to addesss. He says things like "don't worry about it." He also can get reactive and take it personally because his self-esteem is low. I have a better understanding of why I am having trouble bringing up issues within my family.

Also, we may face more severe consequences with certain people when we speak up. For example, a boss or employer firing us for speaking up. However, don't let that discourage you from speaking up as it is their job to listen and respect employee concerns. If they can't, they should not be a boss or employer.

So glad to hear from you again

Thank you. I'm going to sign up for your master class because I know I need the tools to speak clear and classy without blame or being to harsh. There's been a lot of blocked pain with family that's coming to the surface and has made me feel angry, resentful and hurt.

Looking back, I wish that I had spoken up to someone; but fear of her jumping down my throat and accusing me of unfairly judging her prevented me. I shouldn't have feared the consequences.

It’s good to be here Julia.

Sometimes my family didn’t care what I had to say Julia.

We all want to speak and feel heard.❤

I’m going to work on understanding the capacity of the person I’m communicating with and what they can and can’t handle Julia.

Hello everyone. I am back again.

Can you make a video about handling teasing and put downs? I am sensitive bevause i was bullied. So for me it is not funny when people make jokes on my expense

You look so sexy. It hurts. Sue me. I'm sorry. I hope I'm not out of line. I don't get out much. Your videos are incredibly informative and helpful but you are extremely easy on the eyes and your husband should feel good about himself. Like super good..😂😂😂❤

Thank you so much Julia😊

Glad I found these videos

II grew up in a large family with ten siblings, making me the youngest at number 10. Because my brothers and sisters were significantly older than I was, I spent much of my childhood with my nieces and nephews instead. As a result, I had little opportunity to communicate with my siblings about the challenges and questions I faced as a teenager. My father typically left my mother to address my needs, but she was quite traditional and strict, often closed off to my desires and concerns. In contrast, my sisters shared a close bond with her, enjoying activities like shopping, playing bingo, and gossiping—all of which I was excluded from due to being considered too young. To give you a clearer picture of our family dynamic, my oldest sister is 18 years older than I am, and the next sibling up is my brother, who is four years older. Consequently, whenever I tried to contribute ideas or express myself, I was often ignored or shut down, as they viewed me as inexperienced. As an adult, this has made it challenging for me to communicate effectively with others, especially in positions of authority. I often worry about how I will be perceived, whether I will seem foolish, or if my thoughts will even be taken seriously.

I love this

Loved this. I definitely could relate to the whole needs being ignored when asking for help and how as an adult it turns into "what's the point nobody cares why bother?" Mentality which unfortunately has dire consequences for us who are trying to grow in our relationship world, and our career world and in family life. I assume people are too busy taking alcare of themselves because that's the kind of dad we had. It's complicated but I think unlearning has helped. When we grow up in a kind of world for so long we think it's normal until we realize it was unhealthy. Thank you.

Hello. My name is George. Thank you! I’ve been watching your videos for a few months now and they have helped me, a lot!

This is the most helpful knowledge for me. Im a psychology student. Older. I get it intellectually. This method is so true scientifically and it works. Thoughts as objects. Feelings, too. To be evaluated given our biases.