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I get the second story. I really do. If one parent is doing all the planning all the time, and all the pictures all the time. They get forgotten. People expect the planning. They expect the pictures. And they don't remember that the person doing the planning and the memory capturing is also a person who should be planned for. Who should be photographed.
I had to explain this to my partner many many times. And it hurt each time to have to beg to be remembered. Cause it hurts to look through pictures and never find yourself. It's as if you weren't there. Even though you were the one who made it possible.

Like bro, I ain't got time to cheat. I'm busy balancing what little free time I have between my friends, and personal me time. What these jealous fools out here thinkin?

You guys got the mom story so wrong. That man isn't a good husband. He isn't a good father. Her own words have him not doing the bulk of the work, she is, he's showing up and having fun and forgetting her.

She's supposed to be his person. She's supposed to be the one that is his always.

He shouldn't need to be told. If you look at my family albums you'll see a pattern. Me and mom then me and dad because that's what you do. You don't need to ask because he's already reaching for the camera while you two pose.

Stop playing defense for partners that don't deserve it.

There’s one simple solution for the second story. PUT THE CAMERA ON A TIMER! That’s the whole reason they invented the timed photos! So everyone can be included!

Can I say the IG thing where it shows you what your friends liked has gotten me SO many awkward convos about the dumb (embarrassing, not problematic) shit I liked

damn, sorry for where i'm looking but wasn't Chances' fly open?

With the photography story, I wonder if it would help to start changing expectations around photos in baby steps. Have a separate camera (not a phone) for events and outings and physically hand it to him at the start. Take turns being the designated photographer. Get him used to the idea and practice in smaller situations before the big ones. It sounds like he is set in a rhythm and it may take some up front work to break him out of it and reset expectations, which is a bummer that he doesn't think to already, but it's apparent that reminding him after the fact isn't working.

I’ve never thought about how invisible moms can be in photos and memories, and the emotional burden it creates. Of course, that might be because my mom hates seeing pictures of herself. Once, when I was in elementary school, I drew a picture of her based off of a photo (I was just starting to learn how to draw faces accurately and I still love drawing
portraits as an adult). She told me I did a great job, but her initial reaction was shock, like she was scared to look at it. She’s probably just insecure about aging. But still, that illustrates how little my mom likes being perceived. Don’t worry: I, my siblings, my dad, etc. still take photos of her anyway, we just don’t make her look at them.

Oh my god the one response to the “Bubby” story was so incredibly accurate. I’m from Virginia (which is kind of the south depending on which part you live in) and my parents called me “Bubba” as a kid and my sister was “Sissy”. Even now with my nieces and nephews my mom calls my nephew “Bubby” and both nieces “Sissy”.

Even in the movie Urban Cowboy the two main characters are Bud (Bub adjacent) and Sissy. It’s that common.

Nickname story - I’m a senior in high school. There’s a kid at my school who’s also a senior in high school and is almost always called Bubs by everyone. Hearing him called by his real name is weird. Nicknames don’t have to be a big deal.

My sister calls me so many nicknames, we’re 17 and 21, Nicknames are silly and fun

AITAH for being jealous of Arasha make up and outfit?

5th story, the nickname is something i'd expect a grandmother to say, so calling it inappropriate is so weird on the wife's part.

Arasha and shayne look like such good friends

I fucking love Chanse dropping the Star Wars line because that’s what i was waiting for during that story

your responses to the second story is so frustrating. you guys are missing the point.

I call my 24 year old brother “bubby” I never thought about it being weird that’s literally his name in my phone I never thought of it as a nickname just another name to call him. Very weird when a Reddit story is similar to your everyday life.

Okay I think this is my favorite duo to have on this segment!! Please have them on again haha

Re the catfishing girlfriend, sadly her trust issues will likely spiral when the boyfriend breaks up with her, she will likely convince herself she was right all along

autistic person here. OP sounds autistic. OP is feeling a certain way about a situation and trying to make sense of that situation. She hasnt done anything wrong. There is a lot of misunderstanding between autistic and neurotypicals - neurotypicals dont understand autistic people and autistic people dont understand neurotypicals.

As she was leaving 😃

I was going to make the Sith joke but Chanse beat me to it and now I’m jealous of all the laughs he’ll get instead

I feel like everyone feels something to some extent, even in its smallest measure 🤷 if it's not a current reference, then a feeling that people have had previously, and that's why people can reference and understand what that feeling is. I wouldn't be able to talk about something or have an opinion about jealousy, if I haven't had that feeling before, it just wouldn't be valid imo. Talking about something but not know about that feeling, imo 🫠

the girl who was "jealous" about the child comment, probably had other issues with her parents from time to time, feeling like they aren't proud of her, and it brought up those feelings. that's not all on her. but, if she's on the autism spectrum, she took the words literally and yeah, felt a little hurt. imagine how you would feel if you parents said to your face, "hey you were an ugly child." you'd be like ouch, did you have to tell me that? so she's just taking it very literally, when it may not be literally true. and possibly also mixing this in with other family baggage, of feeling not valued by her parents. which could very well be true, even if the parents were not intentionally insulting her. undiagnosed people often seem like a disappointment because they're not living up to their "potential" or seem like they miss "easy" things. it's often harder for them to make friends and fit in. and this can all hurt self esteem and sometimes cause them to be looked down on. so the op could be completely right about her parents looking down on her, but not necessarily in the way she thought.

As a veterinary tech, I used to say to the patients "You are most handsome/beautiful cat/dog that is a specific breed/color/etc I have seen today/week. No the owners weren't there. I just didn't want to hurt my own pets feelings!

im crying at shayne being so supportive of courtney liking spencer thirst traps 😭

I read some of the comments before getting to the second video and I gotta say, I agree more with Shayne than the comments.
Yes, it is so important that your partner is caring for you and adjusting their behavior when it upsets you. But I also clearly see the martyrdom than Shayne caught too. It sounds like she’s talked to her husband previously but a reminder the day of could have helped (not that it was her fault or anything).

Arasha looks like she's running for president in this video and she's got my vote

Gosh, my phone is basically used as a camera that also happens to be a tiny computer and lowest priority are the phone functions. 🤣

For the second story, I totally get how the mom feels. I think they were missing the point. You want your partner to want photos of you and your child! You don’t want to have to ask. It’s not like the dad is asking, and yet he gets to enjoy the photos of special memories. You want to be seen by your partner. If you tell your partner something is important to you, you want them to value it, too. An easy solution from the dad’s perspective is to try to incorporate the habit immediately. It’s so nice to have childhood photos of daily life, too. Dad could practice taking a cute photo of mom and kid at breakfast or other mundane but important moments. Listen and then act!

The lady with the problem with the photos. She sounds immature in the way of marriage. My ex was the same way. And I felt the same way and learned that guys' brains don't work the way women's do. You have to bite the bullet and just ask and communicate her feelings. Her husband can't read her mind. It's not a conscious act and should not be taken personally.

and today i quote the infamous : JEALOUSY IS A DISEASE🎀

I’m 22 and I call my brother bubba. I don’t remember the start of it exactly because it started before I was 5. I’ll always call him that.

I'm sorry but the picture thing is immature. Ask others besides the husband. I'm a single mom and I have thousands of pictures with my kid. Selfies together, professional ones, I ask my friends, I ask family, I ask staff at play places or random strangers in the spaces we find ourselves in. I get the frustration but communicate expectations before and during. Shouldn't "have to" ask but its busy spaces where people are living in the moment, lots of people don't think of it in chaos. Put it on the event page: "Hey can everyone during the party to be mindful and find a moment to take pictures of me and my kid because I will be busy, please help". For her to say, she has "no photos" with her kid in 5 years is a choice.

Loved hearing Tommy’s laugh in this vid

no 420 episode :(

No jealousy BUT arasha is SO BEAUTIFUL

Had to stop calling my Younger Brother ‘Biggy Boy’ 😢 I miss the silly name but I get it as an adult 😅

Arasha’s makeup this ep suits her so well!!!! She always looks lovely but this lip combo is stunning!!!

In regards to the second story I'll never understand why people put themselves in these situations; like just speak up in the moment why are you pouting like a child until after the event. The only person you hurt is yourself and your kids when you do this compared to just actually doing something and hurting no one, like the birthday party just go to your husband and ask their not going to be bothered and if they are thats a whole different problem. I just don't understand how people put themselves in these scenarios where they really don't have any to blame but themselves, yea it's nice if your partner never forgets anything and is always able to not get lost in the moment but sometimes you have to step up for yourself and not let things pass you bye.

Nobody seems to be mentioning the real issue of the 3rd story. This has nothing to do with husbands or easter baskets... clearly your sister has a problem with taylor swift.

Shayne's thinking it's funny with downvotes lol. That's just reddit. They'll downvote every comment an OP makes.

The story anout the sisters, ESH. Saying she picked bad is victom blaming.

I kind of feel bad for the person who was jealous of the flower girl. Because i always hated how my parents would come to me and boast how other people are doing great or what they accomplished but then wouldn't acknowledge my own. I agree its not healthy though

My brothers sister calls him Bubba. It's not weird to call siblings nicknames especially if they grew up with those nicknames being used. It might be a little weird if the nickname was brand new and came out of nowhere.

I need 2 more hours of this 😭