Auntie’s Advice: Black Women Who Want to Be Married

Thank you

But Yah told us not to date other cultures but our own. I have had the other and it was worse than with a black man. No thank you. Keep hope alive black woman!

Who raised the majority of our black men and chose to have babies with these alpha men that are felony & a** whopper or say their not ready to a father & yet the woman still has the baby. You know that most of these black women needs therapy before the should have children or enter a relationship and that goes both ways.

Interesting perspective and some valid points. So how do you reconcile why you stopped coaching black women?

I gave you 5 minutes of my time. I almost cut the video off when you said you've been married, and clearly divorced, twice before meeting your "permanent" husband? Well, I personally don't have a problem waiting for God to send me a Man, so I don't have to get married multiple times. Then you added in the Black Men who don't want Black Women. I personally don't care and am not concerned, because I lack interest in Black Men who date interracially. I wish Black Women and Men alike, would get off the internet, trying to scare Black Women into, what, competing to have a Black Man? That's not how this works. I know that IF I get married, it will be to a Black Man who has been loyal to Black Women, and a Man who was already written in GOD'S BOOK, to marry me. There is no amount of Femininity Coaches or Statistics, that'll make me feel or believe, that getting married is the most important thing in life. It's not. It's not even in my top 5 goals in life. Yes, I am a Black Woman who would love to be married. But only because COMPANIONSHIP is Beautiful. Y'all be looking for marriages to complete you or fill voids. That's also not how this works.

Ma'am, you forgot to add that some of these BM who have been hurt by ONE or TWO Black Women, are some of the same BM ranting on social media about how much they hate us, and don't want to marry us. They shouldn't even be allowed to marry us. They should have those NON BLACK wives they desperately want. I love that for them!

There's so much cloudiness surrounding this topic. I hear that other Nationalities of Women have higher standards when choosing a mate and I've heard the opposite. I'm BLACK and a Woman, so I can only speak on what applies to my demographic.

While we're on the subject on other Nationalities teaching their Daughters to only date Rich Men, is ANY Nationality teaching their Daughters to only date Men with GOOD Character? A fear of the Lord in his heart? Men who respect all Human beings and has integrity? I have yet to see these teachings on a large scale. It's all about money. Rarely is about his character or characteristics.

The perpetuation of generational trauma must be the only reason black women are so adamant to blindly go after black men. (All these on a subconscious level) ....because it doesn't make any sense otherwise.

Rebecca, thank you for KEEPING IT REAL.
I took notes years ago ....and I got rid of "my list "and open myself to the possibility of condering other options and working on myself ...long story short... You are absolutely right.

THANK YOU FOR KEEPING IT REAL.

This wasn't a problem in the 60s and 70s. Black men have been socially engineered to hate their reflection and women...this needs a massive overhaul , without black relationships the black family no longer exists!

She's WRONG, black men are very highly wanted in the world.

Also those who are educated are not getting the jobs they deserve. So we are left without again.

Single mothers of all races for the last 4 generations have on an increasing basis, created this situation.

Raise a weak, emotional, unstable male, all you end up with is a super strong woman with male parts. 🤷‍♂️

Amen!

Great points! I think the thing to remember is that even though there may not be the highest quantity of eligible Black men in the US, there are SO many more OUTSIDE of the US. Boaz may not be in your zip code ✨🙏🏾💯❤️‍🩹✨

The average black women weigh 188lbs 😩

Thank you, Queen, for this great video.

Yes do match making for us!I'll change my type baby! Amen!

These women don’t want husbands… They want a retirement plan.

If youre light skinned or have pretty natural hair you may get a black guy lol and he may not necessarily be a good guy still

But actually no joke let me speak for me I need to stop being attracted to trash guys PERIOD 😢😢😢😢its was NEVER EVER a problem to date out of my race, I preferred it ❤😜😉

BUT it was always about not being attracted to unavailable untruthful narcissistic and immature unequally yoked men 😢 bc they seem to be literally all I ever got and was my issue

Are there even eligible black women for marriage? Lol! Zero accountability. Blaming everything on black men.

Truth❤❤❤

I have thought these same thoughts. Praying for a good trustworthy man who isn't narcissistic and I don't care what color he is, as long as he's not evil , narcissistic or lazy.!!!! Thank-you!!!!!!!! You look good in that hat!!!!!

I have never heard it explained about the black relationship expressed better. Thank you, I have been seeing black men beat up on the black women a lot lately. I love the expression leaning into your feminine. My guy is Europen. I want it all and I'm going to be with who treats me right and I can be feminine. If I'm with someone who takes away my laughter, I don't want to be there. I want love to giggle like Kamala Harris. They can call it my kackle

I love you. You sound like my mental twin

White women want to be married too! Lol

This is a dangerous message.

If a product isn't selling, the issue is either the product or the sales person. The problem is never the buyer. To sell a product, you must study the buyer and their needs.

With black women, if they are single, they never look at the mirror to find out why they are not selling. Instead, they blame the men who are not buying.

I totally agree 100%. I just asked someone recently not to refer to me as a strong black woman. It is not a compliment to me. We need to remove that because mentally you began to think you need to li e up to it even if it drives you crazy, then you angry. No no....not me. Ans how about we are the only culture that are critiqued from the tip of our heads to the bottom of our feet. And some of us jump on the bandwagon. Not good ladies. Stop letting men and society judge your character based on hair, make up, nails.

I’ve always been an equal opportunity dater. I never really dated Black American men(BAM) until later in life after I had been married and widowed. At 52 I finally dated a BAM. As it turned out I made a terrible mistake that caused me so much pain and fear! This guy had been married to 3 different women and each breakup was the wife’s fault according to him. In addition he turned out to be a liar and a cheater and he messes around with random men he finds on websites and here’s the kicker……he’s a convicted child you know what offender. He definitely validates the stereotypes about Black men. He was the worst heartbreak and disappointment in my life! I still hurt and pray everyday and all night for God to heal me from this fiasco that I went through. I want to have a good husband who truly loves me and he does not have to be Black. And most likely he won’t be Black cause I realize I don’t have the type of background or training in mental health therapy that it takes to deal with so many of these Black men out here.

Teach woman of God

Hi Mrs Pope, thank you very much for this video. I always preferred white men. My life experience has been tough, being born and raised in Paris, France, I went through a lot of rejections. After two years in therapy, I healed my trauma and now I am experiencing peace, contentment, love and appreciation for myself that I never thought would be possible. I now have a certainty that I am worthy and enough for a wonderful man that will love, treasure, cherish, protect me and take care of me. I am 55 years-old, I don't know when it is going to happen but I keep preparing myself to be able to receive him into my life. I watch your videos and Mr RC Blake's to mentor me and inspire me to have the right approach and attitude. You are a blessing in my life. Sabine.❤❤❤

Please consider making an updated video on this topic. Thank you for calling it all out. I need to work on myself. I want marriage but I know I need to make changes. Thank you again.

It's because of black women like her that successful black men are getting passports and jetting away

unfortunately the Hood dudes will never change unless the women stop accepting it. Why change what works. i told my daughters that im not choosing who they date but i do get to choose who you bring to my house and who they bring in my presence.

There are plenty most of them get passed over because they don’t have the look.

Most of what you said I agree with, yet there are plenty of white women that are doing more then half, men these days, black , white, or other are leaning more on there women then ever ask the women in Korea they are on strike, this is not a black thang this is a universal thing, we just feel it more because we have such a small pool to pick from.

How is you telling us about your amazing life helping us? And we are genetically programmed as to who we are attracted to, I’m not going to force myself to be with any other men then the ones God made me to love. So brag all you want, I’m sticking to black men.

Look, degrees are icing on the cake. They signal you are capable of learning and having a decent job. But it is not even close to the priority. Men care more about your feminine qualities and skills. Period. I'm a black woman who got married recently and to a non-black man (not that it matters). I know. Feminity (inner and outer) is what will get that life commitment from a quality man.

For someone who has dated many different races….Rebecca is capping!!!! Other races don’t love the way black men do. It’s interesting that RP is urging women to marry out but she didn’t. The old Dona’s I say but not as i do. This is terrible advice honestly!!!!! Think about this…. Have you ever heard a Latin, Indian, Asian or white woman tell their own race to date another race …..absolutely NEVER! I’m disappointed in you RP so toxic 🤦🏽‍♂️

You're All WRONG ....I am not SEEING How The MEN DECIDE BECAUSE BW BELIEVE YOU CONTROL THE PROCESS

Amen

Did you ever thought to mention the fact the those men like young fit childless women..

I’m a man. What will a woman’s college degree do to me? How will I benefit from it since she will never want to play the roll of providing for a man? If she’s making more money than the man, she will leave for a man that makes more. So you tell me, what can a man benefit from a woman’s useless degree?

EXCELLENT ADVICE!!! Very thoughtful, loving, and considerate advice!

Exactly 😢big facts but these be the times be not deceived

But you is strung independenze black womanz