You’ve Wasted Years on UNAVAILABLE PEOPLE

This explains my many relationships with unavailable men, alcoholics, married, emotionally unavailable.

Are you following me around? I me know you're not but it sure sounds like it.😂

I feel like my life is cursed...this devilish woman came into my life (stepmother) and destroyed everything while the whole family watched (or even joined her) 💔🖕🏻

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Yup
I've chosen narcissistic women all my life.
I've been negative living my life.

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Story of my life unfortunately

Perhaps it would be good to make a video that helps us who are ready for a long-lasting relationship to recognize and meet the available and ready. And I mean marriage by long-lasting. Thanks for the video Anna. I work with a young woman who I believe is using physical relationships to fix her internal/emotional issues. While she is beautiful, I feel sorry for her. Life is tough.

I was married for 28 years to a man that just wasn't into me except for sex and that wasn't enough because he was a cheater and liar. Ironically several times it was with my friends. We separated several times, but I kept taking him back. We divorced after the final affair 16 yrs ago and now I'm 59 with no friends because I don't trust myself to make good friends. I haven't even attempted to date because I attract men like him.

Wow. You are denying how I manage to function. How I manage to have human relationships at all. Girl. Get off your high horse and realize we are not all like you.

I will never find family but I have that toxic family there somewhere. Not even they need me anymore.

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Can comfirm. Seems the truth sunk in a little more with each failed relationship. Now I've finally got it right with a wonderful guy who's a very present and functional partner. I'm still getting used to it. After a lifetime of bread crumbs it just feels weird. 😅

That is very true

In all my subconscious honesty i probably wanted these pple to protect myself from love as my subconscious thought love hurts, which is fake, ATTACHMENTS HURT, especially attachments to unsafe, unavailable, incompatible pple, SO I SUFFERED ANYWAY in my desperate attempt in staying away from love, even casual friendship with wrong person hurt me as it ain't love but wrong attachments that hurt & i had worse BPD ever. And NO, i never attach to anyone, everyone, i was also a sado masochist emotionally so attracted to pple who would hurt me. I had tons of men wanting date me but i got attracted to prob some of the worst to fulfill my need for emotional torture. But PROGRESS over perfection, needles to say i m NOW turning down anyone, everyone & take a one year hiatus from relationship to heal some more.

Si soy jajajaja 😢

Just ended connection with a limerent attachment Ive had for four years—yes, long distance and only online, and giving just enough attention every few months to keep the embers going. I feel completely deranged and clueless, but I hope its just the pain of the limerence coming out as I grow 🙆🏻‍♀️

Very true

I relate to this 1000%. Thank you for these very helpful videos

To say you've been through CPTSD etc you sure know how to trigger people with the heading!!!!! Why would you try to make people who already feel shit about themselves, feel even worse by telling them again you've sone something else wrong! Jeez there really isn't anyone worse than the converted!

Where is the whole video? 😢

Yip

Had a crush on a married boss for a few years. I was fine that he was unavailable

Sooooooo many unavailable people, just in general. Not that I dont avoid myself sometimes. damn this hurts. It keeps happening over and over and over

I get good and not so good now but it's better

Where/ how can I see this in it’s entirety?

I fell in love with someone with Asperger : problematic

Realized this too late…at 61

I'm so tired.. so fucking tired.

Damn I felt that.

my ex boyfriend was not only married but he lived 3000 miles away (he was in london, i am in vienna). this was the first guy i fell in love with in 6 years.

I feel like I was loved as a child as far as I remember and yet I end up in situations that at first feel magical and then the avoidance tendencies in them pop out after I'm sucked into the relationship. I don't allow devaluing so I end up having to block and remove myself from good humans but humans who are doing things that devalue and hurt me. I certainly don't seek these people out. I know I have anxious attachment but I do feel I was loved as a child.

Oh my, the epiphany one will have when one finds out they're gravitating towards the familiar; and the familiar is as toxic as the Chernobyl disaster 🙃🫠🤯

I do believe you have to make a conscious effort to make a real face to face effort to connect with people. You cannot passive. I am beginning notice when observing with partners that appear compatible and good guys.❤.

I stopped daydreaming about finding my person..I’m 53 and o think I’ll just be single and create a fulfilling life by myself

The truth is a white hot, blinding thing. But go there we must.

And you will date screamers and cussers bc it is normal to you. They arw are not responsible gentlemen 😢

I'm very clingy because I'm so lonely, so even a single compliment will make me fall hard for someone. I've been trying to work on that, and I have to constantly remind myself that they're just being nice.

I disagree my childhood was fine my young adult abusive relationships has caused something

This feeling that the healing is never ending is what annoying Me to No end these days! Seems like once I got a handle on it some other memory or emotion pops up that I can barely contain & process..

My biggest mistake is to fall in love my family or the idea of better family that they will treat me better.

💞I’m very grateful to you Anna. You are helping me to change my perspectives! 🥹💙

Can confirm.😞

It is never too late ...(from the optimistic point of view that is. Are we all promised promised a "rose garden"?? Perhaps if 'we' recognize that true acceptance of what each day brings us, that happiness, we should never attach our happiness by the adding of a loving companion contingency. I do not feel damaged but chosen and priviledged to be a wise, strong human that leads other's by my existence. Anyone that crosses my path are a piece of my journey needed to make my existence even more worthwhile. No time for sadness or emptiness. Time will pass along happier and more content if you love yourself. The rest will come. You are the beacon❤

I totally relate to this

Choosing a good partner is a conscious decision not following butterflies! Life has taught me lol... I'm still single but only because I learned to say no to unhealthy attachments. ❤

What if you were not neglected and you are still finding these people?

Damn no wonder every relationship has been with a demonic succubus siren vampire except 1 that i fucked up cuz i could not accept i was worthy of such a woman