Everything I Know About Love – After 18 Years With David

As someone who's in a long-term (symbiotic) relationship, I think what is also really important is to learn to apologize (and, I mean, in a sincere way). We can all be mean sometimes (on purpose or not), but willingness to hear another person's feelings, needs and thoughts is a huge one. Honestly, I even think that not being heard is one of the main reasons people break up.

I think the question I have-- as someone who knows this as a 35 year old- as a woman, how will you get on if david passes?

I love that you share this, I have a solid relationship were we are both independent and all but I think it's very interesting to have these debates with no judgment. I understand the point that if you feel like it's healthy and it works for you, why should you follow what a psychologist says and that makes a lot of sense.
I think to be honest, the type of relationship you have that used to be more conventional in the past is good if it works for the individuals but I'd say in general is harder to establish as it's hard that 2 people that don't have too much emotional baggage or are really capable of dealing it together. However, I think with the increase in divorces and women's independent rights, women started wanting to have more independent relationships as in the past they use to have to "mother" their unaware partners, were made responsible for how the partner felt... Unfortunately, establishing a healthy dynamic in a relationship many times requires effort and time from both partners which is why this "independence" can help each other process their own traumas and whatever is there.
I think you 2 have a very special relationship and I think it's great if that works for someone else as well. However, for many of us that deal with strong fears or have seen unhealthy dynamics when growing up, I think this is where it's easy that the codependence becomes unhealthy.
Keep posting more about this content please
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I always appreciate your approach and thoughts, Jenny. 🥰

I do agree that respect, loyalty and trust have to be weaved into the foundation of a healthy relationship. I have always been a fiercely independent woman and that is starting to shift a bit since my significant other and I are soon to retire. It is a different feeling to be so commingled with finances and time BUT I’m not hating it. Actually, leaning into this new phase. 💛

The only thing I would add is that each individual needs to be open and supportive to the other’s mental and spiritual growth. That can look different for each person and through the years/decades of a long-term relationship.

Truly grateful to witness the love and respect that you and David have for one another. Continued blessings. ✨⭐️💛🙏💛⭐️✨

Every couple is different. Only together for 8 years, with kids and we are definitely in the independent category. We have trips separately with our own friends, together as a couple only, and together as a family. We do argue but we're both fiery individuals and understand that. We talk out every arguement we have and have learnt that the most important thing is respect, loyalty and communication. I do have friends that are very codependent to one another and that's great too 😊 thank you for raising an interesting point about being mean when in a heated arguement, I'm guilty of that and will address that personally x

Even though we live drastically different lives I come back time after time because I feel like you, Jenny, are a kindred spirit. I have been with my husband for 15 years and I agree with everything you say, respect & trust are the essentials! Truly feeling like your partner is "in your corner" and you are both working for the good of the team is a beautiful thing. I have his back and I know he's got mine <3

Different life moment

I'm a 27 year old woman. From Texas 🤠 Howdy! I currently celibate, mostly due to my own issues with confidence and mental stability. I'd say I'm someone who is somewhat dependent but I definitely value alone time. Despite this, I found that I fell far too hard and far too quickly, then I'd be into someone even though there were obvious red flags. Because I needed external validation.

So I decided to figure out how to love myself before getting into a relationship. I believe in love still. All the things you said about respect and valuing honesty ring true for what I would want in a relationship as well.

I'm a long time fan. I definitely miss your vegan videos I can't watch anymore. But The Mustards are a couple I've long respected and admired. Thanks for the video! You're always glowing 💛

I think your type of relationship requires bottomless trust and loyalty. I personally get triggers when I see your type of relationship because I don't see how anyone is capable of trusting someone to your level. I need the mental back door that tells me : it is okay if the relationship ends, you are still safe and completely capable of thriving alone. I need an interdependant relationship where I am the base and foundation while my husband shares my life with me.

kids was the core reason why my last relationship of over 8 years fell apart. she's 3 years older than me and was ready to start a family. i'm like 90% sure i don't want kids but didn't know at the start

Thanks Jenny Mustard!

Realistically there life will go through changes as they go in time. Nothing stays the same. Why are they getting married? Just stay in longterm relationship

Oh you should actually challenged my belief on this topic, I'll think about it, thank you for sharing. Don't hesitate to expand on this in another video

You are probably the most endearing and inspiring couple I ever came across. Love your view of a romantic relationship. Thank you for this video!

Love you so much, guys!
That photo , about 4 min. with both if you in dark shades ❤
Much love and keep up!
Respect and trust-I absolutely agree, it’s the fundament of the relationship

RESPECT is key

respect playing an important role in a relationship. without that it's not gonna be a successful and long lasting one.

Best video you've ever made . love it ❤. (lol im single though 😅, but I love those complex, meaningful topics) Stay safe and happy you both 😊🫶

I needed this. Throwing the towel feels unbearable, but I'm in fact worth trust, respect and loyalty.

Same!! I‘m clingy and I‘m so happy that my boyfriend is clingy too!😅❤️❤️❤️🫶🏻

i wonder if it’s an age thing? my parents got together around the same age and you two, and i see a lot of similarities between your relationships! mine on the other hand is probably somewhere between the two examples!

Beautifully said. I enjoy your videos. Thank you for being candid and sharing your thoughts and experiences.

Prerequisites … glue for relationships in my humble opinion. Married and still in love after 23 years. I agree with all you stated 100% , so does my husband. We watched this together as well.

Yes, yes, yes.

Yes yes yes! Love your relationship and your views on it, I agree so much. My last relationship fell apart because of neglect and abandonment. I got disabled and he withdrew from me, I got almost no support from him and it felt like I needed to be the one to support him, because he couldn't cope with it. It brought more negative feelings than positive, so I put my health first and ended it. Now I'm dating a guy with the same disablitiy as me and it's so fullfiling, loving, respectful and supportive!

This video makes me feel more normal. I am the same with my husband. And before him, I only had relationships where my partner wasn’t like this and I always felt like sth was missing.
Everything is normal, as long as both people are ok with it and want it

You are so right about respect, deep respect for what the other person is as a person.

Love this, as an deeply dependent woman myself ❤️. I have been married for 22 years, and still feel this way. Happy.

Beautifully said. We chose to grow together and it is lovely.

This video is so interesting ! Food for thoughts in fact...😮🙏👍

I love your view on relationships and i agree 100% ❤ i'm definitely more on the indipendent part of the spectrum but this video made me understand a couple of friends i know who have a symbiotic relationship that i never really understood until this video 😂 so thank you 😊😊

I love my husband more than any other human on the planet, but do enjoy my independence. I think it’s different for everyone but growing up with a lot of dysfunction, codependence and trauma, I learned early that my happiness is an inside job. So while I choose to walk through life together and am grateful for our love, respect and trust, my greatest love of my life is myself - and that is what I depend on most.

Jenny, David, you guys are like a real-life Gomez and Morticia. The ultimate couple goals. 🥰

Girl, you made me cry…. You and David are a dream… congrats for finding your soulmate

You are blessed to be in this type of relationship.

I also had my David and then I was stupid enough to let him go. So now I ended in unhealthy relationship trying to get out of it

The part that makes people think codependent relationship is wrong is I believe that if you end up breaking up that relationship, it will be much harder to get back on your feet again. It will be much harder to find yourself again, so not everyone is willing to risk it. It's my guess of course, can't speak for everyone. Thank you for sharing!

I may be young but I observe relationships in my family and for me the key to good relationship is that to choose that person everyday. Me and my boyfriend are just happy to be together everyday. It's that we want each other in our lifes. We talk a lot about everuyhing. It isn't that we don't have fights but we have learnt to overcome them. We know how to apologise and do that a lot.

I couldn’t think of a worse existence for me than being tied to my husband 24/7 but I really see the beauty in the relationships that work perfectly this way. To each, their own!

I have to say I agree with your friends’ type of relationship. Independence is important, even if you complement each other.

Wow, this video is so beautiful and heartfelt!💛 Thank you for sharing such an intimate and meaningful part of your life with us 😊

I am not in a relationship precisely because I have not been able or lucky enough to find one with the qualities that you and David share. That is my dream. I won't settle. Being alone is the better alternative. I am happy in my life, and also able to leave room for any good luck that might come my way.

I experienced both kinds of relationships. It can work either way. It just depends on the people.

My relationships usually ended because either I felt violated and then un attracted to that person or they loved the idea of me but not the real weird me haha. I think there are so many ways to have a healthy relationship with another (or more for poly and open people) but communication seems to be the best way to keep it. Love all the cute photos of Jenny and David!!

Hopefully you dont fly away with your dumbo ears😂😂😂

My husband and I have been married 22 years in a few months and we have the symbiotic relationship like you and David. It just works for us. Great video, you hit the nail on the head!

Love love love your relationship style. ❤❤❤❤ I admire you for admitting how deeply dependant you are in your partner. And he is dependent on you as well. I completely understand you 🫶 my relationship with my partner is the loving Close knitted type too ❤

Completely symbiotic grown together sharing one life becoming one entity. ❤❤❤❤❤ Love it Jenny. Thank you so much Sharing 🙏❤

I've never been able to fully form the thought that this kind of symbiotic relationship is my heart's desire... thank you x

I super want and love that type of relationship you guys have. However, I found happiness and peace having the independent relationship and intend on staying with my current partner. Idk what is right or wrong but I have found communication and conflict resolution matters much more than the shape your love takes.

Me and an ex of mine were secure in our relationship enough that when we would go out and about, especially at a bar or nightclub space, we would find it flattering if the other was being flirted with because we knew that at the end of the night we’d be going home with one another. We were both secure in the relationship that we never got jealous. It was more of a compliment that like yeah, that’s my babe and he is a hottie and same with him he was proud to call me his so if he saw a guy flirting with me he would just give me a smile like that’s right, my girlfriend is very attractive and she’ll be going home with me tonight. So I guess that it just depends on what level of security and trust you have with each other in the relationship. But I agree that there is no wrong way of being in a relationship. Everyone is different and requires different levels of intimacy and security and closeness. Just my opinion. Thanks for your channel Jenny. You and David rock! 💜😎