My Ex Went Cold Again, What Can I Do? | Coach Alana Reveals The Secret

Good video!
This helped me out a good bit.
I ran into my ex after 6 months and she came back to my house and spent the night. Then we had a date a week or so later. I started to text her a bit after and noticed after a couple interactions that she was starting to go cold or not reach out to me. So i am not contacting her anymore been 2 or 3 weeks. This was a very informative video too and was short and to the point.

I work with my ex and wonder if i shall remain a kind colleague and professional or totally go cold. We parted ways 3 months ago and have contacted a few times in between. He blocked me on whatsapp a few weeks ago over a minor thing.. We are on break and will have to see each other in October. Any advise is appreciated

I’m experiencing this write now, and it’s horrible. I feel she does that because she has other distractions
We been broken up for only a month

Thanks for this

I can’t.... I am trying to get him back.. I don’t have time for myself...

Focus on you…love yourself more…

My ex and I broke up 6 months ago in May 2021. I made some mistakes immediately after the break up. Didn't give him enough space. Even wrote him a letter. He never responded. 3 months later in August I reached him again. We spoke. He said he read my letter but doesn't feel like he can stay in touch anymore and I hopes I understand. I did and I backed away. 3 months later we had a gaming event in my law school. A game he really liked, so I just texted him about him saying he'd have crushed it if he was playing it. To which he responded positively. He told me he had moved to a different city to work and we talked for a couple of hours and caught up on what we both had been upto from the past 6 months. He then began to say how lonely he had been in the new city and I put two and two together and realized he wanted to sext. I exited the convo on a high note thinking I needed some time to process. And we said goodnight. But that very weekend I caved and sexted. It was fun. It was nice to see I still had that effect on him. And that he was still physically attracted. We said goodnight. And then when I reached him the following week on a weekday to talk about a marvel movie, he never responded. Now he has ghosted me. It's possible the sexting brought up memories for him and he's probably confused about where I fit into his life. He doesn't want to shoot me down but doesn't want to talk rn either. So he's just stalling. Idk what to do anymore. This hot and cold behavior is really making me crazy. My friends keep saying not to bother with this guy anymore and just move on. But it's not what I want. It took me 6 months to get him talking to me again. And now he's cold again. Idk if I should nudge him a week or two later or just give altogether. He's actually pretty lonely in a new city, I wish I could've been there for him. But he refuses to let me back in. The moment we have a few positive interactions, he pulls back. I'm scared the next time we talk if he'd say he cannot keep in contact anymore. Or worse, not respond again.

Why are avoidant men like this? So confused and in a perpetual state of guilt and confusion. I don't think any woman would invest this much energy behind him, the way I did. I sometimes feel like he doesn't even deserve me. For the way he has put me through shit. Anyway any advice from someone who has been through something similar would be appreciated. Thanks.

Ps. Don't send me magic mantras or numbers of people who can cast a spell on my ex. I don't fucking care about that type of stuff. Thanks.

We are in a long distance relationship. I don’t know what to do

How long should you back off? I’ve already done no contact for 3 months. We got back into contact, hung out together, we also had sex. He told me how much he missed me and then the next day said “let’s ease back into this and see how it feels again instead of rushing”. I’m just confused. I stopped reaching out to him and now it’s been almost a month

Lol I’m so hurt and confused things were going well was literally planning A vacation and then boom she gone….

You have no idea how badly I needed to hear that right now. It hurts and is very confusing when your making progress and then crickets from their end. She reaches out for a reason, and she will reach out again one day. I have no doubt she’s confused, these are confusing times lol. But I trust what we had was special, and she’s starting to slowly see that, I think. I’m back in no contact appreciate the motivation to remain that way. For hopes of getting her back, but maybe also getting myself back in some ways. Thank you.

He then blames me for us not seeing one another. He gets insecure if I don’t reach out but then gets overwhelmed maybe? When I do reach out.

That's some great advice!

What if he is waiting for me to txt him. He said he wants to stay in touch. The last time he reached out and I missed the txt because I was out hiking at sunset and I did not reply for 4 hours and when I did I was in bed when I saw the txt. So I told him I just got home, had gone hiking and goodnight. He replied with "long night for you, and he finished a movie with his kids and goodnight". But after that I did not say anything and its been 2 weeks no word. He was texting me 1-2 times a week, being engaging and asking about me and sharing things at times. Did he get offended because of how I responded and it taking me 4 hours to reply back?