7 Signs A Super Empath Is Silently Destroying An Avoidant's Ego | Jordan Peterson

OMG! That was the best I've ever heard! Thank you!

woah. is there a hidden camera in my room?? I swear, you're narrating my life situation right now! It's like you're describing MY MOTION and position this very moment. I have restrain myself from reaching out my "avoidant", (it's been a week now). And yes, each day just gets easier and better (with your help). Yes! Can't Thank you enough, Jordan Peterson! I'd put a coin in your jukebox if I had the change... (it feels REAL REALL GOOD to FINALLY get back to my own world and getting work started). 💋➵ ➸ ➷♥💕♡♩

This is so powerful and I’m grateful for what happened because of all the years reflecting came down to this moment in my life. Everyone not just the avoidance gets my firm loving boundaries and that includes my narcissistic mother and family. All aspect of my life even me. Drawing boundaries to my negative self talk, worth, and value. It was all about me. I looked and reflected and finally see it all crystal clear. No more fog or confusion, just nirvana.

This is ASTOUNDING to me, a VERY emotional, open hearted person/empath/"Anxious Preoccupied". Been married to a Dismissive Avoidant for 40 YEARS. Just discovered recently about "attachment styles." This wasn't even MENTIONED back in the 70s/80s. I had NO IDEA of what I've been dealing with/suffering from all these decades out of my 61 years of life. Now the human "hurricane" that has shredded my life.....is explained. The deaths of 2 of my 5 offspring {my daughter @ 3wks old in my arms April 1985/my son @ 30 yrs old suddenly in my HOUSE cardiac arrest while sleeping April 2018} is the ONLY thing on planet Earth that hurts/destroys me MORE, than being married to a Dismissive Avoidant. I'm traumatized by my children dying. I grieve ALONE {why is that NOT a surprise?!}. I FEEL alone, though I'm married. Being married to one of these types is also traumatizing---it's like being in covenant with a CORPSE. A GHOST. Dead people WALKING. "Bait & Switch", false advertising---presenting themselves as ONE type of person--then later ON the phony lovely Halloween mask they wear that lured you IN is ripped off. Ugliness revealed. Feel as though you were DUPED/"PLAYED"/RIPPED OFF. Your entire life feels like a LIE. The foundation of your Family is based on something that was never REAL. Well into the marriage and children by the time it happened to me. In a FB group with OVER 30, 000 something people just like me--"Support for People with AVOIDANT PARTNERS" SMH. THOUSANDS of us hurting together in the group. Many people online BLAME US for picking these people, but many of us DIDN'T KNOW these people WERE Dismissive Avoidants because they didn't PRESENT themselves as that. Some of these people should win an Oscar for "Best Acting Performance." PRETENDED to be emotionally open/available/loving for a time. Until they STOPPED pretending. The loudmouthed disrespectful blamers need to ask this question: "What NORMAL, RATIONAL, SANE person would KNOWINGLY pick, marry, let alone make children with----someone whom makes them feel unloved, neglected as a way of living, abandoned emotionally/mentally if not physically, and everything else hurtful?!?!" 😡These people cause THE WHOLE FAMILY to suffer, mine has. ANGRY and FED UP with people saying "They don't MEAN to hurt other people."😡Cue the Violins. Drunk drivers don't MEAN to hurt people EITHER, but will crash and take innocent people OUT in a car wreck just the same!!😡 Intent does not MITIGATE nor NULLIFY the IMPACT/DAMAGE of these people's behaviors and how they treat people in relationships/marriage with them!! Reprobates/Covert Narcs to me, most REFUSE to change and REPENT of "NOT loving their neighbor." All we wanted was to LOVE and BE loved in return. The Creator imbues ALL of us with a CONSCIENCE, to know right from wrong. Just because people choose NOT to LISTEN to it, is NO EXCUSE. Like the justice system when it fails at times, appearing to feel sorry for the CRIMINAL instead of the person they VICTIMIZED. "They had a bad childhood, awww the Dismissive Avoidant." More Violins. AND?!?! 🤔😡MANY of us had a bad childhood {including ME}--but somehow WE don't just go about tormenting everyone else on Earth or in our lives BECAUSE of it. Should we all coddle, cater to, make excuses for and feel sorry for the child molester, or the serial killer TOO because THEY had a bad childhood ?!?! 🤔😡It's a DAILY CHOICE to be evil, uncaring, unloving and neglectful to other people PERIOD! Especially to your OWN FAMILY! Leaving behind a trail of HUMAN WRECKAGE! Waging psychological warfare on the REST of us that are NOT LIKE them! Illogical...a person whom DOESN'T want to RELATE, gets INTO a RELATIONSHIP. 🤨😑Mentally tormenting and depriving the person they are WITH of basic human NEEDS in a relationship. Crazymaking. Nowadays basic, normal needs/desires in a relationship /marriage such as wanting to be loved/FEEL loved and be emotionally CONNECTED to your spouse are labeled as "codependency" and you're pathological!!😡Twisted Psychology. People like me are NOT "codependent" "needy" "pathological", we are HUMAN and we LIVE like we are. Emotionally AVAILABLE, OPEN, LOVING, RESPONSIVE, INVESTED, AUTHENTIC and MORE. Our needs are just BASIC REQUIREMENTS in a RELATIONSHIP. If one has Dismissive Avoidant tendencies/Covert Narc, KNOW that you want to be ALONE more than WITH people, KNOW that you have ZERO INTEREST in/no WILLINGNESS in meeting the needs of others {which is a HUGE part of being MARRIED} and are emotionally DEAD then STAY OUT of other people's LIVES!! 😡Keep your inability/unwillingness to LOVE other people, RELATE to other people, incessant neglect/selfishness/self--absorption and emotional DEADNESS to YOURSELF. Go live ALONE in a cabin in the woods somewhere for the rest of your life! 😡 Enjoy the isolation, loneliness and lack of companionship that is inflicted upon the REST of us!😡 NO one has the RIGHT to TRASH another person's LIFE and MIND/MENTAL health!! 😡NO one has the RIGHT to enter another person's life under FALSE PRETENSES/MISREPRESENTATION!😡 THANKFUL for this Video❤, helps me get some SANITY back in 40 years. Takeaway for ME: give THEM what they've been giving YOU. Mirror INDEED. Turnabout!! Sometimes people NEVER learn until it happens to THEM/DONE to them.

I'm trying really hard to do this. But when it sucks as the empath I am also anxious attachment.

Dr. Jordan Peterson a huge life feeling gratitude for your professionalism & knowledge. You are spot on & etiquette in your delivery. A heart felt of a lifelong journey as being an empath & finally seeing clarity from so many of your messages. I'm finally @ the age of 66 choosing myself exactly how you explained. Thank you are enough words to convey my hearts gratitude for you.
Blessings to you always.
Love to you as a human receiving such great knowledge to finally understand what I've been doing all my life.
Again, bless you ❣️

Amazing

Thank you!!

Amen

This is soooo 100% AI. 😝 Amazing how these channels devoted to hundreds of lectures by a single speaker (Jordan Peterson OR Matthew Hussey, OR who knows who else!)… hundreds of talks all focused on the anxious-avoidant dynamic(??) all popped up within the last month or two…

Cool channel! I am happy I found it.

Appreciate you my guy thank you I needed that 💯

Thank you 😊

Thank you again ❤❤❤

Avoidant is the new narcissist

Thank you.

Thank you ❤

Excellent explanation, thank you

In the withdrawl process right now. My heart aches but it's the only thing that will bring some clarity regarding our friendship. It's been a slice. I'm done and I'm not looking back.

Super empaths can be avoidants themselves ,so what are we talking about?

Right on point. Journey back to self begins here! Thank you, Jordan!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

Thank you 🙏

Fantastic, very educational. Wish I had known the behavior aspects sooner, lot less hurt and confusion for me. but I am a warrior and in tact.

Omg this!! This is what I have felt and the exact circumstances the past year for me. Thank you so much! 😢❤ thank you 😊

This may be the single best discussion on avoidants I've ever heard. And I have heard many. Obviously it's not everything to know but this is the single most educational condensed 30 min. avoidant discussion I've ever heard. Thank You Mr. Peterson.