Understanding Trauma-Based Addictions: Why It’s Not About Willpower

Thanks for this.

Thanks for this episode.

Oh my goodness this really helps to see the full picture of the healing process for me. Thank you so very much 🙏

Its not that what you are saying doesn't have validity but its just thars its an overwhelming amount of symptoms and it's not therapeutic and I daresay its almost agressive.

This is very helpful thank you

Thank you 🙏

This week in therapy I learned that I'm an intellectualizer. I use my intellect to rationalize my feelings instead of feeling them. My father was an alcoholic and my mother left when I was 2 and I didn't see her till I was 21 at my father's funeral. Somewhere along the way I used intellectualization as a defense mechanism. I'm 41 now and have had 4 serious relationships. One in high school from 18-20 I caught her at the movies with another guy. The other 3 relationships were with single mother's and they all cheated as well. I'm not wanting another relationship till I work on my attachment issue and learn to not ignore the red flags when I see them. I've never been married or had kids and I always wanted both.

You nailed it. Childhood trauma, high demand religion, general counsel for a big company. Plenty of stress, structure, and distractions.

I found Pink Floyd and Robin Trower + × food, drugs and xxx. Repent for the Kingdom of the heavens has drawn near. Matthew 4:17.🥴

I keep running from my final breath, don't know when that will be, and after I take my final breath 🫁 it won't matter who tells me. 🤔 A song lyric. Someone probably already wrote it ?

Damned if you do it's not good enough. Damned if you don't you bum.

You just described my entire life. I am currently facing a terrifying divorce from a loveless marriage that I have clung to for most of my life. The pain is so bad I have considered suicide. I will continue to watch your videos to help relieve me from the guilt and shame that I have done this painful life to myself.

You are amazing! This content is profound and very clear.
I have watched a million of videos on these matters. Your videos hit differently.

Thank you Tim ✌❤

Hey, so I realise that this is an observation, but is it necessarily a bad thing if a person does this? Or do you just want to make people more aware of themselves?

I agree completely with you. In the "heat of the moment" of trauma, one had to act quickly to defend or at least make the trauma bearable. I agree that these coping defenses worked in the short term; they quickly became the go-to. My question is, how does one transcend and develop a better coping mechanism. Survivors are older, especially adult survivors of child trauma. What is the motivator to want to change? I'm an old man now, and I have been trying to figure this out and develop better, more effective coping defenses. Yet, when a situation occurs that is similar to past traumas, others and I forget the new skills and reflexively go to the tried and true to survive. I really would like to figure this out. Thank you for the great and thought-provoking vids you produce.

This series is amazing, thank you so much for doing it for us.
I can see loads of points that are def me. Still getting my head round it all and it’s a bit scary but it helps to know why. ❤

TY❤

" Well, Welcome to another Friday night " become my favorite line my ears want to hear. Much love and respect for your work Mr Tim 🙏 !

Ugh... I don't WANT to attach to people though, those I have access to are not healthy, they have and WILL continue to hurt me. I thought I had, totally believed it actually, then after 20+ year's I learned that I married the same sick kind of man as my abusers. Given the state of our society today I don't really think that there are any men who are not today. The adult men who abused me as a kid, did so using corn of very young women, in comparison to themselves. As it turned out my husband has been doing the same, granted he hasn't progressed to physically assaulting anyone yet. But then it all leads to the same place. Older men who allow themselves to engage in fantasies of girls who should be children to them, sicken me to no end. Instead of feeling the need to protect them they dream of assaulting them sexually. Working on letting go now.

Thank you! 🇸🇪

The realization and heart break of recognizing how many of these hit home 😢 weeps 😢😢

This podcast has had the most impact on me as they look back 62 years ago to my childhood.
It has also helped me understand that 40 years of marriage where I suffered narcissistic abuse. I’m finally free from the marriage and now asking God to continue to help me see how my mind was shaped and point me towards healing.

Just a heads up these slides are way too short to read.

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What is your view on BDSM, kink and fetish lifestyle and CPTSD? I wonder how many survivors like myself who are or have been in this lifestyle. I have looked into it but found it very activating for me on many levels. Are there any studies on this. Thank you?

Just in time for mother's Day!!!!!!!!!!😂

Watching this while stimming to my maladaptive fantasies 😊

Oh my goodness!😮. How can we differentiate between symptoms of complex trauma and autism traits? The signs are so similar.

at eight years old, my parents are divorcing and having an argument. That specific event created this thought in me, "these idiots are incapable of caring for me, and my little brother. Its up to me".

My entire life described accurately. I'm starting to heal now after 57 years of complex trauma. I'm no longer addicted to drugs, alcohol, porn, shopping, debting but can still do the fantasy but I'm aware of it. I still skin pick, disassociate, have a scrolling addiction to escape the normal life things, even good things because I need a break to cope. I'm a year out of a horrific abusive marriage with a malignant narcissist. My childhood was just every abuse known and I was never safe. I'm looking forward to being set free from complex trauma. I do have healthy people in my life now and learning how to attach properly. I'm healing from people pleasing, being afraid all the time of everything and everyone. I'm a Christian and it's Jesus is healing me. Otherwise, I wouldn't have a chance. Love you Tim, you are just amazing and what a gift to us all ❤

THE WHITE WALLS, THE PLANTS 🤪

I wonder if Tim knows about parental alienation and the devastating impacts on both the parent and child?

Tim, may God bless you 😢you understand and you care so much. Thank you ❤❤❤

You are right on so many things

Thank you for providing this information and educating us ❤

Love you, Tim! Thank you for being a pseudo-father for us men. To mentor and initiate us into what healthy, safe and loving relationships are. ❤

The human needs the Messiah in Heaven, nothing satisfies like the love of Yahweah and the growing love for the Messiah Yahushua. ❤❤❤❤

Holly Crap! Now I know why when I get triggered and angry I use weed to calm myself down.

Would emotional divorce be part of it?

We live in such a hurt world.
The section on negative and critcal and using them as a weapon made me think this. I am an observer and it made me go. 🤔 cptsd is such a rabbit hole to go down. It takes time. 🙏

I'm doing schema therapy. How useful is it? I feel that it's working.