Am I pregnant?

I feel like it's rude to ask. I understand its just a general question and most people aren't looking to be rude about it but you never know. I miscarried when I was 17 and ever since then any time I see my mom she grabs my stomach and asks if its a baby. Its not the funnest experience.

I just got married alhamdullilah and I am just 19 years old and my husband is 21. We are still studying and we are working at the same time and we dont mind doing this. I hate it when someone asks when we are having a child or if i am pregnant, first of all we are young and SO not ready to have a child. We are still studying and we want to finish studies before having a baby. If we are having a child WE WILL TELL. We are just not ready yet :)

I think it's a really insensitive question to ask many couples struggle with fertility or other health issues that make having kids difficult or impossible. I think it's best to not ask and just wait to see!

I don't like to be asked if I am pregnant or if . I have hard to get pregnant and I be sad if somebody ask me but I don't show it. When I get pregnant the hold world will get the news.

When my twins were 2 I had a lady ask me if I was pregnant while I was shopping. I had trouble loosing my baby weight.
I literally left the store in tears

I would like to have kids, but it's not my priority. If it happens, cool. If it doesn't, well, no problem. But some people, mostly older people, find it somehow offensive. It seems that they took it upon themselves to "morally guide" everyone around them to their own convictions and interests. Asking if someone's pregnant is rude in itself and pressuring them or guilt tripping them into having kids or giving an explanation is worse.

I think you shouldn’t ask. It’s not like being a mom or dad is something easy. It’s beautiful and should be done when you can be a selfless parent to the baby, not something you expect to happen just bc you got married or just bc you’ve been married for a couple years etc like oh you should be having kids. Being a mom is something really hard, every child and your spouse is put above yourself. Your time, your sleep, your mind is not your own anymore. I just gave birth to my 3rd 4 months ago and people are already asking when I’ll be having another. Like excuse me? I have twin boys that just turned 2 years and I have this 4 month old boy. am I a machine that pops out babies or am I a human that can take a break, enjoy my own body and idk enjoy my kids while they’re small?! And what’s it to random people if I do or don’t have more kids. That’s between my family consisting of my husband my kids and myself, and Allah.. I always ask Allah just to give me as many kids as I can be a good mom to, if it’s 3 then so be it, if its 5 then Ahlan wa sahlan Alhamdulilah.

Well… it always could be, that a woman want to get pregnant but it’s just… not happening. If people ask than it can be horrible an built up even more preasure.

Are Muslims allowed to enjoy sex with their partner? Or are they only allowed to think of it as reproducing. Is it not allowed to wish pleasure within your marriage? Btw I love your videos.

I personally feel it is rude to ask a couple if the woman is pregnant. Unless she is showing a big belly bump. I feel that it is a very personal and emotional experience for both woman and man. Specially if it is a very high high risk. You just don't know the trama that you could be giving by asking. I say wait til they tell you or you can clearly see and then ask as a courtesy. It's a great way to show respected and letting them set boundaries.

I always hate when ppl assume or ask if I’m pregnant. Took us 3 1/2 years to fall pregnant and those were years filled with lots of tears and anger and anxiety over if I would
Ever have a baby. People need to mind their business!

My doctor told me, when I turned 18, I'll never become pregnant. Of course I didn't tell everyone. It's such a private thing. But it did hurt a lot, when people asked. So I think it's rude. And nobody should do that.

(My doctor was wrong. 8 years later, my son is almost a year old. I love our little miracle more than everything. ♡)

I don't know if I should ask you guys here or through other SNS but I wonder what is muslims' opinion on contraceptive methods.
You look great Mubina. ♥ You indeed are beautiful.

Some people are unable to have kids so maybe just wait and see if they say anything to you

I might be the oddball out, but I just know that whenever I've asked something of the sort, I never intended to cause anyone any sort of emotional harm. Unfortunately, I can't foresee someone's situation, and I find that I only ask these kinds of things to keep the conversation going. I know that most people won't agree with this, but... I don't know, I grew up in a culture where it wasn't offensive to ask, y'know? I just grew up kind of different.

You shouldn't ask because you have no idea if that person is going through infertility or had just had a miscarriage or something like that and it can really be heartbreaking for someone to be asked that.

Don't ask, so many reasons why it may not happen for a woman. And for people who choose to not have children for medical or other reasons the explaining can be painful.

I don’t think it is nice cause that means they are calling you fat which is not ok

Inshallah is my answer

I hate when ppl ask us when we will have a baby. My first answer is "when we are ready we will have one". My thoughts when this is asked "I wish people wouldnt ask me that because medically I cannot get pregnant". They dont understand the pain I have with that question bc I want a baby so bad and I know that I'll never be able to have one. I'm 29 with PCOS, tilted uterus, endometriosis, fibroids, cervical ectropion, and the list goes one. I wish ppl would stop asking. Weve been trying for 6 years even with treatments.

I don't get it when people ask that question. Can it get any more personal? Maybe they don't want to have children (right now), or maybe they're trying. Or maybe they can't even have children which makes the question even more sensitive.

Tbh, I think that people shouldn't ask when/if people are having kids or even say, "Are you pregnant?" First, it assumes that every couple/person wants to have kids. In some cases, people don't want them, can't have them, or may have medical conditions that make pregnancy difficult. People shouldn't be made to feel less than simply because they don't have kids. Second, if someone is pregnant and wants you to know, they'll tell you! Then, you can do all the celebrating you want!

I hate getting asked that question. I don’t have any and don’t plan on it. I look fairly young for my age so when I say no I don’t have kids, I get the, “Oh you have plenty of time! You’ll change your mind!” Little do they know I’m pushing 40 and very happy with being an auntie and being child free. 🤷🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️ I think it’s insensitive to ask. What if the woman is having fertility issues, or recently lost a baby to miscarriage? I think people should wait to be told instead of ask and speculate.

I hated it when people would ask my husband and I. We were married for about four years before we started trying. We ran into roadblock after roadblock, and even did three rounds of IVF that were unsuccessful. We finally decided that we didn’t have to conceive to become parents. We now have two beautiful daughters, one we adopted at birth and one we adopted from foster care when she was nine. So in 2012 we had no children, now we have a nine-year-old and a seventeen-year-old (who’s is a senior in high school 😳). We are very blessed

Being DESI and married for almost two year without a child is weighhh tooo much offending than any thing else... Its not in our hands to get Pregnant ASAP! after wedding ..It is blessing of ALLAH and according to HIS will SUBHAN ALLAH .❤ but some pople don't think thry are jmtrying to hurt couples with this question . Stop please 🙏🏻 if u dont see a baby in picture in video or daily life IT means The Couple is not HAVING A BABY AND JUST PRAY FOR THEM .khalaas thats it.

Coming from a woman who always dreamed of being a mom, and loosing the pregnancy’s both times we were finally able to get pregnant. I think it’s rude to ask a couple when they are gonna have kids, you never know what their struggle is. I almost break down crying every time someone asks us that. 💔

Ugh! I'm so sorry that people asked that! I have been asked if I'm pregnant and I tell them, I just had 4 kids close together and I still have baby weight to lose.

I didn't think it was a rumor? A few weeks ago I remember you announcing in a short I believe that you were expecting. If you recently suffered a loss my deepest condolences are with you Mubina.

I never, ever ask that question. It's very insensitive because I have seen so many couple struggle to have kids. Maybe that woman you ask just had her 3rd miscarriage (?)

I think it’s awful to ask. I’m 34 and I was asked in my twenties often if I ever planned on having kids. I am infertile and it broke me every time I was asked when that’s all I ever wanted. I was able to adopt at age 24 but I still get asked and it’s easier now to say that I can’t than it was then.

Don’t ask a woman if she’s pregnant.
If she hasn’t disclosed it, she doesn’t want to talk about it. You know pregnant women are obsessive and insufferable about their impending children. If they’re quiet, they have a reason, and if you care about them, respect it.

That’s not an appropriate question. Also, NEVER ask someone how far along they are unless that person just told you she’s pregnant.

But you look so big. Kidding Kidding. Someone asked me if I'm pregnant. No. But you look bigger and have a waddle. Lovely, just what every woman wants to hear. 😂

I think that should never be asked. I find it rude honestly, what if the person doesn't want children, or maybe they really do and aren't able to. You asking that would just make it harder for that person, especially if it's someone trying to and it isn't happening for whatever reason. Play it safe, don't ask, ever. Even if it's your own sibling, just mind your own business. 🤷 On that note, I hope that whatever y'all decide, you are blessed in your decision.

TW LOSS:


I think it's a highly insensitive question. I was asked when I was having kids the day after I miscarried my twins. I hadn't told anyone yet. It hurt me deeply.

Mashaa Allah😍🇧🇩

Their baby would be super cute though. Honestly I get offended when people ask when I’m gonna get married and have kids. But people don’t realize that marriage and children isn’t for everyone. I know that I will never have the money for a kid. I hardly have money for me to live. So why would I have a kid and make them suffer. I’ll keep with my fur babies over a human baby.

I think you guys are a beautiful couple

You two are so fun.
I get asked this all the time. I'm not the skinniest person by any means. I'm single. I don't want a baby right now. And I am almost 40. That would be rough

I wish for the two of you the children you desire and the grace of great love and joy for those children and the blessings of God upon your family. And should it be that children are not God's plan for you, may He use you to succor your brothers and sisters who are without children and need to understand that God works in many ways. And God loves us, no matter whether or not we are blessed with children. May the blessings of Almighty God bring you great joy.

I believe that the question shouldn’t be asked. Especially for those women who can’t conceive, or the couples that have infertility issues, especially if one knows about them. And due to that, I believe the question shouldn’t be asked. They will tell you if they’re comfortable. And, did you know that some pregnant women actually tell a close friend, particularly female, before they tell the father of the child?

Worser than the question " Are you pregnant?" is the comment " Why are you not? Don't you know it is your duty as wife." - Years ago it happened to me. I was not able to get pregnant. So it hurts much. My question to you: In Islam has a woman who can't get pregnant less value? Is it reason for divorce?

people don't know what couples/women are going through, so them asking "when are you gonna have kids?" "are you gonna have another one?" "okay, that's enough kids!" like, it's none of their business! My sister would love to be a mom but they're struggling and have been for a few years...and it doesn't help that her 40-something sister in law who is already a grandmother and wasn't trying to get pregnant is now pregnant....it's really hard for her and people should respect that

I find it so rude and invasive when people ask if a person is pregnant or why they don’t have children or if they have all girls or all boys when they’re gonna have a boy/girl, I’ve got one of each Alhamdulillah and people are still like to me are u gonna have another and I’m like 🙄🤦‍♀️ if Allah blesses me with another Alhamdulillah if not then I’m not bothered 😕 x

I learned at an early age to ask a woman that question. I stupidly asked my friends mom if she was pregnant. I had totally forgotten that she had a hysterectomy about a year earlier. I only realized my mistake hours later.

I’ve also had friends struggle with fertility. It’s not a good idea to joke about pregnancy or to ask a woman if she’s pregnant or when she’s going to have a child.

You never know what someone is going through, someone might be struggling to conceive or may have miscarried...or may simply not want children....so I think it's perhaps better NOT to ask x

And here I am...haven't noticed a thing 😆

what if Mubina didn't want to have kids, or couldn't? That would be really awkward for you to have to explain so i'd suggest not asking. People have so much pressure to have kids, and kids are a massive commitment, so best to not pressure them by asking.

I hate that question

I think it’s incredibly rude to ask a couple if they’re expecting. You never know if/when they’ll have children. Many men and women have experienced fertility issues, miscarriages and still births. Or a couple may have decided children aren’t in their future etc. I personally feel it’s private between a husband and wife and they’ll share the news if and when they’re ready 😊💗